Sunday, August 22, 2010

Single or married student? any advise?

i have a lilttle enquiry to make and thus i want to know if one is applying for a visa to study in european country, do the the consulate ask whether u are married or single and if they do ask what should be the best answer, single or married? which one makes it easier for the visa? does been married hamper one's chances of getting a visa? thanks for your advise.

Single or married student? any advise?
tell the truth, it is the best answer.
Reply:just answer honestly. if u get caught later (since they do their reserches) u risk to get ur visa denied.


this may effect the possibility to get a visa for any other country.
Reply:If they did I'd say give an honest answer. You don't want to get in trouble with the law for giving false information.


Single or not?

well theres a girl and shes totally into me and im into her. but i want to stay single. i got out of a bad 4 months relation ship and found that i like being single better. i dont like being tied down. but im afraid if i dont ask her out she might run off with someone ealse...


what should i do? btw im 15 shes 14. she more experianced then me. i'm waiting till marrige for sex. and she want to do everything except sex.

Single or not?
tell her you like her but tell her you're also still getting over your previous relationship. she'll understand but dont wait too long you might just lose her.
Reply:ask her out
Reply:You could either tell her that you arent ready for a relationship yet but you want to be freinds until then or you could go ahead and ask her out and when ever she wants to do anything that you arent ready yet then just tell her. She will understand if she really cares about you. You will probly be surprised at what she wants to do if she is too quick you should tell her and she will understand and if she dont then she is a *****.
Reply:i would say stay single till you completely get over the effects of the bad relationship... so that those effect wont interfere with the future relationship... Keep her around but do not lead her on ... you might hurt her ....Let her know u are interested to keep her around and when you are ready ask her out
Reply:Well, if you really like this girl and get along with her great, then why not start a relationship with her. Good relationships should never feel like a burden, it should actually make you feel better. And like you said, you're both into eachother, so why not?
Reply:be in an open relationship with her
Reply:You should wait, befriend her, but wait... unless you're not necessarily hurting anymore from your previous relationship...


Try going on a date first and if you both enjoy yourselves, then you should totally go for it...


Age shouldn't matter in a relationship (of course, as long as the age doesn't surpass 5 years)...


If you really want to be with her and think you have the chance, then go for it, because when you don't, you'll leave yourself with the doubt and the "What ifs"...
Reply:You like being single....you want to be alone....so whats the problem if you don't ask her out she may leave with someone else........great, then you will be single and alone....whats so hard about that.
Reply:so do everything besides sex then have fun dude this chance only comes once in a life time dude and then ur a least some what experienced for the person who u want to marry
Reply:i agree with Captain S. dude what ur trying to say is u want to be able to have this girl on the side cause u liek being single but u dont want her to run off with someone else. U need to eat her box and make her yours
Reply:tell her that u just got out of a reltaionship and hopefully shell understand and girls want to go out someone and she probably wont tie u down see after 2 days if u want to be with her if u dont like her u dont hav 2 stick woth her its not like u have to get married or u can just like flirt with her ask her out on a date but it doesnt mean u 2 are dating and then u 2 can like hug kiss and talk or whatever u want to do





i hoped i helped


good luck
Reply:If you have the time later on please answer this question for me because I really want to know: How do you have a "bad, four month relationship" at 14?
Reply:i think you should go for her,because you may not find another girl like that.and if understands that you dont wana be tied down n stuff,then go for her.but who knows,you may really like her,and like it better than being single! GOOD LUCK! xoxo~kelli
Reply:You should ask her out, not all girls are the same and she probably won't tie you down and keep you from everyone. Just ask her out, see how the first few days go, and if you don't like her and prefer being single you can always stop dating.
Reply:I think that you went through a hard relationship and were recovering. Now, you're beginning to want to move on. Remember- every relationship is different. I would ask her out. Best of luck.


Single or dating?

Which one are you? Single and happy, Single and sad, Dating and happy, or Dating and sad?

Single or dating?
okey dokey i am dating and i am happy
Reply:single and sad i want john lol missyyyyyyy
Reply:single and sad i want my ex back
Reply:taken and happy (:





i wouldnt call it dating cuz im only in 8th grade and people dont really "date" haha i know weirdd.
Reply:single and sad
Reply:I just got back wih my ex :) happy as hell
Reply:Am I the only one who's single and happy?!?


Single Mom Support Group in So Cal or online support group?

Does anyone know of any single mom (parent) support groups here in So Cal (I am in Orange County). I would be a big help as part of my therapy is to find a single mom support group and become an active participant (and yes it is a want as well). Thanks for all the help!

Single Mom Support Group in So Cal or online support group?
I don't live in your area, but my suggestion would be to call around to some of the local churches. I know some of the churches where I live have a solid single parent network. Also talk to people at the library and also your children's school. I'm sure your kids will know who of their friends and classmates are single parents. You could even try the Red Cross, the local gyms, and some of the child care centers. Another option is to talk to people at the local Veterans Clinic. Often times support groups stem from spouses left behind by a serviceman. Best of luck to you, and hope you find a great group.





If nothing else, start your own.

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Single Dads in their 40's?

I am a single mother 40 dating a single father in his 40's. I am having a hard time figuring out if he is really interested in me. We communicate via email, texting and chatting. He only calls me when he is on his way to get me for a date. Our dating is on the sly since we don't want to involve our children in the dating process and we both have custody of our children. How do I know if he really likes me of if he is just in it for the sex.

Single Dads in their 40's?
If all he wants to do is have sex, then that's your answer.
Reply:if he happens to be a capricorn, theres your answer.
Reply:for sex only


go on till he is convenient to you
Reply:Tell him that you want to make this relationship right for you so you'll be celibate till you're married...see how he reacts..





You didnt really mention if you were interested in him or if you're just in it for the sex...hahahaha


Single mother, one child age four, estimated $2854.00 back sound right?

I am a 26 year old single female with a 4 year old child. I did a tax calculator, I put Head of Household, and claimed 1 dependant. I did not have any federal tax held out of paychecks and only made 12,000 in wages. I put daycare expense, 401K, and state taxes on deductions. It says I will get back $2854.00. I have not idea if this sounds right. It seems like single mothers usually get more than that.??? Can someone let me know if this sounds correct.

Single mother, one child age four, estimated $2854.00 back sound right?
Without more information it is hard to say if that amount is correct. The IRS, in conjunction with AARP, offers a free tax service called VITA for seniors and folks with low incomes. The service is free and you don't have to be a member to take advantage of the service. Check the AARP web-site or www.irs.gov to find a site near you.
Reply:With $12,000 and 1 child, your EIC should be $1266. With no Fereral withholding, you would need an additaional $1588 in refundable credits to receive a $2854 'refund'. Something sound wrong to me.
Reply:Nope. You're a little off





I have built a superquick tax calculator.





