Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Is it hard to be single when your middle aged?

Hi, I´m 28 and love being single and would like to live my life as just a gigolo. But i find that the group of single women my age is already thinning out there among the single and i am more and more just increasing the age gap between me and the women i date every year. I usually meet women in the typical places that include alcohol. But what do you do when you get a bit old for a lot of the typical places? internet dating? Can you actually meet normal wonderful women at any age that are also just happy being single and just enjoy dating and being single. Are there any older gigolo´s out there who can tell me if there loving it or if it just gets harder and lonelier?

Is it hard to be single when your middle aged?
Well, there is nothing wrong with your life choice, but I would like to say I really hope that you have been, and always will be honest about what you are really after when you are dating these women.
Reply:28 is not middle aged.
Reply:It will get harder and lonlier because you are reaching an age where most couples are happily married. Yes the net has all kinds of single dating. You just have the right one for you. You can fill out a profile for the internet on a singles website and there are categories you can put yourslef in, for example, Just interested in s@x and casual dating. You would be surprised how you can meet people that way. Try lavalife. Take care
Reply:I am 26, and I love being single, woulnd't have it any other way. But, I am not easy. So, I guess it just depends on what your looking for. Easy girls usually aren't hard to find.
Reply:It is easy to be single when you are middle aged,What is more difficult is getting and staying hard
Reply:Firstly a Gigolo is usually a young man who is paid to have sex with an older woman - basically the Gigolo is prostituting himself and personally younger women are not usually interested in Gigolo's, they often don't need to pay any one for sex.





I guess as you get older so will the women who are prepared to pay you for sex - Happy Geriatric Dating.

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What's so great about being single ?

If you're single, and you don't like alcohol, bars, casual sex, or drugs, what else is left ? Being single is the WORST ! The single life is cruel . A single person has to like living without women, and I HATE not having a girlfriend ! I don't have what it takes to be single . Being single is a curse .

What's so great about being single ?
When you're single, at least you're not surprised when you find out you have an std.
Reply:You're miserable because you choose to be. There's no reason for single life to be horrid, but all you are doing is focusing on what you don't have, instead of what you do.





Your life is what you make it, single or not...you can choose to be happy and enjoy life, have friends, do fun things, or you can choose to boo-hoo because you don't have a significant other to entertain you and give your life 'meaning'.





I'd rather be happy no matter what my relationship status is...a happy single person sure makes a LOT better gf or bf than a miserable, lonely one does.
Reply:being single rules, that is, if you have any actual hobbies
Reply:I know it sucks. I hate it too but being single gives u time to get some thinking done and get to know yourself better. What sucks for me though is everybody around me seems to be in a relationship and want to tell me about their love life sometimes I feel like they're doing it to remind me that I'm single and are trying to rub it in.
Reply:I love being single!


No one to argue with. No one to compromise with. I have options when it comes to dating. My money is mine to spend. No one complains if I don't take the trash out or if I wear my shoes in the house. No nagging. I can eat a meat sandwich or order pizza 15 nights in a row if I want to. No chick flicks.





Lots of people love me, I have family and a lot of friends. I'm not missing out.
Reply:I agree dude.
Reply:What else is left? looking for that other girlfriend of course. Best of luck mate!
Reply:Personally, I agree. I hate being single! It's no fun!





Although, I do have friends who are very career oriented and keep busy with other responsibilities... so, they don't really focus on having a b/f or g/f.





I also have friends who like to party and have casual flings...They are afraid of commitment and don't want to be tied down.





I guess it just depends on the person and how they live there life.





Afterall, it is what you make of it!
Reply:Sorry to hear! Before you can be a good partner in a relationship, you need to learn to be ok with yourself. Learn to love yourself. Without knowing yourself and be ok with yourself, you'd just spin your life around your significant other... which you will likely regret later on in life and probably have a horrific mid-life crisis.





Bottom line - be ok with yourself. Learn to live by yourself first.


Is he single or taken?

First he says he can't believe he going on 30 years old and still single.


Then another time he says he a single guy in his 20's.


Then three weeks ago,he passed around a picture of,what people say is his girlfriend,and ask him how come he never talks about her,is he single or taken?

Is he single or taken?
He shouldn't be playing that kind of bull....sounds like a immature guy... not even worth a single thought
Reply:It could be he feels sorry for himself and whats other people to feel sorry for him. Or he could be living in denile about living single. And this is where the picture of the girl comes into play.
Reply:I wouldn't even waste time trying to figure it out. He isn't worth it.
Reply:Obviosuly he has a girlfriend...and obviously you have poor judgment if you have to ask this question.
Reply:Just move on. He is a player. I wouldn't even waste my time
Reply:He has to many issues and whatever he is don't get involved.He may have a girl and just tried to lie to you or he may not have one and was just trying to make you jealous. Who really knows. Just ask him though. Its the easiest way honestly. If he lies he is not worth it and if he says he has one he clearly isn't worth it. Watch his actions.


Is he single or taken?

First he says he can't believe he going on 30 years old and still single.


Then another time he says he a single guy in his 20's.


Then three weeks ago,he passed around a picture of,what people say is his girlfriend,and ask him how come he never talks about her,is he single or taken?

Is he single or taken?
iM thinkin taken but it dont matter to cheaters until they learn the hardway


Where do single people over 50 go to meet other singles in Exeter?

I am moving to Exeter in the near future and want to know where thinking single people go to socialise and to meet other singles.

Where do single people over 50 go to meet other singles in Exeter?
old folks homes

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I'm a single women of 50 where do I meet single guys? other then the bar scene. and the internet?

I'm a single women of 50. and a very young looking 50 I might add. where do I go to meet single men other then the bars and the internet. I work alot so I don't always have the time to go anywhere to meet people. I thought of singles dances but I'm not sure where to find them in my area. any advice.. thank you all in advance.. have a great day. : -)

I'm a single women of 50 where do I meet single guys? other then the bar scene. and the internet?
To Desperate loser....you are a loser.





To answer the question:


Here are some suggestions:


1. Any kind of night course


2. Book club


3. Belonging to a political party, lots of men there.


4. Some sort of sport group such as hiking, power walking.


5. Volunteer work


6. There are single`s associations also, or associations for people living alone.


Good luck
Reply:take it or leave it, at all ages ---- try church
Reply:Old folks' home.
Reply:Good luck here are some good places





http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...


Are you single?

Salam,


What does ISLAM says about being single?


Is it allowed for a MUSLIM to be single forever, or is it not permisable for a MUSLIM to be single forever?











Thanks for your kind response :)

Are you single?
Getting married is a Sunnah.


Marriage does not become obligatory simply by maturity but rules pertaining to it differ from one person to another. It is Sunnah (likable) for a person who does not fear Zina (adultery %26amp; fornication), but it is compulsory for one who fears committing Zina because one could avoid these Haram acts by marriage.





The Prophet Muhammad (Blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) : "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty. And whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes one's sexual power".





Rest Allah knows the best~!
Reply:whenever he or she feels that she is not able to get the hold of his or her feelings, fast. try to be in wadu. you then get scared of thinking of something unlawful. :) Report It

Reply:I am single and happy...





It is not a must to get married in any religion, it's all upto our wish.





Better stay un married, what say!





Cheers!
Reply:i think its permissable in islam to be single, if you don't find anyone your compatible with. i'm only a teenager, but i don't plan on getting married at all, because i feel there are more important things in life.
Reply:why would u like to be unmarried?


it's going against the nature


u should share ur life with somebody


and yes i'm single , not cuz i want that , but cuz i'm still young
Reply:You look hot in that pic! I didn't read your question.
Reply:who cares if i am
Reply:being single is allowed in islam but it prefers to marry .marriage is half of this religion
Reply:I am married Allahumdulillah. Marriage is sunnah but there is no right or wrong age to get married, if you are unable to find a spouse, then that's not really your fault, things like this are in Allah's hands, not ours.
Reply:I am happily married..
Reply:I am happily married. From looking at your picture, I'm surprised you aren't married.
Reply:Me to0 single.


Thumbs up to Nada.





Surely marriage should be considered as the least important thing in a Muslims life.


Our Ummah is in danger,its not the right time for us to say things like"marriage is half religion" .The prophet never said "u MUST marry".Then y people think its a must thing to do?I think its just they cant control their hunger for sex, so they come up wid some hadith and try to prove that marriage is very important, lol.Anyways..





We muslims should concentrate more on Palestine/iraq/afganistan instead of wasting our lives after some female.


Thats pathetic.
Reply:no





don't know


not sure





you're welcome
Reply:i am not


it is better to married
Reply:Yes, I am still a young teen.





Although marriage is generally considered a highly recommended act, yet from the point of view of fiqh —because of diverse circumstances—it can readily fall into one of the four categories listed below: Fard (obligatory) or mustahabb (recommended) or haram (forbidden) or simply halal (permitted).





Go on this site, it will answer your question:


http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satel...
Reply:You know, you should really stop giving your answerers thumbs down. If you are going to ask a question why give them all thumbs down? Chi chi HARAAM HARAAM. -cough- loser.
Reply:ya, i ll be triple soon
Reply:I'm not even 17, so I have a reason to be single lolzz.


No, marriage is a Sunnah and every Muslim must try to marry someone if given the chance.


There is a Hadeeth saying that once you are married, half of your Iman is protected.


