Is being single a valid life choice?

I am in my early 30s and single, junior faculty/researcher at a decent university. I have been single (and virgin) throughout. I am beginning to think that if love were to happen, it would have happened by now, is that true? Married people "settle down", a phrase that means they will not/ are not really supposed to look for romance again (or rather, elsewhere). Is it time for me to "settle down" as well, albeit as a single man ?

Is being single a valid life choice?
It is a valid choice when it is a choice.





It is a sad reality when it is not by choice.





I have known several long-term "single" people who were really gay, but were raised in religious families and would have never considered the option. So, they were not motivated by the normal desires to find people of the opposite sex - and were constrained by upbrining from pursuing what might otherwise have been their normal orientation. Is this you???





If not - and you are just shy - why settle for being alone??? First off, you have got to stop playing video games every waking hour when you are not at work. You have to get out there and get a hobby. Take a photography class or tennis lessons. Lots of women there. Quit answering Yahoo Answers Questions and put your profile on Match.com or yahoo personals - you can meet people through there. Don't be such a schlubb.





Don't settle down if you don't want to - get up off your a s s and find someone for you - they are out there, you know. Lots of nice women looking for a responsible, young, reliable, nice professorial type.





Good luck!!!!
Reply:I don't think you should be looking for love or to "settle down", I think the main thing is you should just be happy with your life. If you are enjoying being single then that's fine, that doesn't mean you have to write off ever being with someone. You still have a lot of your life left and it is definitely possible that you will still find that person. Just let it happen, don't try to make something happen just for the hell of it.
Reply:you need first to have sex and then come here again and we'll tell you aboout the marriage bit. ok?
Reply:Love will come your way when you least expect it.
Reply:well, it took me until last yr. to fall in love I am 30. I thought it would not happen, but it did and I am glad I waited and did not settle like everyone else told me to. do what feels right for you and don't worry what anyone else thinks - they don't have to live your life - you do...
Reply:No honey, you are ONLY 30, HECK, you still have years before you need to "settle down". Don't give up on love or hope. It's out there for you, trust me. Sometimes it just takes time....
Reply:Settle down, sure, but don't give up. Your not dead yet!
Reply:No, if it is not something that you chose over all the other possibilities then don't settle! in fact you have to do the opposite and be more out going so that you can find the one that you are meant to be with. Your best bet might be in church since the virginity thing is considered more noble under religious pretenses. You are at the perfect age for a man to find the one any day now. Most women know that marrying a man over 30 is best bacause they have all that wild days out of their system!!! Get out there and go for what ever it is that you want.
Reply:love can come at any age and there is someone out there for everyone. trust me, it will come. don't give up. people say it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, but after everything i lost last time, i greatly disagree. but that is up to you to decide. you don't have to deal with immaturity or getting married too young or when you don't have a stable career when you finally find love. you are stable with yourself, and everyone knows in order to have a good relationship you have to be able to survive with yourself first. you are off to a great start. hang in there.
Reply:yes of course you should have settled down earlier but thats only if you want that type of family etc lifestyle and if you dont then i guess you can still live your life single if that is what you enjoy
Reply:You do what makes you happy. Ask your yourself: "is having a relationship something i want?" If you don't know how to answer your question than giving dating a chance...it won't be easy but try to give love a chance. It you want to be single than that's your choice. If you are happy that's what matters the most. It doesn't matter what others say, it's not their life it's yours!!


who knows maybe someone is eyeing right now. You haven't noticed because you've never thought about it!!!


hope to help!!
Reply:it's a perfectly valid choice, but i think you'll find as you continue living your life you'll find some one, and if not then as long as you're happy, who cares?