It's more like $2892. You forgot your Federal Telephone Tax Refund. It's $40 for you!





EIC = 2747 Additional Child Tax Credit = 105 Tel Tax = 40
Reply:I honestly don't know much about taxes, but I have a child as well. It seems like every single year, we get an estimate... we estimate ourselves (we file independently) and then we get an estimate from H%26amp;R and when we finally DO get our taxes back, it's always much less than both estimates. So all I want to say is: don't depend on any estimate you get. Just wait until the check is in your hands before you start spending it in your head. To be completely honest, $2,854 sounds much too high if you made $12,000 in wages, but I could be wrong.





Sorry I'm not much help with the question, I just want you to have a heads-up.


Single mums?

How many of you guys would truly be interested in a single mother?honestly?





I`m 24 and been left a single mum and just dont imagine any guy would want to be around someone elses child.

Single mums?
soooo not true!!!!





and you know it lady!!!haha





as it happens the world is'nt full of assholes only a selected few!!which probibly happens to be the few we've met!!lol a man should like you for who u are and not what u have.if someone really really likes u then he has to be prepared that you come with a package!!and as for not being able to bring up someone elses kids!!it's easy ave done it and a kno of a lot more people who has too!!then again a suppose ma circumstance's are well different to your's but they arn,t mine and i have them.





so any one out there that won't go out with someone because they have children there is really only 1 word for use!!!!





SHALLOW!!!!





cause think of it this way one day use might be in the same fkn boat!!!!
Reply:There are loads of people.





Just you make sure that you don't introduce new men to your child unless you have been seeing them for a while and can trust them.





It confuses the children as to who these 'new' guys are and makes things for the kids unstable.





More importantly, you will need to ensure that you trust the person, weird people pray on the 'vulnerable single mother' who feels no one else will want her... Protect your child from these predators.





That's my advice really. Your new man will come when the time is right.
Reply:no probs on that. i have dated and lived with a single mum....she has 2 children...and i can honestly say that it is the best thing that happened to me. when i was divorced my children were practily grown up, and it gave me a chance to give her children the same attention i once gave mine. i can now sit back and see what they have achieved, and wonder if i was not present woulod they have turned out the the way they did. take heart there are a number of us fellas who would welcome an instant family . so good luck and take your choice wisely.xx
Reply:what the question shouldn't be about who would want to date you ...i was once a single mom no problem getting dates...only problem was finding the right man that deserved to be around my great daughter.....it took a little while to find the right person and we've been together for 14 years now....woman to woman .....always present yourself as self sufficient and confident never let a man know you are not confident in yourself this is just asking for the wrong type of guy ....always put you children before a man....i know i will take alot of heat for this answer but this is my belief.....your b/f is your b/f for now that could some day change,but your children are your children for life......
Reply:I'm 21 yo graduate. Dating the woamn isn't really a problem (providing she's great, which I presume you are), it's just sometimes the commitments needs juggling about.





I may date ya.
Reply:dated single mum be4 , was ok but she didn't want any more kids
Reply:I've been out with several single mums. If you like/love someone then you accept them as they are baggage and all (bad choice of phrase I know) - what I mean is the woman comes as a package with her child/ren. If someone doesn't want to be with you just because you have a child, then they really aren't that interested anyway. You definitely shouldn't be writing yourself off!
Reply:Wouldn't be interested atall to be honest.
Reply:sometimes i think that i wouldn't want a single mum because i feel like a last resort:


i.e. they didn't want me when they didn't have kids.





but if i met a nice girl whose kid was still quite young and might want another there's no reason why not.
Reply:no offense, but i wouldn't.





there are guys that don't mind though, but you have to watch out though, they are most of the time just for hooking up, and think that single moms are up for anything because they are despirate.





just to much bagage, most guys go looking for a woman, not a kid, plus the drama of having another guy involved in your life, plus knowing that he screwed the heck out of you many occasions, or if the father died, now the guy has to deal with the emotional trauma stuff.





most guys will just pass on all of that unless they are looking just for sex.
Reply:Hi hun. I too am a single mom and I could write a book on the subject of single parents and dating.





Please do not let a man tell you that your children are BAGGAGE, children are precious gifts. A lot of men are bitter towards single moms because a lot of these women could not let go of what happened to them in their past relationships, so they do not know how to handle themselves when a normal guy comes into their lives.





Remember to never put a man before your children it is not worth it!





It is important that you do not introduce any man you are dating to you children until you are completely committed to one another. Children do not understand what dating means and it saves you a lot of heart aches.





You are going to find more men out there that are only looking for a free ride because they think we are in desperate need of a man, and that we want nothing more than sex. A lot of these men are liars, already married, and are ONLY looking for sex.





I do want to say that there are a lot of sincere men out there that know a loving, strong, sincere single mom is the way to go because we have a head on our shoulders, and we are NOT into the dating games, and we know what we want in our lives.





Stay strong mom and things will work out to your advantage. You will meet that wonderful, sincere man that loves you and your children.
Reply:I've date a single mom before. Got along great with the child, we were just too different. I think there are tons of guys out there that would date a single mom. Just be careful, because like any other women, there are guys that are attracted just because they think they are easy. But don't give up yet, I am sure you will find the right guy. :)
Reply:dont be silly , if the guy likes u he ll take on the child
Reply:Lots of dads don't want to be around their own child either! I'd date a single mum. I'd expect that she'd have fewer spare hours than a childless lady and more often exhausted, but needn't impact on us.


Single eyelids problems?

I have one double and one single eyelid. This make my eyes look weird, having big and small eyes. I am currently 15 years old and wondering if there is any product in Singapore for me to make my single to become double.

Single eyelids problems?
Go to Sinma, and ask for a double eye lid sticker. It's not painful to apply. and last quite long and gives you natural double eyelid after a few months





Hope that helps
Reply:There is a double eyelid product that I thought you might be interested in.


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Reply:use an eye pencil on the single one to give an impression of a double eyelid.
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Single people over 30?

Do you tend to look at the married and divorce questions just in the hopes that a older single will ask something...


Woulsn't it be nice if yahoo had and older singles Q and A.


I'm not talking full blown adult ..Although that would be nice lol..


Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that teens have a place to ask questions..But it's very annoying when and adult question is asked and you have to try and decide if the person is a minor

Single people over 30?
Advice is advice no matter age, race, sex etc. Everyone had thier own experiences and views and to share them is interesting for the most part. Having others understand and relate is also kinda cool.
Reply:I agree with you. I am 46 and I wish they had an adult site but there is no way to regulate it.
Reply:I agree
Reply:I can usually tell if the person is very young just by the answer they give or the question they ask. Sometimes its just an idoit adult but most of the time its young people. But that is kinda cool just think maybe you can give some of that wisdom you have learned from experience to those who need it and hopefully use it. And yes I am over 30, 32 to be exact.
Reply:come on most of them start with well i was at school.but i think your right it would be nice to have something that's was for older people,i think if i read another 100 word question about my best friend want talk to me any more all scream
Reply:I'm married
Reply:Good idea. I am 48 and find this site very juvenile.
Reply:If it's good advice then who cares how old they are! I'm 35 and OLDDDDD!!!!!!
Reply:Just give proper advice to those who needs help.


Single for too long?

I'm 26 and I've been single for nearly 6 1/2 years. I'm a single mom of one and I work full time. I'm almost always broke. All the advice I get is for online (which I've tried and NOT had good results with), gym (I go and the guys keep to themselves), work (I'm in a small office and the two times I've gotten involved with anyone at work it's turned out badly), church (not really much of a church-goer anymore and never met anyone when I was) and pursuing hobbies (hard to do with a baby in tow and most of the hobbies I like are a little pricey). Any practical ideas on meeting someone? Someone for a relationship, not just a hook up because that's the last thing I want. Or advice on how to get better results from the places I've tried and failed before? I'm pretty and fun and a really good person. Just seem to be invisible to men.

Single for too long?
the reason you seem invisable is that you are too quiet with your body use it to talk and try as many new things as possable like clubs and traveling this will introduce you to new people.


Single core better than dual core in gaming?

I heard a single core CPu is better than a dual core in gaming because most of the games out there only support single core.


is that true? So i should get a pentium 4 instead of a core 2 duo =.=?

Single core better than dual core in gaming?
Don't invest in old technology.


There are already games available that can take full advantage of dual core technology ... %26amp; more are surely on the way.





Your older games will run just as well on a mid to high end dual core PC.





regards,


Philip T
Reply:Core 2 Duo is the best CPU to get right now. There are some artificial cpu tests that will show better performance from an Pentium D than a Core 2--but those are only testing cpu speed, not actual performance. The only reason to get a Pentium would be for a bottom dollar budget. Check out the link for some comparisons.


Single mother confused?

I'm a single mom with 2 kids, I'm finding it very hard to met a guy who just doesn't want a one night stand or who isn't a player, is there any good guys out there who isn't afraid of a single mom. If you a man %26amp; going to reply back to this stop %26amp; really think before answer this we are no different than those women out who hasn't been married or those ones who don't have kids, why do you men freak out when you hear their's kids involved, %26amp; I hate it when a man tells a friend he's just not ready for a ready made family, that family when their before he was.

Single mother confused?
There are good guys out there if you keep looking, it's just that too often you find the bad ones. Don't give up though!
Reply:One of my friends had 4 children from 2 previous marriages. She finally found Mr. Right for her. Now she has 5 Kids! Still with him too. Been 10 years. So do not settle for less. Report It

Reply:you get a bad rap, I would have no problems with a single mom but I'm an old married guy, many of the 30/40 something guys I work with will not go out with a single mom.
Reply:keep looking and youll find one like my mom did
Reply:I pray that you understand that true love is not found in a man. True love is only found in Jesus Christ. Please trust him and I'm telling you the man he has for you is just waiting for you, and I know he is all hat you desire. So seek Jesus and I PROMISE you , you will not be disappointed.





A mans love waivers like the wind


But our Lord Jesus is forgiving towards any sin


God Bless.
Reply:sounds like your looking at boys not men.
Reply:im a single mom of 3 kids it took me a long time to find mr right keep searching around go ahead and just be friends at first if u mention about your children dont ask if he wants to be involved its his decision just take everything real slow if he likes you that much he'll ask you out and go on the next step... just keep searching for the right one and make sure hes right for your children! make sure you find out what he wants in a relationship too does he have children does he want to date someone else with children etc hope everything works out and something comes near!
Reply:Guys that do that think there still in grade school, and do not want someone else responsiblities, I have 3 children and 31, and I finally found someone who loves me and my children, I would not date anyone who did not respect me or my children I am a package and I do not care, but we all deserve to be loved and cared for, but just be carefull when you do find someone who does not care if you have kids and will enjoy time with you and the children, sometimes there looking for that mother figure as well, but this one is easy the guys or should I say boys refuse to grow up, and do not want some other guys/mans kids in there life, this is an ongoing issue before I was born even my mother was born, sometimes I think why couldn't it be like in the old days guy gets girl pregnant marries her and supports the family, but it is now the 2000 yr and guys no longer want responsiblity they want to be that little boy for life, mind u not all guys are like that, just keep looking and remember do not settle for a guy that wants another mother in his life, but one that loves you and your family there are still a few guys out there like that, not many. Good Luck!
Reply:Relax and lower your guard a bit, you are like any other person who need a date not just for the sake of sex but due to the need for good company, for someone to share your feelings with, and to generally feel good being cared about. And just stop being aggressive. You might be scaring away many by doing that. Let things happen on their own.
Reply:brutal honesty.





1. If someone isnt ready to "settle down" then forget it. being with someone who has kids is like being married in a way. Many men dont want to just BAM be in a relatioship that resembles marriage.


2. Men dont want to get all close to children knowing that because you arent married there is a chance they could hurt the children by breaking up with you.


3. They are single and dont have kids. Being with someone with kids makes a man feel suddenly tied down and obligated to provide love and care for all of you even though the kids arent his, which can be awkward.


4. and for the last main reason. They dont want kids getting in the way of the relationship and they know that they no doubt will, which is an instant problem before you even get started.
Reply:Yes, they are out there. I began dating my husband when my daughter was three months old, and from the beginning, she came on all of our dates, she was included in everything. Anything less I wouldn't have tolerated. Trust me, they are there. :)
Reply:Well, You hit home. I am a single mother also. I only have one child though. Its hard to find a good guy without kids even harder with kids. All the guys I end up meeting say they want to meet my child and be a family. That all ends up being bull****...
Reply:I am sorry baby..thier are some good men out there...but it takes a very good man to accept another man's children in his life..some men see a single mom as a easy piece..just take it slow baby..dont rush into sex right away ..and make sure its seriuos before you bring hime around the kids..because they a need a mans love also..they get attached ..then you break up...and it hurts them also baby
Reply:They are out there, they are just harder to find. When I was single I met several single moms that I saw the potential for a long term relationship with. The fact they had kids did not scare me away. In fact to some degree I had more respect for them and the fact that they managed so well to have such great lives and were able to provide for their kids. I think you just have to continue looking and be picky till you find the right guy who will respect the fact you have kids and your only interested in a very real relationship.
Reply:It took me about 6 months to finally introduce my child to my current husband. Until I didn't know that the relationship was going to be serious I didn't expose my child to him.