A guy once asked a scholar: Which should I choose? Total devotion to God, or marriage? The scholar said: Both.





Without marriage, mankind would fail.


29 and single?

i'm 29 and single, in the environment i am right now people keep asking why still single, hurry up, u need to find the right guy..., does this happen to u ( other 29, single females) too or its the environment i am in?

29 and single?
Well hun, I am 22 and single and Its freaking me out. My issue is Im in the military, and these young men and women are far away from home, and want a family and get married. Since the young women and men have this in common, everyone is married! Im single, Im 22, im pretty attractive, smart responsible, but I dont want to rush. When I am 29, you know what? I hope I am where I need to be so that the one I am meant to be with, is going to be with me. Dont rush. Why get married at 24 and learn the guy is an irresponsible, loser who has dreams and not goals and end up learning he is not the one after all, then when you are 29, 30 ish and know what to expect from a man. This is what I am going through, but I will not settle with someone who doesnt LOVE me so much and I dont feel secure with. Honey wait, and realize you are blessed and beautful!
Reply:sad





For all the single ones out there looking for romance:


http://www.*******************/
Reply:Join the club. It's even worse if were a city girl who moved to the country 29 y.o and still single, everyone has their own click, and I've been living in the country for 7 years now.....
Reply:i work with a lady who is ten years on you and gets the same treatment ( hurry up , you'll miss the boat etc. )


she is perfectly happy in her environment and doesn't need to be hassled -- fate has it that there is someone for everyone , it's just a question when that event will take place .


hang in there and don't be 'bullied ' good luck.
Reply:I don't think age should play a role in if we are single or not. The longer you wait to get married, the better chance it has of working out, and in a society where the divorce rate is higher then the fifty percent, one has to wonder if being twenty nine and single is not perfect. I think you have the cat by the tail. I really didn't know what I wanted in a spouse until I was at least thirty. Enjoy life and don't worry that those around you question it. You will find your knight one day.
Reply:It happens to everyone as they start growing up, people tell them Nu, when are you going to get married? Even if someone was younger than 29 they still get pushed.
Reply:I am 31 and single. wanna trade pics and contact info? Oh wait, I'm not single... I'm divorced. hence the name, "Leftovers"


Does the years someome has been single tell you anything about them?

As a single man I have been judged by the years I have been single and I know that I have questioned ladies that have been single for too short of time or that have been married 3-4 times by the time they are 50. I have been divorced only once and have never rushed into things, now I wonder if I am ever going to get back to what I see as normal relationships. I am talking to a young lady that has been married 3 times and she is 38...she thinks something is wrong with me because I have been single for over 20 years. Maybe we are both right in our as we each see it. I have had several seriuos relationships but just never fot to the alter. I guess I feel that being single for all those years is better than failing over %26amp; over again in the same time period...who knows which was less painful %26amp; we are both still single at this point in life? Please be respectful and thoughtful when responding as I really do want to know what ya all think.

Does the years someome has been single tell you anything about them?
I wouldn't really classify you as being single,as you stated you have been in several serious relationships. I'm sure you loved a few of the ladies you have been with and to me thats all that matters. Sometimes it's best not to rush into marriage as it not always works(obviously). See it this way, ya, these people may have been married numerous times, but what does that tell you? I think that says a little more...wouldn't you agree? You just chose to live your life the way you want to and it seems like your enjoying it so, who cares what other people think.

teeth hurt

What do single parents in the Navy...?

What do single parents in the Navy do with their kids when at sea?





I was in the Army, single with no children, and single parents got to back to the rear during FTX's and Bivuoac's. I was jealous but I understood, a baby's not going to feed %26amp; change itself.





I always wondered what Navy personell did. You can't go back when you're thousands of miles from home, every night. I would think they're given office/desk jobs, but you don't join the Navy to sit at a desk.





Best case scenario, I would think is to leave them with their grandparents.

What do single parents in the Navy...?
Yes, during deployments, arrangements must be made to give "temporary" legal custody with an ex-spouse, or relative. They can then obtain necessary medical care at military hospitals for the dependent(s). Had to do this myself. Was a widower after 15 years of marriage with two children to raise and still maintain my Navy career. I stayed in at that point, not only for myself, but for them. Retired with my 20 and they still had the medical benefits until they graduated from college. My parents and hers shared the responsibility of taking care of the kids while Daddy was away. Missed them and they never held it against me. Our time together became even more precious.
Reply:They deal with it. Just like they've been doing for over 200 years. Like their fathers and mothers did.





Somebody's got to raise the next generation, and somebody's got to protect them. Some people have the heavy duty of doing both.





Bless them all.





And thanks, team. Your contributions, whether single, married, with or without children, are not unappreciated by the living, and would be proudly praised by the Founders.
Reply:We have 3 friends who are single mothers in the Navy. They have all done their time on sea duty just like everyone else. during which they gave temporary custody to their parents, siblings or a close friend.
Reply:The child(ren) were place into what is called a Dependent Care Program in which the service member grants parental rights/responsibilities to a party of the service members choosing when they are deployed. All single-parent Navy service members are required to have this document with the Admin Office, Family Care Plan Coordinator, and the Legal Dept. In some unfortunate cases this would cut many service members careers short, as with everything it is based on the needs of (insert your branch of service here) if your plan got approved or not. Hope that helps and thanks for your service.


Life, being single, in a relationship, open mindedness and such peoples views?

Been thinking how it seems that most people on this website are sort of old fashioned, u know like if a woman wants a baby she should get married, a girl is a sl.ut cos shes not in a relationship but is having sex with a friend or shes lost her virginity to a 1 night stand, personality is everything and appearance meens almost nothing.





Yet when im at work, with family/friends, in town shopping or meeting ppl at bars/where ever, its almost the complete opposite of what peoples views are on here (the points ive mentioned anyway).





One thing that nearly everyone shares tho, is when u should settle down. Age 30ish. Enjoy your time of being single and free to do whatever u want. But something that mystifies me is, why be single if your not going to tart it around while your young? u can do anything else if your single or married it makes no difference?

Life, being single, in a relationship, open mindedness and such peoples views?
You sound like me morally correct to a certain degree! (So they say) you are spirit filled you just are wondering why! you made a very good point personality is everything appearance is nothing! we are people who are not worldly because we have a voice without a face. life is simple and it starts from the old fashioned . I believe I was told the way to salvation is straight and narrow! Good thoughts!


Are you a Single woman age 40 and older?

are you happy living alone? Do you ever regret being single?





I'm 23 and plan on being single forever and wondered once i turn older than 40 if i would then rather having a family instead of being single. I'm extremely happy being single right now and was wondering if that would change through time, so i thought i'd get an insight from you who's been there. Thanks.

Are you a Single woman age 40 and older?
If you are happy being single at 23, then be single. As time goes by and you just happened to meet "the guy", your idea of staying single may change.





Do not spend too much time thinking this one through. You are still young and it sounds like you want to remain that way for now.. Who knows how you will feel about it in 10 years from now, because people change as they age.





I am 40 and have been single for 11 years... I was married for 10 years and ya know what... I prefer being single because I like doing what I want how I want and when I want without having to consider another person... The only person I need to consider at the moment is my son and that will change in about 4 years %26lt;EG%26gt; Then I will be really single again,, woo hoo.
Reply:When i was 23 I was happy being single too.....I was 28 when I met my ex....and was quite happy to "settle down"....we had a child together and he is the one thing that came from that relationship that I will always cherish..... I am now living alone with my son ( altho I am in a long distance relationship now)... and appreciate being on my own...It does get lonely sometimes not having some one to share the everyday things with but thats ok too.....I am 43 now......


Enjoy your time being single but dont plan too hard on staying that way or you may miss out on the love of your life... I'm with mine now and couldnt be happier...except of course if we were together all the time....
Reply:Girl, just enjoy being young 4 right now . K?


Because, one day; you'll wish you'd be young again.


:~)
Reply:Get on and enjoy where you are in life!





Life will present you all kinds of ups and downs and one of them might even be falling in love with a wonderful man. Until that happens, if that happens, enjoy where you are and let the future take care of itself.
Reply:no
Reply:I haven't been fourty but I do think it will change.
Reply:Oh youre perfect I cant wait till youre thirty. More and more justification for me being me.


Double and single eyelid in half asian baby?!?! HELP!?

Well my son is half Chinese, my husband has single eyelids and im white....and my son was born with both single at first, and then at 1mo old his left eyelid turned double and very very obvious but the right never did, and just a week ago his right all of a sudden became double but for only 2 or 3 days and then it went back to single and i kinda thinks it looks funny and i have had people ask me why one eye looks droopy and the other not and i think people think my sons eyes are weird.





Has this happened to anyone or anyones kids? Do you think his right eye will change?





I just dont want people to think one eye is lazy and doesnt match the other! :(


I think my son looks perfect but this vibe people and even my own Mother in Law gives me and the constant comments about how his eyes need to change and blah blah...its getting to me! :'(

Double and single eyelid in half asian baby?!?! HELP!?
Your son is so young that it's very possible both of his eyes will continue to change. You said yourself that they seem to change for 2-3 days and then go back. I would wait until he was a year or two before I started getting worried. At that point, if there is a problem, you can consult with your pediatrician about ways to fix it.
Reply:Don't fret! You're son sounds beautiful. Give him a little time to grow into his body. Peace of mind- make a list of your worries and ask the Paediatrician at his next check up. Chances are that your doctor will reassure you on each item on your list.


Hang in there! It sounds like Mommy-hood is a new adventure for you. You'll both be OK.
Reply:Don't let those mean comments hurt you, you have a happy and healthy. I'm sure that in time his eyes will be just fine :)
Reply:if it does not change again, and it bothers your son when he gets older, you can always have him looked at by a plastic surgeon, if my kid had, eg., ears sticking out, I'd get them done, but wait to see if is going to change again first.
Reply:Accept your son. Many people have that, I know a guy friend of mine, and his lazy eye was pretty bad too. But, he grew into it, and so did everyone else. And I think he's a hottie :). So don't worry, people will grow into it, and so will your son. Nobody's perfect.

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Are you single?

If you´re single----


1.Are you looking?


2. Are you looking for a relationship or casual physical encounters?


3. For how long have you been single?


4. Where do you look for potential partners?


5. Do you like being single?





If you have a partner---------





1. Are you happy?


2. For how long have you been in the relationship?


3. How did you meet?


4. Do you live together?


5. Have you EVER cheated?

Are you single?
Yes, I am single





1. No, I am not looking





2. At my age, I can't afford to have a relationship, but I wouldn't pass up a carnal encounter.





3. Over two years





4. My College





5. Yes
Reply:Single


1 yes


2 both if possible


3 all my life


4 all over


5 no-getting tired of being alone all the time
Reply:Single


1. kinda


2. I would want a relationship


3. Only a few months


4. They usually find me


5. No, who does
Reply:1) no i'm not looking, it just finds me!


2) not looking for anything, open to many possibilities


3) been single for 1 year, 4 months


4) i dont go to look


5) yes, for the most part
Reply:I am married.





Yes, we are both happy


4 years altogether


at a dinner meeting


yes we lived together while we were engaged (1 year)


NO..neither one of us have cheated
Reply:Im kinda in between...we do things couples do, but we're not officially together again.


Im happy at times and sad/mad at other times


4 years! =)


We met outside but we hooked up thru a mutual friend


No, we dont. Its too early for that. We're not ready to start out family yet.


I have never cheated, though he has.
Reply:Im Single





1. No


2. Neither


3. nearly 3 years


4. If I were looking it would be someone who knows what they want out of life takes repoonsibility for their own actions and someone who is not afraid to fight for my heart besdes for the normal good looking great personality stuff


5.have no problem with it
Reply:Single: Yes =/


1. Yeah, but not desperately. I'm alright, just kinda taking each day at a time.


2. I'm looking for a relationship, but I'm a teenager with urges...I don't really know what I want right now.


3. I had a girlfriend in middle school while in 8th grade, before coming out as gay. I've been single since then, so probably 3-4 years. But with all the trashy teen relationships, not that desperate to go out with someone I hate.


4. Just high school. I don't do any dating sites. Still only 17.


5. In a way, yes. Being able to compliment and stare and imagine things - but I could probably do some of that if I had someone too!
Reply:Single - NO


1. very happy


2. 14 yrs and counting


3. at a park on a nice Spring day back in '93


4. of course


5. NEVER
Reply:Not single


1. very, very happy


2. Just over 2 years married, been together for 5 years


3. I was volunteering at a youth centre, so was she


4. We lived together for a year before I asked her to marry me


5. NEVER
Reply:I have a partner





1)Yes, I am happy...and settled, content, at peace


2) 17 years


3) Playing volleyball


4) yes, for 16 years


5) No
Reply:Partnered


1. Are you happy? Happiest Ive ever been


2. For how long have you been in the relationship? 9 1/2 years


3. How did you meet? through mutual friends


4. Do you live together? yes


5. Have you EVER cheated? no - shes everything i need/want so no need to cheat
Reply:Have a partner---





Very happy


3 Years


In a club


Yes


No
Reply:if you have a partner---------





1. Are you happy? Yes


2. For how long have you been in the relationship? Since 12th October 2006 (around 19.00hrs)


3. How did you meet? Met in a pub went for some drinks and dinner and we were one night stands that couldnt be apart


4. Do you live together? Yes and work together =)


5. Have you EVER cheated? Nope though bf tends to sometimes think i have.. Not needed to as got my man





Zeon85
Reply:1. I'm mostly happy


2. We've only been dating for 2 months.


3. We met in a group of friends who get together weekly to hang out and chat and do fun stuff.


4. No way. I am not a u-haul lesbian....LOL


5. Never. Not in this relationship or any other.
Reply:Yes, im single....


1. yes


2. relationship


3. too long


4. good personality, looks, and a sense of humor


5. no


23 and single?

I am 23 yrs old and single. What I don't understand is why am I single if people always come up 2 me and say how pretty I am, attractive, and that I have a great personality but I'm single. I don't get it. Do it scare guys. I feel like don't no 1 like me. It make me depress, I have low self-esteem, I feel like committing suicide and I try 2 drink to get it off my chest. I feel like I'm getting 2 old and still don't have a man or no 1 want to be with me. I tried the, (don't look 4 1) but it still don't work. I don't know what 2 do. Sometimes I wish I was very very ugly maybe I would have a lot of boyfriend, because maybe being pretty scare them. (Confused and need help).

23 and single?
Oh Dear!! I will tell you the same thing I told my 23 yr old daughter, you are young, beautiful and so very hard on yourself! First you need to find out who YOU are. You need to like YOU!!! Liking and respecting yourself are key essentials to finding and being happy in any relationship. Stop drink and thinking about committing suicide, honey please please get some counselling about these feelings, a trusted relative, pastor, professional counselor (*I really don't think I am spelling that right!! lol) You are YOUNG. And my personal opinion...... as I have also told my daughter, you do NOT need a man to survive or be dependent upon... Look at it this way, a relationship should be based on want, not need. And, maybe if you quit looking so hard, the man might walk into your life when you least expect it. Consume yourself with friends, male and female, family, and don't be so hard on yourself!
Reply:just hang in there...my daughter had the same problem....it takes the right man to be able to handle a girl like you...it takes a very strong man.....most men are afraid of what i don't know....she found a man or should i say a very nice man found her and are happily married. Movie stars have the same problem...sad but true....do you notice that some of the awfullest men think they have a chance with you....it is really a joke sometimes....just hang in there....23 is young....and your prince charming is out there and you two are just waiting to meet...hold your head up high and your shoulders back and enjoy life and you will find him.
Reply:well 23 is still young. Maybe you just don't wanna commit, innit? Don't commit suicide it will be a waste of a pretty face. I'll pray for your safe place.
Reply:have some confidence, guys don't want someone who seems "needy". I know a few hot girls that dint have any "boyfriend" and think they need 1, and that's the problem.The trick isn't to not look,its to not look like you need A man! We want what we think we cant have, a challenge!
Reply:23 and single, You have not even reached your peak as a woman. just enjoy life as it comes single or not. I know many people that wish they were single and some singles that want a mate. Fall in love with life. it will treat you the same as a mate.
Reply:Maybe your problem is that you don't like yourself. You say you have low self-esteem and that's what I'm thinking. You have to like yourself first and see value in you as a person. Men can sense when a woman lacks self love and it makes them wary, no matter how pretty you are. If can't love yourself, how can you love anyone else. Trust me, 23 is still very young, many of my friends are in their early 20s and they just aren't ready to settle down yet (which may be another part of your problem - people your age aren't ready to make a commitment yet).





You need to learn to love yourself, and it's easy to do. Just sit down with a piece of paper and list all of your good qualities, your talents - I think you'll find it's a long list. If you love yourself then it won't matter if you're dating someone because you are happy being you. But you know what? I think you'll find that you won't have to be happy with just yourself because that boost of confidence will shine through and guys will be drawn to you like insects to light. Just watch the models and actresses on TV and you can see that they have this quality that just makes people want to know them - that is what you can acheive if you can just make what is inside of you come out by liking who you are. You know, I don't know you, but I can sense people by how they write and if it's any consolation I have a sense that you are a very beautiful girl both inside and out.
Reply:I have a sister that is over 45 and she doesn't hav a guy either but she continues to pray to God and give her strength to wait for the right one.


I pray that you have more strength and be patient.
Reply:Well-people say those things and do mean it as true.They


do not say things about your personality-right.JUst think about your actions with boys.
Reply:There are a lot of problems with being attractive. On is tht you are unapproachable because there are so many people out there that decided to try to ask an attractive person out once and got laughed at or humiliated.





I never wanted a perfect 10, because that's what everyone else wanted. I wanted a fairly attractive woman, short, and smart. And being very ugly doesn't give you a lot of boyfriends. Send me a picture and I'll tell you if you are pretty or not. How old are you? 23? Many women stay single into their late 20's.
Reply:If you have low self esteem and feel like committing suicide, others will sense there is something wrong and that will scare guys away.





If you are a Christian, you need to get some counseling from a Biblical Counselor, in my opinion.





If not, I'd suggest you see one anyway.