My advice to you is: Be prepared to be independent financially and emotionally. Make that person aware that your children come first and that they are your priority in life. If a man can't accept, then he is not good for you and you are better off without him. You don't want to expose your children to someone that can change and become a nightmare for you and and them.
Reply:what i see going on here is that you are looking at boy's... take a long look at what you realy want a man to be, then look at the guy's that you've been looking at... they arn't the same...





now, go back to what you want from a man, and find him...





on a side note, many men (that i know) don't want to be with a woman that has a(any) kids because they don't feel that their ready to be a father to kids that age... they want to start from a baby... so they learn as they go...





personaly, i'd rather skip the baby part... no dipers, less being woken up in the middle of the night...





but in that case, you also skip the part where there is no kids at all... taking each other in all area's of the house:)





it's all a give and take...





one piece of advice, keep the kids seperate to begin with, don't expect, or even ask him to do something for the kids in the begining... that'll help keep em longer i think...
Reply:Please don't say that women without kids and women with kids aren't different. We are. We expect more.
Reply:ok
Reply:Sassy,





There are plenty of men who do not freak out when they hear that the lady they wish to date have children. I think it comes with the level of maturity and self confidance the particular man has. Just know that men who are not scared by the so called "Ready made family" do exist.
Reply:You're a young woman and they are young men. The majority have only sex on their minds. It's the way of the world, honey. So go about your business and enjoy your life. Before you know it you'll meet someone who respects you and loves your kids. You're just looking too hard right now and that makes you seem desperate. Godloveya.
Reply:I'm in the same boat - single mom with one child. Between school activities and long work hours, I don't get a lot of time to go out and meet guys in the first place. I always wonder when the best time is to tell the guy about my daughter. I usually wait until I feel like the relationship looks like it might be heading in a serious direction.


If he knows about your kids and then uses them as an excuse to end the relationship, I doubt he's telling the truth. He probably just doesn't want to be in the relationship. Or maybe he didn't realize how much work it would be to date a single mom, in which case you've made him think twice about doing that to someone else.


Hang in there - there's good ones out there...at least that's what they tell me.
Reply:i had a similar experience with a single mom(one night stand), but i knew the baby dady, he used to be my friend, and the mom didn't understand my need for a one night stand... she hates me now, but he only reason i didn't go back, was for one i felt weird doing that, and he found out and wants to kill me, so whatever, but if you got a mean baby daddy that might be one reason, and another guys dont wanna settle down, they have kids and settle down or leave, i wish u well
Reply:Most Men are immature and are not ready to take on the responsibility and some men just don't want to deal with the baby daddy drama. But, yes there are men out there who are not afraid of an already made family i found one and so will you. Try going to some type of singles club or meetings their are also single fathers out there with kids.
Reply:Some men are opposed to "ready made families" because the father of these kids is usually an ****** who makes their lives a living hell OR the kids misbehave because they haven't been made to act right. Then there are some guys who just want a woman who can take off at a moment's notice without having to worry about who'll watch the kids. Then... there are decent guys who'll love you no matter what.
Reply:They are out there, don't give up.
Reply:I am a single mom and I can tell you there ARE guys out there that will accept your children. If they don't want to accept your kids, they aren't for you anyway. I don't know how old you are but most of the time a guy a bit older than you will be more willing to accept your ready made family. My boyfriend is nine years older than me and it is great. Guys my own age aren't ready for the life I have to live.
Reply:RESPONSIBILITY is hard to accept for some men.

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Single, like forever?

I have been single for AGES and it doesn't look like that's gonna change anytime soon. I believe in taking it as it comes, and when you're least looking, that's when someone will turn up, however, I always go out for a good time with the girls, and that's what I get.





Whenever I moan about being single, my friends say, "well you aren't really looking, are you?"





I don't want to go out with the intention of looking for a man, in case I am truly disappointed, and referring back to what I said earlier, it always comes round when you are least looking.





Anyone else find themselves in a similar situation?

Single, like forever?
me, too. I am a model, have long, endless legs and look neat. I got constantly hit on my man who want a one night stand. I started doubting I ever got a decent man at all. Ah, and if you start "looking", these men interpret "looking for a man" as "looking for some no strings attached sex". I have been there, done that. First they hit on you and wonder "how come someone like you can't get a man", then when they get that it's not just a put in-take out you are looking for (plenty of those around), they disappear. If you find out how to avoid that, let us all know.
Reply:oh yeah me too
Reply:Well for one thing do you smile? coz depressed looking girls are a no-go for a nice chat.


besides that your looks might be abit intimidating or vice versa.


Just act friendly( thats if your not) and guys will find it easier to approach you.


theres a saying "girls with a frown, leave her down. girls with a smile, will bare your child"
Reply:of course you don't have to chase love but a bit of an effort is needed here. One needs to show men that she's available for them, if you act like you don't care, no man will ever approach you. Plus if you like someone maybe you should do the first move in a feminine way of course. good luck. Mind you, being single for a long time gives habits and reduces the probability of finding someone. Be vailable . GOOD LUCK !
Reply:It's true that you are more likely to find someone if you are not specifically looking for someone unless you meet a man who is also looking for someone, the problem there is that you go out with each other for the wrong reasons.





However, while still not looking you need to expand your circle of friends, if all you ever do to socialise is to go out with the girls then when do you give a chance for the tall, dark, handsoem man to meet you.





Try branching out to try some new hobbies, you go there for something to do and make some new friends, if you're lucky you'll meet someone with a similar passion in amongst them all.





It worked for me and i found the perfect person; having been single for an extremely long time and believeing i wouldn't find anyone unless i "looked".
Reply:I have been into your situation for so long until i found myself looking for one. And because i rushed in finding someone, that put me into a bad situation. To cut the long story short, i met the wrong man and until now i am still suffering with my actions. So, may i suggest that just be patient and don't rush. For sure God created someone who is meant for you alone. You just have to wait for the right time you'll gonna meet him. Pray for God's guidance to help you find The One.
Reply:Yes, I've given up looking, not that I ever went out to look either. So much so I'm rubbish at it now, every now and then I do try, and it does work, but the men bore me with their standard chat up lines. Its like a game to them, and I'm bored playing.





So where does that leave me or you? Its frustrating, I feel like a fool waiting for 'thunderbolts' that I'm beginning to think don't exist (is that what I get from reading too much fiction?) I'm sure men feel the same way, maybe there are thousands of single people who are bored playing games with each other? You never know.
Reply:i was single for a very long time, and i thought the same as you then when i was least expecting it i started talking to someone and there was just a sudden spark like nothing ive ever had before and now me and my spouse have been happy for a long time and will be for a long time to come im sure, just stick it out and trust your instincts that something will come it will be alot better than if you go looking for guys numbers on nights out
Reply:Actually, for me I enjoy sharing a warm relationship with my partner. However, if he was not in my life, it would be less interesting, but I have never actively sought a partner. It just began as sharing a lunch table in a crowded deli, we began a conversation, and agreed to try to share lunch together again. I was 3 pr 4 days before we connected again, and I enjoyed his openness, his self appreciation, his sophisticated humor, and his good grooming. We exchanged phone numbers, and it was I who phoned him and asked him if would be interested in seeing a particular movie I had been wanting to see. He was interested in that movie as well, and we just became more comfortable with each other with each social participation. We both knew we liked each other, but I wanted to truthfully aware of his past picadillos, I was not embarassed to expose mine. Before I decided I thought I'd like to have a sexual relationship with him, I explained that we would go together to the Public health clinic and be tested for std's We were both clean, but I still insisted that we use condoms. At first he was reluctant, but I was adamant about that. I did not, and still not want to reproduce a life, nor get genital herpes, HIV, or Hep.C. Now our use of condoms is routine, and when the time is right, I roll one over his penis. Sometimes I get "stimu ribs" and turn them inside out so he can experience the benefits of the rubber ridges. Sometimes I buy colored condoms, or flavored condoms, and we both enjoy the prelude to sexual activity. Just understand that one day, you will make a connection with a guy, but please, don't patronize him. Most secure males I know appreciate intellect, spontaniety, romantic weekend in some nice affordable hotel or motel, sometimes I wear pasties on my nipples under a sheer chamise. He really likes that, but I make him wait for those occasions. Sometimes we find a dark deep doorway in some building, and have a quickie in the doorway. Use your immaginaton. We are monogmous with each other, but it' s choice not an expectation. So, hang in there kiddo. Today may be the day.

















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Reply:Everyone has their off season.Just be yourself and think positively.Act as if you have a bf.Guys will start to pay attention.
Reply:No because I don't go out with the girls, but seriously you will find it in the most unlikely of places..
Reply:i really had no intention of getting hooked onto someone (personal feeling), trying to get my studies and my sport into stablization





yea, but you're right, whats meant to b will in the end be just like what they always tell me, 'things happen when you least expect it)





gd luck!


Single statues... he's in the game -should i strike out on purpose??

this guy just broke up with his girlfriend b/c she cheated on him with some guy from another school in a tent. this guy found out by her two best friends came up to him and told him. this girl is my friend- i casualy talk to her everyday and we sit together in one of my classes she told me she didn't and i believe her but i heard from another friend her b/f said this guy was going to break up with her anyways b/f they broke up.





ANYWAYS


- this guy is real cut and funny, sweet, not a player, and lives out where i do.


should i go for this guy do you think? i think i have a 60% chance but idk.





i'm not shy. i'm open and funny, and i am attractive, athletic,not shy and like an ideal catch what ppl've said-not to be cocky. i'm a lot like his g/f too but different you know.





what would you do? your thoughts?


i think i'm gonna go for it [start flirting]


he's single i'm single. or do i not go for it.








** OH he plays football. this friday should i ask to wear his jersey?

Single statues... he's in the game -should i strike out on purpose??
so you want to hook up with your friends ex? She doesnt seem too interested in this guy at all so go for it.
Reply:Yeah, go for it!!


Single Mom in need of advice from those single moms who are making it, especially those in Phoenix?

I am a 20 y.o. single mom with a 6 week old baby. I am currently staying with my parents but per their request I need to find somewhere else to live, and need to relocate back to Phoenix to finish my degree (only have 20 credits left). Right now I'm taking a full-time class schedule and am not working as I don't have anyone to watch her and I can't seem to make enough money on my own to come out with a profit after childcare costs - my parents will only watch her in emergencies.





Here's problem 1 - how do you get a place to live without first having a job - but how can you get a job in another town without first having a place to live?





Also, what sort of jobs allow you to take your child with you? Or how do you get around losing so much money to childcare? I would do Avon or Mary Kay but I can't sell stuff at all so I know it wouldn't be a good venture for me.





Any specific gov't or private programs that could help me to continue school and manage to live on my own?

Single Mom in need of advice from those single moms who are making it, especially those in Phoenix?
You're child is entitled to child support from her dad, you not pressing it, is robbing her of that $... just another way to think about it... but back to your main questions:





I really don't know much about gov't services in the USA. I live in Ontario Canada, my daycare costs are subsidized, back when I was a student and only working part-time, I only had to pay $40/month. So maybe you chould look into whether they have child care subsidy in Phoenix.





As far as I know, in order to get an apartment when you have no job, you either need to find a place in a bad neighbourhood, like where people on social assistance would be accepted as rental candidates, or ask your parents to co-sign. You should look into subsdized housing as well. Maybe consider a shelter, they can help you get a place quicker.





As far as jobs where you can bring your kids, the only thing I can think of is working as a nanny, many families will allow you to bring your baby with you if they like you. You could also look for a live-in nanny position, that way you'd be taking care of a job and a place to live.





Good luck, I'm a single mom of 6 year old twins... but I never had it that hard.
Reply:1) Subsidized Housing. Each area has it's own name for the places that are subsidized. Unfortunately, subsidized housing in Phoenix has a long wait.





2) Child Care Connections offers referrals and financial assistance for child care.





3) Your local welfare office. They can offer support such as money, food help, and medical until you back on your feet. They may be able to help you get child support from the child's father.





4) W.I.C. (Women, Infants, and Children) is offered by most heath departments. They help you provide milk, juice, cheese, eggs, and formula.
Reply:welfare can help you get on your feet. thy can pay for your day care and get you in school and some can get you a car .jest call them and see what thy can do for you. and you need to let the father pay you or he can go to jail if he don't
Reply:You should check with your school for daycare programs. I'm 19, in college and pregnant (so I'm doing a lot of research), and my university offers daycare for the children of students and faculty members for a lot cheaper than everywhere else. They have scholarships available too for students that can't afford that.