Pastor Art
Reply:see a therapist! are you going to make til XMas?
Reply:wow. crazy scares us. relax find sumptin to do like a hobby music and when the time comes it will just happen. hell move here and ill show you how 2 b happy
Reply:Let me start with the whole don't look for a boy friend really does work. Maybe when you tried it you were really looking and just telling yourself that you weren't. Please don't commit suicide because if you do then your special someone will wonder their inter life with no one to really love. Your still really young and the right guy will come around. For now just go out with your friends and have a good time. I will you all the luck and trust me when your special someone comes along you will know. You will fall madly in love with him and will not want to spend a day apart, but will just to play hard to get. Enjoy life while your young sweetie and stop look trust me he will find you.
Reply:maybe you are pretty but your attitude isnt so pretty or maybe you seem too available, try getting out more, or less if you go out alot, some times being shy works but not too shy. But mainly i think its your attitude!
Reply:You should try to approach a man instead. It may seem nontraditional to some but flirting can really help. It may be that guys don't think you are available. Are you maybe a little shy. You shouldn't have low self-esteem because of being single though. We all go through single stages. Even the sexiest and hottest of people have been single. Try to meet guys in new and different places. Don't be afraid to approach a man if you feel attracted to him. Just make sure he is single too, right away.:) Don't give up on love or dating.People are attracted to confidence. They are not attracted to arrogance though. :) People will find you attractive and interesting if they know you are interested in them as well. Plenty of people are single at 23. That is normal. Ever seen colleges and clubs wild with people your age? You have nothing to worry about.
Reply:Maybe a little education might go a long way,forget suicidal thoughts,you are too young for that,think outside of yourself,do something,this should be the least of your worries.
Reply:It can be tough, especially if your friends start to get married and drift away. Do not get depressed, though, because it isn't like an exact science in finding the right person. It sounds as if you may have tried the "traditional" ways, and you shouldn't think about "lowering" your standards in what you are looking for in a soulmate; that can only lead to a whole set of problems later on.





You may want to try chats with people through IM, not necessarily through the dating services online, but perhaps through other avenues where singles happen to turn up.....this book that was recently published may give you some ideas:





Title: Age is Just a Number: Adventures in Online Dating


Author: D.S. White


Publisher: Divine Truth Press


ISBN: 0977810305


Release Date: September 15, 2006
Reply:go to chat rooms
Reply:A boyfriend shouldnt be what fulfills u, r what gives u a higher self-esteem. im 21 n single, but i enjoy every minute of it lol. i dont need a man. What u really need is God knowing God is the only thing that will give u true joy!!
Reply:23 and still single???? Poor little girl! Had you not been so sad about it I would have laughed at you. I'm more than 40 and still single, but life is great, believe me.
Reply:Hello


Don't worry about finding anyone right now, it will happen to you. when you least expect it, Just be true to yourself,


Enjoy different activities, like, go dancing, play different sports, (tennis, golf, your join a health club)


I felt like that when I was younger in my early 20's.


When I was 25 years old, I found a great gentle, kind man.


Now I'm married for 10 years now.


I meet him when I least expected it at a friend fish %26amp; chips restaurant


I am single . is that wrong ?

i am 37 and single . i am not comfortable with the idea of marriage , never been . i been in some relationships but never commited fully . also since i wasted a lot of time between 18 and 29 i am working very hard to catch up . so i am also not dating for 3 years to catch up with my material , mental , spiritual goals . do i sound strange or rational . any website where singles can get courage from ? ( PS - i am in India ... people are usually married here ; there are some singles but not too many )

I am single . is that wrong ?
You are so much better off than the millions of people who go against their gut instinct, get married, then realize they made a mistake. I have been married twice, and I'm here to tell you, single is the way to be. I am 35 and I plan on spending the rest of my life as swinging single, lol.
Reply:YES THAT IS WRONG DUh!!!
Reply:No, that is not strange or irrational. I'm 42 and single and choose to remain that way. Who wants to have to "answer to" somebody and check in with somebody or even "ask permission" to do something? I agree with you. Don't worry about what other people think--you do what you feel is best for you.
Reply:No, It's OK!


Is he single or taken?

First he says he can't believe he going on 30 years old and still single.


Then another time he says he a single guy in his 20's.


Then three weeks ago,he passed around a picture of,what people say is his girlfriend,and ask him how come he never talks about her,is he single or taken?

Is he single or taken?
I don't know. . .why don't you ask his friends subtly and found out or confront him. . .
Reply:Why dont you ask him?
Reply:One thing for sure ... he's confused.
Reply:I dont no ask him.
Reply:He's a liar or a mental defective. Run, do not walk, to the nearest exit. Good luck,
Reply:Well, if he says he is "going on 30", that means he is not yet 30. So if he says he is in his 20's, that is reasonable because he is not yet 30. (Do the math)


Really, whether he is single or taken is his business and not for "everybody" to gossip about. It sounds like you are interested in him. I guess you could ask him if that was his girlfriends picture, but I wouldn't personally. If he was interested in you he would probably do something about it.
Reply:He sounds like too much drama for me, do you really want to deal with that?

cat teeth

Is he single or taken?

First he says he can't believe he going on 30 years old and still single.


Then another time he says he a single guy in his 20's.


Then three weeks ago,he passed around a picture of,what people say is his girlfriend,and ask him how come he never talks about her,is he single or taken?

Is he single or taken?
Seems like he is taken, but is playing the field.





Perhaps his relationship with her is not going well, and he means to end it soon. You'll just have to talk to him more to find out the exact situation.
Reply:Sounds like he's hiding something..Id investagate...hmmmmmmmmm..sounds like he's confused,hmmmmmmmm I know men like that...They wanna have a stable life BUT also wanna have fun.he needs to grow up...sorry
Reply:he's taken.. he's just fooling around..
Reply:i think hes taken but tryin to get u to believe he aint
Reply:Wow~it seems that you like him ?am i right?


May be you should have a chat with him.Tell him about your feeling .


And ,Take it easy!may be you can meet more friends on a site``er``as if named bikerfriends. us
Reply:You've posted this question before. -_-


Question for Single soldiers?

Im an FRG leader and my husband's unit will be home in about a week after doing a 15 month deployment to Iraq. We (the wives) are decorating the barracks, we have been doing fund raising all year long, we have purchased new shower curtains, towels and bed sheets for our single soldiers we are going into the rooms in a few days and start making beds and hanging the shower curtains. We also bought chips and soda for each room and shampoo, and soap...as a single soldier is there anything else you would like to see if it were you coming home to your barracks room (please dont say a girl or beer etc. because we arent buying those things LOL) we are also hanging welcome home signs up all through the barracks...we want to make our single soldiers feel just as appreciated as our husbands do and have them go back to the barracks room and relax

Question for Single soldiers?
When i was in the barracks and got back. I had a gift card for blockbuster video and fruit basket. It felt good to know that someone did that for me even though they didnt know me. So im sure they will be happy. Thank You for caring like that.


Semper Fi
Reply:Recient family pictures,if possible home cooking,newspapers from home,maybe some posters like our favorite sports teams or movie posters
Reply:Trying contacting the local community for donations.





Imagine being in a place, eating nothing but MRE's and you'd kill for an Outback steak or even a Big Mac. Especially after 15 months.





Though a woman would be great, at least a massage might ease a lot of tension. There's nothing like a little pampering.





Hope these ideas were helpful.





Welcome back
Reply:what about a GC to a nearby restaurant? or Movie tickets?





They will want some downtime and food that isn't MRE or cafeteria style....
Reply:You say no girls, but seriously look into it. Do you have any single friends you could introduce them to? And I don't mean for a single night either.





Edit: Good point about the Big Mac. Sometimes a unhealthy, but great tasting meal is good. Or even better. Cook them a nice homecooked meal.
Reply:You might check to see if your morale office has anything for single sailors. I know ours gave us a ton of coupons (free bowling, free movie, food discounts...), schedules for MWR events and outings, and a ton of other stuff to add to our SS bags. And be happy they'll let you in the BEQ rooms to set them up for the guys. They haven't let us do that here for a looonnngggg time. Congrats on the men coming home!
Reply:I was going to say, "current newspaper" (times X 10). But if their family could provide a recent copy of the Hometown News, that would be even MORE meaningful.





If there is a TV Lounge with a DVD player, you could buy a selection of bargain DVDs and/or Cd's for their use. Depending on how well funded your organization is, you might consider getting some $10 Phone cards to include in a Welcome Home card.





Maybe some First Graders at a local school might want to make the Welcome Home Cards. And your local Vet Organizations ( V.V.A., American Legion, VFW, etc) may also wish to contribute to your efforts.





Our local V.V.A. Chapter has a Thrift Store and offers discounts to vets who shop there. Compiling a List of Businesses in your area who might care to contribute a small discount or gratuity to our returning soldiers is another idea to consider.
Reply:The gift certificate idea is really good. How about some beef jerky, cookies, brownies, or homemade bread. What about just having a relaxing bbq at somebody's house? Especially if it's near a holiday. I hate seeing single soldiers spending the holidays alone. Thank you for doing this for them, they truly deserve this.


YOUNG AND SINGLE! Where are the best cities to be single?

JUST CURIOUS.


But where are the absolute best cities in the world for crazy CLUBS, beautiful women, and the best cities worldwide to be single.





I have travelled all over and meet people from all over the place.


Im curious as to what cities are the best for a guy like me to be single in???

YOUNG AND SINGLE! Where are the best cities to be single?
i have been to many places around the world myself. Of all the places i have ever been i love NYC the most. it's my home and not only that but the girls are smokin' hot. but vegas nightlife is wilder than NYC plus. I still think NYC is the best city in the world. It's the best place to be single and meet new people in my opinion.





Ibiza spain OMG that is the party capital of the world. smokin' hotter chics than NYC plus less talk more action and those are words to live by.
Reply:I've been around the world 3 times, been to a dozen county fairs and a couple of goat ropings and the best place I have found is Bangkok.


Calling all single mother!!! Just an opinion! When should a child call a boyfriend "DAD"?

First let me just say I am a single mother of 3 children The father of my youngest two vanished off the face of the earth AKA hiding from responcibilities. My youngest 2 have really never known their father, Anyways My brother, who I love with all my heart, is now dating a single mother of one. The childs father vanishes also. The relationship moved fast. They started dating may of 2007 and my brother who still has his own place has not slept there since first of june. He really likes his girlfriend and so do I. Recently the girlfriends child started calling my brother dad! Now as a single mother of i know the question does come up "Are you my dad?"I respond by saying "silly goose, this is moms friend"...When I talked to my bro about it he said they told to start calling him dad. I asked are you getting married? "No not yet"..Does anyone find this odd? I find the actions of the mother weird! Can anyone help me understand?

Calling all single mother!!! Just an opinion! When should a child call a boyfriend "DAD"?
I'm not a single mother or a mother at all but my personal opinion for the sake of the child "dad" really shouldn't be used this soon. The relationship is still young and anything could happen. If they do break up the child will be heart broken. If she gets involved with someone else and does the same thing the child will be completely confused with who his real father is (even if he has been out of the picture) unless the child is old enough to understand the difference.





Dad shouldn't be used until marriage is in the near future or your brother decides to adopt the child. Until then your brother is mommy's friend and a father figure and the child should be calling him by his name, not dad.
Reply:if they ain't married i don't think the kid should be calling him dad.
Reply:no. not good.
Reply:When you're pretty sure no one else will be called "DAD", HE SHOULD BE THE ONLY ONE.
Reply:I think whenever the children accept him as a father figure... Leave that up to the children...let them feel him out and once a sincere trust is established, the rest will fall into place :)


He must show a willingness to prove to them that he is there for them and would do anything to help and protect them. It will take time, but that is really something the children must decide in their own time. As long as he shows them love and support and understanding, it will come...be patient and good luck! :)
Reply:Not only is it weird what your brother is doing, but it's potentially damaging to the child. It's a dumb, dumb idea.
Reply:I definitely wouldn't think it would be ok before they got married. If the child starts calling him dad, and he leaves her, then what. Will he call the next bf dad too?

horse teeth

Is encouragement of women who want to become single mothers by choice contributing to social problems?

Denise Sloan decided she wanted to have kids, even though she was single, so she researched the safe way to get the job done and wrote a book about it called "Knock Yourself Up--The Tell-All Guide to Becoming a Single Mom". She wrote about over 40 other single women who did the same thing:


http://www.knockyourselfup.com/Home.html





Obviously there is a market for a book like this.





I have three questions:





1- The statistics overwhelmingly indicate that children from single parent families have a higher likelihood of turning out maladjusted. 70% of felons are from single parent families. Why do some people insist it justifies single parent families if a minority of 30% of felons are from families with both parents?





2- Is this book and the approval it gets from feminists more evidence that women's attitudes that they don't need men to raise children is the main cause of single mothers?





3- Would men saying women are not needed to raise children be considered male supremacist?

Is encouragement of women who want to become single mothers by choice contributing to social problems?
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes --U.S. D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census





85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes --Center for Disease Control





80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes --Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol. 14, p. 403-26





71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes


--National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools





70% of juveniles in state operated institutions come from fatherless homes --U.S. Dept. of Justice, Special Report Sept., 1988





85% of all youths sitting in prisons grew up in a fatherless home --Fulton County Georgia jail populations %26amp; Texas Dept. of Corrections, 1992





Translated, this means that children from a fatherless home are:





* 5 times more likely to commit suicide


* 32 times more likely to run away


* 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders


* 14 times more likely to commit rape


* 9 times more likely to drop out of school


* 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances


* 9 times more likely to end up in a state operated institution


* 20 times more likely to end up in prison





"In 1988, a study of preschool children admitted to New Orleans hospitals as psychiatric patients over a 34-month period found that nearly 80 percent came from fatherless homes." Source: Jack Block, et al. "Parental Functioning and the Home Environment in Families of Divorce", Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 27 (1988)





"Children living with a never-married mother are more likely to have been treated for emotional problems." Source: L. Remez, "Children Who Don't Live with Both Parents Face Behavioral Problems," Family Planning Perspectives (January/February 1992).





Children reared by a divorced or never-married mother are less cooperative and score lower on tests of intelligence than children reared in intact families. Statistical analysis of the behavior and intelligence of these children revealed "significant detrimental effects " of living in a female-headed household. Growing up in a female-headed household remained a statistical predictor of behavior problems





***even after adjusting for differences in family income***.





Source: Greg L. Duncan, Jeanne Brooks-Gunn and Pamela Kato Klebanov, "Economic Deprivation and Early Childhood Development", Child Development 65 (1994).








Considering that many women see children as a "clump of cells", it is not amazing that they care so little for the children they allow, or even plan, to bring into a situation that is all but guaranteed to be a disaster.





It seems that nothing trumps women having "choice", even when that choice is so obviously a bad one.
Reply:I don't understand how you can post this and in the next breath demand a parental opt-out for men who accidentally impregnate a woman. It's INCONSISTENT! Report It

Reply:Equality before the law. If women have the right, by law, men have the same right. I think either parent opting out of parenthood in any way is wrong but the law must be applied equally. Sadly, it isn't. Report It

Reply:Writing a book is easy to digest .The statistics given are to sell the book.Single mom is a problem in a society.You are true enough about women's attitude but it's not always true genuine reasons are persisting for malfunctioning in a family causing divorce leading to single mom.Men cannot say women are every time their better half in up bringing of a child.After all we men and women are responsible for bringing the siblings in this world and provide a better future.
Reply:It doesn't make any sense..its simply against the nature.. although i agree if the woman adopted an orphan..
Reply:IF I agree with you on this point, then does it not also contribute to social problems to allow men to legally opt-out of parenthood in the case of unplanned pregnancy?
Reply:No more so than cloning, and impersonating another user to harass.


You are fraudulently using another users name to push your own twisted views and sick agenda.
Reply:Being pro-choice, and believing that a woman has control over her decision to remain pregnant, I would be a hypocrite if I did not also say that she has control over her reproductive abilities. That is a medical and basic rights answer.





But I am also a pragmatist, and socially, I am a little critical of the whole idea. And not for the statistical reasons you state, as I believe that if a parent (mother or father) is a good one, with the right support structure, they can raise great children. But I am interested in the financial construct of the situation. Clearly, if a woman can afford the overwhelmingly high cost of having a child, then she must have a great job. And if thats the case, what hours does she work? Who is going to be raising that child?





In my twenties, I had decided that if I wasn't married by 35, I wanted to have a child on my own. Well, 35 arrived, and I realized that I didn't have the money or the emotional ability to raise a child on my own. As much as I would have loved a child at that time, I truly felt that it would have been an irresponsible and selfish decision for me to make. Yes, I have the right to have a child biologically, but do I have the moral and responsible right to have one if I can't give them everything they need in terms of time and commitment?
Reply:So many women these days are unintentionally doing it, so why not purposely do it? It is possible to do. The children do not necessarily receive less love and attention that two-parent children. It does not necessarily mean that they have less family or anything else. WIth the divorce rate up so high I don't hink that many notice this phenomenon.
Reply:That is so wrong.





That is the second most selfish act a woman can do to harm a child. The first is abortion.





People like her indicate to me that they are unsuitable for raising a child. To them, a child is a thing first and a person second.





The entire mammal population shows that it is beneficial to have both parents rear the child. To "knock yourself up" to raise a child under one parent is totalitarianism and is nothing more than the approval of broken homes.





Its a shame that people can get away with anti-social behavior like this.
Reply:I wouldn't think so because look,if a woman waits all her lifefor her prince charming in order to become a mother we will have a long wait, because there isn't a lot of eligible men ou there who are willing to work and be faithful. Straight up! I believe that if a single woman chooses to be a mother without a man that she can take care of her child by herself, she is usually educated and has a good job. Being a mother is really important to a lot of women, but some women aren't willing to wait to see if they will meet the man in shining armor and I feel like that is okay!





To answer your first question, it kind of erases your first question. Because women that usually will choose to have a child aren't poor. Women that are poor usually get pregnant on accident, they don't plan for their children and that's why they suffer so much from it.





The second question is that not all women need a man to raise their children, and some men that are no help at all to the women that have the kids, they are just there for financial means.





The 3rd question is absurd. There are men out there who are single and they don't need a woman, and vice versa, that doesn't mean that is male or female supremacisy!