Also, my school (and a lot of other ones) has an apartment community for student families that offers a LOT cheaper rent; if your school offers something like that, look into it. Here at least, they can put it on your student bill so that you don't have to pay it up right away.





I don't know of any government programs or anything that can help you, but I really recommend taking a day to go to your school and talk to a counselor/advisor about everything. They often have lots of information that is hard to find just by searching on the internet. If you ever need to talk or rant or anything, feel free to email me...I know how hard it is to not have the full support of your family. Good luck!





Oh, and you should definitely be getting that child support. The baby is half his...He'll pay up or end up in jail...lol


Single father in need of help! Who are good role models for young girls these days?

I am a single father and I have an 8 yo daughter who totally loves Hannah Montana and She likes Ashley Tisdale as well. I was just looking for some opinions from other parents on what they think of Hannah Montana, Ashley Tisdale, High School Musical Cast, Raven and others? Who do you let your kids watch and listen to and who don't you? I just see so many kids on Y/A talking bad about some of these people yet I have nothing wrong with Miley Cyrus but I do no know alot about the others. I try my best to keep up on what my daughter is into, but being a single father sometimes it is hard.





I AM NOT LOOKING FOR OPINIONS FROM KIDS ON THIS MATTER! PARENTS PLEASE!





Thanks!

Single father in need of help! Who are good role models for young girls these days?
I think Miley and Ashley are fine as well as Raven.


Why don't you guys together look up women who did things to change society? or women athletes...


There are lots of great women to look up too.
Reply:I'm a parent, I have a 2 year old and a 4 year old. I actually enjoy watching shows like Hannah Montana, and That's so Raven. I like that they can be clean and funny. My mom who is 48 also likes to watch these shows with me somtimes. I think these shows are very appropriate for young girls looking for good role models. Especially because outside of their acting the actors are all good kids, that you never hear bad things about.
Reply:Hillary Clinton and Oprah Winfrey. Im a kid but DEAL W/IT PPL
Reply:my cousin has 2 girls 9 and 11 and she really likes hannah montana she thinks she is a good role model.
Reply:IN MY PERSONAL OPINION, THERE ARE NO GREAT ROLE MODELS ANYMORE, HANNAH MONTANA GETS DRUNK ON HER BIRTHDAY, ASHLEY TISDALE IS 20 something and she is gonna mess up horribly soon, her role models shoud be good christians, or you her father, in my opinion that is............
Reply:The first problem is the fact that you allow her to decide what she is "into". You need to be the one influencing her not the television or any other technical device. I hate to ask (being afraid of the answer) but what did your parents do with you when you were eight years old? They didn’t allow you to listen to your Ipod nor watch music videos on television I bet….LOL (On second thought perhaps they did and that is why you have the problem at hand.)





Get her into a camp or outdoor club of some sort, have her play sports, etc. Typically, parents that have these problems with their children are introducing new age technology too soon and are not instilling old school parenting techniques.
Reply:The greatest role model for your daughter is yourself...i don't censor my daughter from much but she know well enough what is right and wrong by the example that i set and what i say to her...most importantly i stand by what i say.
Reply:You are first by far. I may get thumbs down for this but I think oprah is a good role model.
Reply:I think you first....then, if you're talking tv role models, Raven Simone, I like Miley Cirus,,,, High School Musical...they are all good kids....don't let the Jamie Lynn Spears of the television crowd, get you down...


I Carly..is a hoot as well...I hope my granddaughter grows up with Sam's attitude!!
Reply:This is an answer I gave the other day about the Hannah Montana shows etc. and the role model issue.





I have only watched it a few times, but I see nothing wrong with it. I would not allow my 14 yr old daughter to date, but I do not think it will corrupt them to see a 14 yr old on TV that dates. This is sometimes where parents get so ridiculous, at some point you have to teach your children TV is far from reality, so what they see does not always mean it applies to their life. By the way my kids are 7 and 9 (girls) and my 9 yr old is dying to watch a little more grown up shows, and these type I think are exactly right, a little more freedom but no sex etc., and it has only been peck kissing that I have seen on any of these type of shows.





My main point in all of this is, you and the people you choose to be close to your child are the role models for them. I try to lead by example for my daughters of what a good person should be.
Reply:Chief Justice John Roberts
Reply:you are the role model,the most important one in her life..
Reply:We don't have cable, so my 6 year old isn't really aware of the popular 'stars'. Right now, her role models are still mostly Disney characters. ;-) I do try to point out the achievements of women scientists, doctors, authors, athletes, etc., and we do discuss the importance of education and effort vs. things like looks or stardom. My hope that she will have a more balanced view of women's roles once she does become more aware of popular culture.
Reply:I have a 5 and 11 yrs old daughters and they both love hannah and ashley and the high school musical cast. I liked the way they are exposed to music in a decent way compared to south park cartoons or rugrats. These kid artists are educated and well mannered kind of entertainers. I loved it when my 5 yr old would dance and sing to the music and pretend that she's in one of hannah's shows.

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Single Parents-Have you ever lost a job due to childcare issues?

I am curious to know how many single parents have ever lost a job because they could not find qualified childcare? Or, the childcare you had made your child constantly sick so you had to miss work (daycares)? I am finding it to be the hardest thing in my life as a new parent and especially being single with no living family as a back-up plan. Though I am excellent at what I do, College educated, and considered a valuable employee, the childcare issue is always at the forefront. Now it may even cause me to lose my job.





Any personal experiences with this would be much appreciated. Thank you.

Single Parents-Have you ever lost a job due to childcare issues?
I believe, if your child's sick, the FMLA(?) says you can't be fired. If it's just daycare issues, and your a valuable employee, I think you boss will try to be understanding to the fact that your child has to come first. Good Luck.
Reply:I am not a single parent but yes I have lost a job because I needed to be home with my child during a difficult time.


Both my daughter and I have worked with children and I feel it is very important to have a back up plan. Perhaps there is a college near by where you could get names of girls who you could call when you need them. Even with that, you will need more then one name because of scheduling conflicts.


Good luck to you.
Reply:I worked a lot of night shifts on a Gyn-oncology unit. My mom lived with us, so the kids were not alone at night, but my youngest, then 11, hated being alone on the second floor of our house. My bedroom is across the hall from hers. My mom's was on the first floor and my son's room was in the basement.


She was so afraid to be upstairs alone she started sleeping on the living room floor. I would come home at 7 am to find every light on in the house. She started to sleepwalk, have nightmares, etc. She thought that if something happened, no one would be able to hear her call for help.