Some people can raise their children on their own!
Reply:Yes.
Reply:I think your going out on a limb here. I know many single moms and they are intelligent hard working woman. They raise good kids and have high standards and morals, which they teach their kids. Many work two jobs and still find time to join the PTA and attend all the important functions for their kids. I also know many affluent, married couples who are raising, rude, lazy and spoiled kids. Who are more likely to commit a crime to get money for drugs, and don't know what a job is. It is never all black or white. I


would never make that kind of judgement based on a book. I don't think your stats are correct and I don't know where you got them from. Some two parent households are not doing so hot either. So the problem goes much deeper than single mothers.
Reply:I would say 70% of the felons from single parent families are also male and also poor.








And about raising children, you need a strong community, not just two parents, one parent, etc. A Child ain't a pet, it is another individual.
Reply:The lack of the presence of a father for whatever reason is causing social problems.
Reply:I have always been curious as to what a single mother - who has gone out of her way to ensure that she will be a single parent tells her child as to why daddy isnt there, and why she has refused the child the posibility of of having two parents there for them.
Reply:1. This is because a boy needs a father to teach him how to become a man.





2. Yes, feminist insistence upon the irrelevance of men is what is driving the phenomenon of single motherhood.





3. Maybe we should try single-father families. They'd probably have better luck making the kids behave and consequently less criminality in adulthood.
Reply:all varies cos can be two parent fam wiv drug an drink issues two parents one could be in prison.not every single person grows up thinkin ill ave kid then be single muum.sev i know have good intentions of bein family two parents an kids but issues ie money life circumstance raaise and b4 u know ya single wiv kids.a parent dies then a single parent.not all brought on by ourselves,some men klilke the idae of kids wifey etc then reality smackes em in chops an they do linford christie woman cant.you shouldnt judge unless you know circumstances.sure if you ad poll and questioned hundred couples you wod see difrences
Reply:1.) I think you would have to control for the TYPES of single parent families that these felon-to-be children came from. Ms. Sloan sounds fairly educated, possibly from a higher socio-economic background, and possibly a bit older (and wiser) than your average Joe, etc. That's a vastly different demographic than some 17 year old left destitute by her boyfriend, or poor woman in the ghetto raising five kids on her own. Their outcomes (ie: children) might be a bit different than Ms. Sloan's. Not to mention that children from broken homes may be dealing with a lot of anger (from seeing the break up, from each of the parents, etc.) and that could also contribute to their maladjustment. This would not be a factor in Ms. Sloan's (and others like her) case.





2.) I won't pretend to know what drives any of society's trends. However, I think the fact that many marriages do dissolve these days, and a fair number of women who are left to raise the children alone do so successfully, just show that simply, a woman will do what a woman's gotta do. Perhaps there is some misrepresentation as to how HARD it is to do it alone, but the reality is, many woman ARE. The main cause: divorce, not this book or any feminist approval.





3.) Interestingly enough, this is one realm I don't think men are overwhelmingly inspired to trump. Would they be male supremicists if they claimed women to be unnecessary in child rearing? No, no more than we are women supremicists for claiming we can rear a child on our own.





The fact is, either can do it with due diligence. The trick is to make sure that you enter into this arrangement fully aware of what you are doing. But again, given today's marriage stats, perhaps every person should ask themselves this (Can I do this alone?) before ever partaking in parenthood. Stats say, you very well could be.
Reply:People will do anything to make money - this woman does not give a flip about "helping single moms."





I think anyone who is actually bringing NEW children into this world nowadays is an idiot. There are SO many poor children who are in DESPERATE need of caring moms, but instead of adopting them someone would create a whole new child to bring into this overcrowded troubled world? What sense does that make? NONE.
Reply:yes
Reply:I AM A PARENT OF A TEEN WHO IS HAPPILY MARRIED BUT WAS SINGLE AT ONE POINT AND HAVE MET SOME WOMEN WHO CHOOSE TO DO WHAT MS. DENISE SLOAN DID. HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS AS I HAVE PONDERED THINGS FROM MANY VANTAGE POINTS IN THE KALEIDESCOPE OF WHAT I SEE.





I have three questions:





1- The statistics overwhelmingly indicate that children from single parent families have a higher likelihood of turning out maladjusted. 70% of felons are from single parent families. Why do some people insist it justifies single parent families if a minority of 30% of felons are from families with both parents?--STATISTICS ARE STRANGE BECAUSE I ALWAYS WONDER WHO IT PERTAINS TO. I WORK WITH A DIVERSE CLIENTELE THAT RANGES FROM THE VERY MEEK AND HUMBLE TO THE VERY FINANCIALLY BLESSED, WHOSE CHILDREN COME FROM AND ARE LIVING THEIR EXISTENCE WITH BOTH PARENTS, MOTHER AND FATHER, MAN AND WOMAN. WHAT I SAW WAS THAT BOTH FAMILIES HAD PROBLEMS WITH THEIR KIDS AND BOTH KIDS HAD DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES THEREFORE DIFFERENT PROBLEMS TO DEAL WITH. AT THE END, IT IS THE SOLE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE PARENT, ONE, TWO, THREE OR FOUR IN THE CASE OF DIVORCES AND SUCH, TO ULTIMATELY MAKE THE LIFE OF WHOM THEY HAVE CREATED TO HAVE THE MOST INCREDIBLE JOURNEY EVER AND WHETHER OR NOT IT'S ONE OR TWO PARENTS FOR THE KIDS, RICH OR POOR, FELON OR NOT, STATISTICS OR NOT, THE FACT REMAINS THAT THE LIKELIHOOD FOR KIDS TO BECOME MALADJUSTED ADULTS IS THE SAME BECAUSE IT COMES DOWN TO THE PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF HOW THE KIDS WERE RAISED, HOW THEY FELT, IF THEY WERE SUPPORTED AND NOT JUDGED, IF THEY WERE ACCEPTED, IF THEY WERE TAUGHT TO LOVE THEMSELVES ALONG WITH OTHERS, IF THEY BELIEVED IN DREAMS AND THEMSELVES. ONE OR TWO OR MORE PARENTS CAN MAKE OR BREAK A CHILD OR A FAMILY. IN MY LINE OF WORK, LOGIC IS DEFIED BY THE REALITY OF WHAT IS IN FRONT OF US AND IN MY JOB, I'VE SEEN MANY THINGS THAT HAVE DEFIED ANY NOTIONS OF THE NORM.





2- Is this book and the approval it gets from feminists more evidence that women's attitudes that they don't need men to raise children is the main cause of single mothers?--THE DESIRE OF A WOMAN WHO WANTS TO RAISE A CHILD WITHOUT A MAN OR A SIGNIFICANT OTHER IS BASED UPON THE PERSONAL LIFE EXPERIENCE OF A PERSON WHO WANTS TO LOVE, CREATE, AND GIVE TO A LIFE AND IS COMPLETELY ASSURED, SECURED, HAPPY, CONFIDENT AND HAS FAITH THAT THE NECESSITY OF ANOTHER PERSON TO RAISE A CHILD IS JUST THAT IF THE WOMAN IS A PERSON OF UNCOMPROMISING CONVICTIONS AND BELIEFS, WHOSE STREGNTH COMES FROM ALL THE LOVE AND HOPE THAT SHE HAS. FEMINISTS WHO ARE NOT RIGHTEOUS KNOW ALL TOO WELL THE DESIRE FOR A WOMAN TO FEEL HER FREEDOM FROM THE CHAINS OF SOCIETY'S LABELING ON WHAT IS "RIGHT" AND "WRONG" IN RAISING A CHILD OR A FAMILY. FEMINISTS UNDERSTAND AND ARE VERY AWARE OF THE FACT THAT THE NECESSITY OF ANOTHER PARTNER IN THIS VENTURE OF CARING FOR A LIVING BEING SHOULD NEVER BE OR FEEL LIKE A "NEED" BUT A "WANT" AND THAT "WANT" IS WHEN YOU WANT TO SHARE THIS MOMENT OF MOTHERDOM WITH SOMEONE ELSE, TOGETHER, TEAMWORK, JUST THE TWO OF THE PARENTS AND THE CHILD. FOR A FEMINIST TO NOT BELIEVE AND FEEL COMPLETE ADMIRATION TO WOMEN WHO WANT TO BE A SINGLE PARENT WOULD BE AN OUTRAGE. PEOPLE PAY AN AMAZING HOMAGE TO ALL THE WOMEN OUT THERE WHO ARE STRONG, MEETING UP TO LIFE'S CHALLENGES, ARE ALTRUISTIC IN THEIR ENDEAVORS, SUCCESSFUL, AWARE, HAVE HOPE AND FAITH, AND KNOW THAT IF A WONDERFUL PARTNER CAME ALONG, THEN...WELL, COOL BEANS!! IF NOT, THIS WOMAN WILL BE JUST FINE WITH HER AND THE CHILD. LIFE WILL BRING TO THOSE WHO LOVE WITH GREAT INTENT A FULFILLED LIFE, PROBABLY MORE THAN THEY HAD EXPECTED.





3- Would men saying women are not needed to raise children be considered male supremacist?--MALE SUPREMACISTS?!! THAT'S SO "THE BURNING OF MISSISSIPPI." ABSOLUTELY NOT AS THE RULES APPLY THE SAME HERE. IT'S ABOUT RESPONSIBLITY TO ANOTHER LIVING BEING, IT'S ABOUT SACRIFICE, TRUTH IN ACCEPTING, LETTING GO OF NOTIONS WHILE LOVING OTHER BEINGS AND FEELING COMPASSION FOR THE LIFE THAT THEY ARE BRINGING UP. MANY MEN WHO ARE COUPLES ARE RAISING CHILDREN ON THEIR OWN WITHOUT A WOMAN IN THE HOUSE. IN LOVE, THERE IS NOT GENDER, RACE, AGE, RULE OF THUMB BY WHICH SOCIETY LABELS THE PEOPLE WHO WILL TAKE GREAT CARE OF A BEING THAT THEY LOVE. BLOOD IS JUST DNA. SO THEN WHY IS A WOMAN RAISING A CHILD ON HER OWN SO BAD OR A MAN RAISING LITTLE ONES ON THEIR OWN SO "SUPREMACIST" IF THE POWER OF LOVE AND CARE ARE PRESENT?





WHAT'S MOST INTERESTING IS THAT BASICALLY, AT THE END, IT'S ALL OVER THE NEWS, CELEBRITY TABLOIDAL MAGS AND THE TELLY, ALL OVER THE CNN AND ALL THOSE HIGHLY REVERED CHANNELS BY WHICH WE FIND OUT ABOUT THE ATROCITIES OF MAN AND WHAT WE FIND IS THAT THERE ARE KIDS BEING RESCUED FROM SOME HOME WHERE THE PARENTS WERE MAKING METH IN THE SAME AREAS THAT THE KIDS WERE EATING. WE'VE SEEN OR READ MANY TIMES HOW A VERY WEALTHY, HONORABLE COP AND HIS WIFE IN A VERY AFFLUENT BACKGROUND HAS A SON IN COLLEGE WHO RAPES WOMEN AND IS A JUNKIE, OR PERHAPS THE STORY OF THE ONE PARENT IN THE HOME THAT ACCIDENTLY KEPT HER CIGARETTE BURNING SO HER HOME BURNT DOWN ALONG WITH HER CHILDREN...OR MAYBE PERHAPS THE TWO DADS COULD NO LONGER CARE FOR THEIR CHILD SO THE CHILD WENT UP FOR ADOPTION...AGAIN. HOWEVER, WE ALSO SEE PEOPLE, EVERYDAY PEOPLE, IF YOU TRAVEL AND SEE BITS OF THE WORLD, THAT REGARDLESS OF CIRCUMSTANCE, ONE PARENT, TWO PARENTS, MAYBE THREE OR FOUR, IT ALL COMES DOWN TO CIRCUMSTANCES, THE PARENT THEMSELVES MEN OR WOMAN, SEPERATELY OR TOGETHER, TO RESPECT, LOVE, DEFEND, PROTECT, AND CARE FOR A PERSON THAT HAS COME INTO THIS WORLD. AT THE END, WITH EACH LIES HIS OWN. MAY ALL THE CHILDREN IN THE WORLD BE LOVED, BY ONE PARENT OR TEN, ALL WOMEN AND MEN.
Reply:Hello Clone.


I am now reporting you.
Reply:The cause is not single motherhood but poverty. Women who want to become single mothers on purpose probably have the financial means to do so.





And no. Feminism is not the reason for single motherhood. A lack of knowledge and use of birth control causes single motherhood.





I don't think that women are always needed to raise children either. A good man with the time and resources to raise a child could do just as good a job.


I am single but i am dating around and i feel like im cheating. Am i cheating am i picky too?

im goin to rephrase this ok. im a virgin i never had sex b4 but my cherry is popped the 2nd guy popped it with his finger and now he feel guilty and said sorry. i was told it grows back but i dont think its true. Im dating 2 guys at the same time but we not bf and gf according to them. They dont know each other but they say they single and im single so we just dating. The 1st guy is gorgeous and has a big package but he barely makes time for me and treats me more as a piece of booty rather than a gf iduno y i let him but it just happens. The 2nd guy he is not ugly and not cute. He treats me like a princess but he has a small package we barely see each other but he makes time for me when he can. Am i cheating even tho we r both considerd single and im dating around?and am i picky if i want the gorgeous guy with the big package? i would appreciate it if you would answer both so i can choose you as best answer for 10 points

I am single but i am dating around and i feel like im cheating. Am i cheating am i picky too?
well even though not everyone will think the same i dont feel like ur cheating. if you consider yourslef single then who would you be cheating with? as long as the other person doesnt feel like ur not being true to to him by being with the other then it u have nothing to feel guilty about. your cherry is popped and for good it doesnt grow back. and yes you are picky. but its not like its a bad thing ofciurse you are going to favor the most desirable. its human nature and any other person would no matter what they say
Reply:How old are you? im not even gonna say anything about the whole "cherry popin" thing. but i will for one second think ur old enough to even know what a "package" looks like n i'll tell u this, size doesn't matter! sure if he had an eceptionally SMALL one then ok, but why would u want to go out with an *sshole with a big d***. wouldn't u rather be with someone that will treat better than he treats himself n who maybe isn't quite as big!!
Reply:If I answered your question, it would be considered lewd conduct, as I would be talking to a minor.





Ask your parents, they should help you with the dilemma.
Reply:Who cares about a good looking guy with a package? They treat you like crap anyway, you'll be constantly be screwed.


Just make up your mind.
Reply:I'm not going to say both, because you don't need the answer you want, you need the truth. You're being shallow, and extremely immature, and you obviously don't know how to have a relationship or what love is. It sounds like you're just trying to figure out who would give you the best reputation to lose your viriginity to, and honestly I don't think the guy who treats you like a princess should even give you the time of day. The fact that you even said you want the other guy shows that. You can't have your cake and eat it too, so grow up and quit being immature, it isn't cool, even though you may think it makes you sound cool.
Reply:at this time you dont know if you like a big package or a smaller package as your a virgin but any way take the second guy as he treats you like a princess.. you will always have a good guy if he treats you like that... small or large
Reply:STOP posting the same question a million times.
Reply:wanting the gorgeous guy isnt picky, just shallow.
Reply:You're kinda okay. But if you find that special someone make sure you tell the other guys you'll found someone!


Are you single?

A woman walks into a supermarket and buys:





1 bar of soap


1 toothbrush


1 tube of toothpaste


1 loaf of bread


1 pint of milk


1 single serving of cereal


1 single serving frozen dinner


1 can of Soup For One


1 16oz can of Miller Lite





The guy at the checkout looks at her and says, "Single, are you?"





The woman smiles sweetly and replies, "How did you guess?"





He replies, "Because you're ugly."

Are you single?
A woman goes into Walmart with her kids, ages 7 and 9... The guy at the door gives her a cart, and says "Are your kids twins???"





The lady says "No, why, do you think they look alike???"





The man says, "No, I just can't believe you got laid twice!!!"
Reply:LOL, Are you single?


Is anyone single? I know I a am.?

I am currently single. Looking though. I have been single for a while, but am finally ready for a relationship after a dramatic heartbreak. I am currently 28. The highest age I would consider dating is 60. I do not need wealth to keep me happy, but I need some money to survive. If you are just looking for someone to share your life with. I am here and I would enjoy getting to know you. Anyone single and looking? I am available. I am smart. But a good partyer. I am not a creep. I am a follower of Jesus Christ. He is my Lord and Savoir. Oh yea. Not to mention, I'm still a virgin. I am waiting till i'm married. Give me a message! I'm looking forward to hearing from you. For my future husband. I love you and God Bless.

Is anyone single? I know I a am.?
Does this go along with the question you asked earlier about getting help for being a pathological liar? If you are telling the truth though, go through my profile and send me an e-mail. We can talk there.
Reply:Dammm Girl your 28 and you would date a 60 year old?
Reply:GIRL PLEASE! I SAY GIRL CUZZ U SAY U 28,AND U SAY U DONT NEED WEALTH BUT U NEED MONEY TO SURVIVE,,, ***** GET IT RIGHT U A GOLD DIGGA! 28 AND LOOKN FORANYONE UP TO 60 OK! ANNA NICOLE IS DEAD *****! AND U SAY U A VIRGIN %26gt;%26gt;YEH FUKN RIGHT! HOEZ WILL BE HOEZ~
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LMAO, sorry couldnt help it! this has to be the first time i ever saw somethin like this.
Reply:You sound like a really sweet girl, and you definitely deserve someone who can be with you in real life. Most of the people here are either to young, or are just not ready for a real relationship like you want. I must say I have the utmost respect for a girl who is waiting for marriage to have sex, its beginning to be a hard find these day. just hang in there, god would never let someone that sounds as amazing as you wait to long to find her perfect match.
Reply:I am but dont tell my husband.
Reply:...You should know internet dating never works...


People are going to think you're a rapist.
Reply:I'm single. Where are you from?

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When a single dropped coffee filter (or a stack of coffee filters) has reached terminal velocity?

is it one or more than one of the answer:





A greater net force acts on a stack of four filters than on a single filter?


A greater downward force acts on a stack of four filters than on a single filter?


A greater upward force acts on a stack of four filters than on a single filter?

When a single dropped coffee filter (or a stack of coffee filters) has reached terminal velocity?
The terminal velocity is constant: then a = 0 and net force = 0.


Is he single or taken?

First he says he can't believe he going on 30 years old and still single.


Then another time he says he a single guy in his 20's.


Then three weeks ago,he passed around a picture of,what people say is his girlfriend,and ask him how come he never talks about her,is he single or taken?

Is he single or taken?
He's a mess, period!
Reply:He is a loser!