So, I went to Human Resources to see if I could get a different position that would require either day shifts only or day/evening rotation without the graveyard shift. The woman listened very sympathetically (I thought) and then said, that yes, she agreed that for the good of my family , I did need to change my hours. She said they had nothing available that would meet my needs. She wished me good luck. I was let go the next day. (I'm an RN, had received good performance reviews, was reliable, etc)
Reply:I was a single parent for 5 years. I worked for a dental office owned by a corporation. When I had been there for about 3 years, and had worked my way up the ladder to being the back office manager, the corporate office discovered that they could make more money if they required our office to be open till 7 pm 2 nights a week and every Saturday. In the beginning, I did a swing shift with another assistant. I would work from 8-5 and she would work 10-7 on these late days. We would either trade off Saturdays, or I would work the morning and she would work the afternoon. After a few weeks, the corporate executives said that they wanted both of us there at all times. My office manager explained to them that I had worked for them for over 3 years, was the back office manager, and that I was a single mom, whose daycare did not stay open that late nor did it open on Saturdays. They told her very bluntly "Either she works the hours we set, or you get yourself a new back office manager." My being the employee who had worked in that office for the longest, and being in a manager position, didn't matter to them at all. I decided right then that I did not want to work for people like that, so I quickly found another job, and put in my notice. I only gave 1 week, and they had the gall to complain that I wasn't giving them 2 weeks. As if they deserved it, after what they did to me. I also lost 10 days of paid vacation when I left. But there was nothing else I could do. I coudn't work the hours they needed me to, and wouldn't have wanted to anyways.





My boss now, has no children and isn't married. He has very little compassion for the moms in the office. One of my co-workers had a child with pinkeye and had to stay at home with him for 2 days. I walked in on him complaining to the office manager about it, and when he saw I had overheard him he turned and asked me "So what kind of back up plan do you have if one of your kids gets sick?" I point blank told him, "I AM the back up plan. I'm their mom." Before I was not in a financial position to get too mouthy, but now that my husband has just started a new job making more money, I WILL not be expected to choose between my kids or my job. I had planned to continue working until be had paid off our debt and done some much needed household repairs, but if it comes down to needing to choose between my kids and my job, he can stick it where the sun don't shine!
Reply:Sadly, a majority of employers (yes, even the retail jobs and call center jobs) look at us working moms as a burden when our children get sick. While I have never lost a job due to my child's health, I knew of a gal who was hired at this one place I worked at who had a 4 yr old little girl. She had been employed for maybe a month when her little girl caught pneumonia and was hospitalized for over a week. The gal was able to rotate bed-side shifts with her mother, but still ended up missing 4 days of work and our p r i c k boss still fired her for it. Sorry, but the first employer who tries to tell me that my committment to my place of employment comes before my child will not only be told where to put it, but they'll also get a great hand gesture while I am telling them where to put it.
Reply:I was in the same situation with my first one, until I learned to get a back up babysitter.......it is always good to find one that usually can take your child at the last min.......call around in your area for providers that do this!! Or look on craigslist
Reply:I got lucky in that my child's school has daycare on site, so I don't have to worry about reliability. And she does catch a cold sometimes, but rarely enough for me to call out sick. Mostly I just drag my sick sorry butt into work, and save all my sick/vacation days for when she needs me.





This is not the easy solution, but perhaps it would do you good to look into a school change, or even district change, that will allow you more options regarding childcare. I had to move a couple cities over with my daughter to make things work - I just couldn't make it where I was when I became a single parent.
Reply:I am in your shoes girl... My job hates it when i have to take care of my little one. There's nothing you can do but take care of your child and they need to understand that family and your child comes first. Sit down and talk to your boss. I had to do that the other day and it really made me feel better. This is something out of your control.
Reply:the same thing happened to me , i swear to this day i dont know how i am surviving as a single mother when now i only work part time , i am glad you asked this question because i thought i was the only one going though such a tough situtation with no help ,, good luck to you and all the best to the single mothers out there !
Reply:When i first became a custodial dad it greatly affected my career as a machinist, daycare was the biggest issue, with 3 children it always seemed one was getting sick and the daycares were always calling me over the littlest things, untill i moved them into a home daycare, in a home daycare they were more sympathetic to the need for a single parents requirement for stable employment, plus they would even watch my children if they were not feeling well to enable me to work, in turn i would do favors for them also, such as yard work, fix their computer system, and even lend a hand during my days off at their daycare, which enabled a closer and more personal relationship with the daycare provider, deepening the level of care she would give my children.


I found daycare centers to be impersonal and lacked a relaxed atmosphere that children need.


Find a home daycare, and devolope a friendly personal relationship with them and you will find things will get better.





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Reply:Just did today as a matter of fact.
Reply:I wasn't a single mom but yes been there. No family close by to help me out. I drended calling into work when my son got sick. I always took in the note from the doctor but my boss was still and ***, and my boss was a woman. Do you know any of your neighbors that you would trust. How about a co-worker maybe they could refer you to someone. social services have lists of licensed day care providers that might be able to help you out. A couple of single moms that I worked with were members of support groups. And they got a lot of help and back up when they needed it. You might be able to find something from social services. That agency does more than just help people on welfare. They have great programs. Good luck to you
Reply:Yes I have. Not finding afterhours childcare or having to take off from work if my child got sick.
Reply:Thats the hardest thing parents have to deal with: The possibility of losing their jobs due to time off with sick kids. I had been at my current job for one week when my son was put in the hospital for a week due to RSV. I thought for sure my boss was going to fire me but she didnt. Im married now, but its better I miss work than my husband due to the fact that he makes 2x as much as I do.. now, my boss is out of town, its only me here and my son is sick and the babysitter said she wont watch him tomorro. I have no idea what to do.


I think the only thing you can do is remember that you are first and foremost a mother. If being a mother is what causes you to lose a job there are more out there even if its a side job bagging groceries until a better one comes along. You cant stress about what's going to happen just live day to day and go with what your given. Thats what I've learned and I was a single mom for 10 years. I know its easier said than done. Good Luck honey.
Reply:have not personlly known that but have worked with coworkers dealing very close to this issue





when you are the sole caretaker of the said child it can be alot to take on but the personal satisfaction and benefits outweigh the junk





just the same companies need to wake up to the issues of parents with children


Single Mom Tax Help!! PLEASE!!?