Um, probably NOT taken.
Reply:he's probably single but telling everybody that he taken so he can feel good about himself and so he won't have to put up with all the pain of being lonely
Reply:sounds taken
Reply:Sounds like he is gay and is trying to hide it.
Reply:He is a liar. Do you want to get hooked up with a liar?
Reply:if he's going on thirty that means he is in his 20's generally mid-late 20's and both times he said he is single so he most likely is. The girl in the picture could be a ex girlfriend or a girl he is close to that people think he should be going out with or he wants to go out with. I'm not sure if your interested in him or not but if you are the best way for you to really find out is just to ask him yourself.....
Reply:hes just lying period
Reply:sounds like he is bypolar
Reply:Either way, he's a compulsive liar. So who cares?
Reply:Maybe he is still wearing the napkins. happy new year.


Is he single or taken?

First he says he can't believe he going on 30 years old and still single.


Then another time he says he a single guy in his 20's.


Then three weeks ago,he passed around a picture of,what people say is his girlfriend,and ask him how come he never talks about her,is he single or taken?

Is he single or taken?
The answer is : He's TROUBLE!
Reply:I agree with Danny. It looks like he nothing but trouble. Stay away. He's already not honest, and I don't think hes going to be honest. Good luck.


I'm single... if I do what the W-4 says, it would be 2 exemptions, not 1.?

Everyone tells me to put ONE exemption on form W-4, but if I do what the form says, it should be 2. Can someone explain? I'm single with one job:





A: Enter "1" for yourself if you one else can claim you as a dependant... TRUE... so I enter 1





B: Enter "1" if you are single and have only one job; or... TRUE... so I enter another 1





H: Add lines A-G and enter total here: 1+1=2





So why isnt it 2 exemptions for a single person with one job??





Should I put 1 or 2 ???

I'm single... if I do what the W-4 says, it would be 2 exemptions, not 1.?
That's correct! A single person with one job CAN claim 2 withholding allowances. At filing time you will be VERY close to even money with the IRS. You may get a tiny refund or have a tiny bill to pay, usually about $50 either way of even money. This gives you the most money in your paycheck throughout the year.
Reply:Smart move! TFTP! Report It

Reply:That's correct - if you are single and only have one job, then claiming 2 should get you very close to even for the end of the year - won't owe much, won't get much of a refund.
Reply:If you look at the bottom of the tax form were you have to check single, married, or married but claim single rate. That would be your first one then you put a 1 so your form would read single-1 that would be the 2 that you want to claim. I am unmarried and have no children but i claim this on my taxes. Plus i work as a bookkeeper so that should work out well for you.

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Are you a single divorcee ?

Life, and the matters of the heart. Hello world.


Z man here.... So, first comes love, then comes


marriage. There goes that word again. I cannot help


but think, that people these days, see marriage as


a luxury, rather than for the concept of true love. Doing


it for all the wrong reasons. Now I have a hard time


understanding, why some people get married, and still


act like they are single ! Why is that, can anybody, tell


me why ? And when they go back to being single,


they act as if, they never have been before.... Wow.


Did it really matter, in the 1st place. :) The question is,


are you a single divorcee ? Or in other words, are you


living the single lifestyle after marriage, and what is it


like this time around. Best answer wins. *

Are you a single divorcee ?
been divorced 17 yr now and still single, problem being all the woman I fancy and like are all happily married which makes it harder to get into a steady relationship ,but being single is ok by me
Reply:Best time of my life


lm my own person, lf l don't want to do anything in house l don't. Accountable only to me. Got my life back after 20 odd years no fear of violence in home by my ex
Reply:i am a man OK. Married men feel secure in there


marriage,so they can look for strange eye candy


and chicks.they slip the ring off.but can't hide the


white strip where the ring was.I am divorced and


have been for years.I DATE when i want to.I get


tired of women asking me about my divorce in detail.THEN SAY,You men are all alike..I have met some nice LADIES,BUT when they find out


I'm staying single.that's the end.
Reply:Harley, Digital TV, Lager, occasional Doris - wot more a man want?
Reply:I can smile about it now, but at the time it was terrible, oh mama let me go.
Reply:Be single divorced for 6yrs. The difference now is I have kids to worry about. Plus, I have learned from the mistakes I have made and now I'm more picky now. Now, being single has it's ups and downs too.
Reply:Ugh I am SO in this boat right now. I guess I agree with the other poster as I know what I DON'T want, which is why I worry I will be an eternal single-divorcee. But yes I am "dating" more than I did before, as I married a bit young (well in retrospect 25 WAS too young for me LOL!)
Reply:I'm separated right now and have been for a month. my friends are constantly wanting me to go out with them and stop crying all the time. i do not like being single. it's horrible. i did cherish my marriage but often took my husband for granted. i had a horrible temper that eventually drove him away. he is fed up with me. i want nothing more than to be with him and to come back home. i am one who cannot go back to the single life. i do believe in the sanctity of marriage. my life is no longer whole. to those who can divorce and move on so quickly....i find it to be a character flaw. i find it sad.
Reply:Its quite different this time - I know more what I want. Or maybe its what I don't want. I am able to enjoy dates without wondering all the goofy stuff, you know, does he like me or not? Am I laughing too loud? Is he going to kiss me goodnight? I am more able to be myself and if I want to be kissed good night I will make the move.
Reply:no i was never married and im only14 but i want ot get to the third level


28 and Single during holidays...?

What is it about Christmas time that makes other people become so intrusive into the personal lives of others? I am a single, straight, 28 year old male and I have always been single. That's right, I've never had a girlfriend or even experienced me first kiss. Big deal right? Well my parents leave me alone about this, but not my extended family, friends and even co-workers. It's especially weird at work because I never mentioned that I am currently single. Obviously people are really interested in my life for some reason. This conversation inevitably leads to everyone asking me why I still live at home. They just don't get that I have no need to move out and that my family enjoys living together. I live with my parents (rent free) and other adult siblings and everything is working out great. When I need to move out I will. When I need to have a girlfriend I will. Are people simply jealous that I have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities?

28 and Single during holidays...?
How many freaking times are you going to ask this question?





NO ONE IS JEALOUS OF YOU. We all feel BAD for you, because you have no idea what real life is like.





If you had a real life, you wouldnt be asking this question at all.





AT ALL.
Reply:Dude....watched Failure to Launch recently?


rent it .........
Reply:Yes, I agree, and it's not just Christmas, it's every day. There are so many ignorant, nosy, idiotic people out there. They spend so much of their time talking crap about others and getting into other's business. They are either insecure about their own lives so they downplay and criticize others or they are seriously bored and stupid, and they need an activity to do. Just ignore em because it is your life, and you're living it, not them so they have no right to talk ****. Good luck!
Reply:Trust me, nobody is jealous of you.





Seriously. Nobody.
Reply:The point of moving out is to grow up, build character, and experience life on your own, not with your parents.
Reply:I dont think there is a need for u to take their words so hard.
Reply:Yes, yes people are jealous. Just like they're so jealous of those completely free homeless vagrants on the streets with no financial responsibilities. I want to totally be that person. Single on the holidays is not the problem hun. The problem is you'll never move out of your parents or get a girlfriend because you desperately fear change. Go to a therapist NOW! Seriously, I'm not trying to be mean hun. But unless its due to religious reasons, I really don't think anyone should be a 28yo virgin. But if you're not a virgin but you've never had a girlfriend, then thats creepy. Are you paying someone for services? Maybe you're not even straight. I love my parents to death, but I 'm not going to be staying there till I'm 28 unless I'm a dang in home nurse and being paid for my service. You're parents don't know how to break it, but I'm pretty sure they want you to get out and find that special someone and have their grandbabies. You don't have complete freedom like this, you're lying to yourself.
Reply:Well, I'm only 19 so I can't technically relate. But I know the annoying reactions I get from people when I tell them I don't date. They can't seem to understand why someone would not want to date.


But I get that. And I can see why you would want to live at home too. You have money. haha You aren't struggling financially and thats great. I don't really think that people are jealous of this because they wouldn't want to live at home to have what you have...But the difference [and the point I am trying to make] is that you are happy with where you are in life. You are happy with your family and living with them. You are happy with the job you have and the money you make. You are happy being single and free to do what you want, when you want. And you are happy being 28 and straight. =] And thats all the reason you need. You don't need to explain that to anyone. What your saying is totally logical, and you should not worry if some people don't get that. All they need to know is that you are happy where you are in life, and that if they are so happy in their lives too, they shouldn't worry about you!


In fact, YOU are the one that should be giving out advice to them because you are content and they....well....they are not content with something that has nothing to do with them. haha


So tell them to get off your back, but in the nicest way possible. Because the bottom line is, they just love and care about you and want to MAKE SURE that you are really as happy as you say you are.


=] I wish you luck in convincing them of your happiness....and congratulations on having such a great family! [families that get along that well are hard to come by!]
Reply:And you'r point is ?/


i have been single , in a relation, single, for twenty yr's, and i am making it and am happy to spend Holiday's onmy own , not Lonely but on my own .
Reply:People may just know you and want the best for you, which in most peoples eyes include a significant other.





Honestly, the living at home thing is probably a bit unhealthy. I understand the financial aspects of it and the great family ties but I think it's unique that you have no desire to be out on your own...most people can't wait to do that.