I just received my college degree and I am starting a new job Monday. This is the first year I will be working as a single mom. I need help with how I fill out my W-4. I used to claim 0 when I had no children so I would get a larger refund back at the end of the year. Now I cannot afford to have such a large amount taken out each paycheck. I know a couple of people who are single mothers getting a $4000 tax return, but neither of them know how many they claim on their W-4.


I just need to know how many dependents to claim to get the maximum amount of money for my son and me. Do I claim 1 (for my son), 2 (for my son and me) on my W-4, or do I claim 0 on my W-4 and wait to claim both of us at the end of the tax year?





PLEASE HELP!!!

Single Mom Tax Help!! PLEASE!!?
claim single - 2 on the w-4 and you should have a small refund (plus probably the child tax credit if child is 14 or under) and maximum weekly take home pay.
Reply:When they give you the form, there is a worksheet that comes with it. Just follow and fill in as it explains and you will end up paying about what you will owe at the end of the year.
Reply:You can actually claim 4, or even more, depending on how much your income is, if you'll be claiming your son as a dependent - two for the exemptions for the two of you, plus one if you'll be filing as head of household, plus another one or two because you'll get a child tax credit for him - see line G on the personal allowances worksheet.





Depending on your income, you might also be eligible for an Earned Income Credit. If you are, you could take even more allowances and still be OK. That's probably what you've heard of with people getting big refunds.





Congratulations on finishing school, and good luck on your new job.
Reply:Claim 2, one for you and one for your son. I agree w/Dr.Death, that will give you the maximum take home pay, and less tax refund at the end of the year.
Reply:You can still claim 1 and head of household. Not sure if you will be getting back 4 grand. But you do get about 1500 a child in california. If you are making good enough money now, don't worry too much about the end of the year. I'm a single mom of three and I got about 2 to 3 grand back claiming them and then me head of house hold. I received that until they left for school, last year....when they turned 18. But still received some money back because they still live with me....hopefully they will move next year....hahaha
Reply:.. that cant earn the money themselves- therefor your son would be your dependant meanign you would claim one. Also there are tax credits and stuff for having children


Single and country/remote living?

Single mom of 3, tired of city life would love to meet someone in the country. single parent would be wonderful. how do I go about that?

Single and country/remote living?
PTA meetings? Church? Some kind of gathering within the vacinity. I myself live in a town of 400, so I can understand some of your pain. The best way to find someone is to make friends that may no someone for you, that really is your best chance.


Is there a status difference between single mothers and single fathers?

I am wondering if you feel differently about single mothers than you do single fathers. I overheard a conversation between two teachers talking about a student in a "single parent family." The assumption was that it was the mother raising the student and , of course the student must be having problems with a mother like that. When the second teacher found out that the single parent was a Dad - all of a sudden he was a hero and maybe "we as a school could do something to help out". Help out? I never heard such a huge difference in attitude about parenting. How do you feel about it?

Is there a status difference between single mothers and single fathers?
There shouldn't be a difference but I know what you mean--I've heard similar attitudes expressed--where with teh mom--it's like she couldn't keep her family together--or it was her fault--almost pitying her--with the father--he is doing this great job..I guess the dad is viewed as wonderful because it is assumed that they are doing something they don't naturally know how to do (unfair assumption, I know)...The woman is "Supposed" to be doing the parenting anyway--so she is just criticized for not having a 2 parent family...Unfortunately, I have heard this attitude--it's not fair--but with more non-traditional families appearing on the scene, these attitudes will hopefully change...
Reply:Read between your own lines. They felt they needed to "help out".........so apparently they feel he's incompetent, too.


Plus, maybe one of them (or both) was thinking that if they came in to be the compassionate one, then maybe they could get laid. I'm not sure their attitude was really better. Just different. It sounds to me that they still viewed his parenting as inferior.

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TAX question- Claiming ONE Single... Will you owe money?

i have an income tax question. my boyfriend is single (of course) and lives in an apartment. he therefore has no house and owns no property for a tax write-off nor does he have any write-offs that are work related. he gets to claim his 2 kids on his taxes every other year. this year he does not get to claim them. he grosses about $35,000 per year. last year he claimed ZERO single (and got to claim his 2 kids) so he got a $4000 tax return. this year he changed his filing status to ONE single and does not get to claim his kids. If someone in his situation and income bracket claims ONE single, will they owe taxes at the end of the year?? We are hoping that he will at least break even and not owe anything...

TAX question- Claiming ONE Single... Will you owe money?
Yes.
Reply:Before, If his kids are under 17, he was able to claim the $1000 tax creadit per kid. Additionaly, before he would have 2 dependncy exemptions from his AGI equal to $6,600. Before he was able to claim Head of Houshold status which allowed him a $7,550 standerd deduction now he will take a standerd deduction of about $5,050. So with 35,000 AGI and no itimized deductions.


he will have a taxable income off 26,650 [35,000-5050(standerd deuction)-3300(persnol exemption)]. So on the first 7,550 tax is 10% or 755 on the next 19,100 you pay 15% or 2865. So in total he will owe $3,620(755+2865). If he still had the kids he might of been entitiled to a refund.
Reply:Well, that's a tough question. He should max out his 401K contributions because you don't pay tax on that money until you take it out, when supposedly you're in a lower tax bracket. If he isn't eligible for a 401K plan, then he should look into an IRA. Good luck.
Reply:I claimed single before and didn't have to pay in. My boyfriend has claimed single many times and has never paid in. I thing he did single, head of household. Sometimes he even had to pay more taxes due to a lay off and still broke even. However I have not seen the new tax books or forms yet. If you have one or even one from last year fill out the ez (easy) form it is pretty simple. I hope this helps you some.
Reply:Fill out the worksheet that comes with the W-4


Single parent?

I was wondering how many single parents there are out there and why are you single? how are your kids doing without mom/dad always there? Mine is the clasic abuse and cheating case left the man when my son was 8 mon. and he is a very happy little 2 year old

Single parent?
Mine was the same (abuse/cheating) and we split when our child was 4.





He's now a very happy, well adjusted 16 yr old.





I don't think he'd have turned out as well if he lived with his dad. He does have contact with his dad....
Reply:Single dad here. My little girl's mom and I split up shortly after she was born. No concrete reason, really...just a lack of compatibility, I guess. Mom and I are great friends and have no problem interacting with each other and co-operatively with our daughter. My daughter senses that something isn't 'normal' (she's 4 and in pre-school), but she hasn't made an issue out of it. She has a clear understanding of 'dad' and 'mom', but is trying to understand why dad and mom aren't together all of the time. It's a bit tough, but it's livable...especially when you compare it to a mom hating a dad or vice-versa, or at worst, both.
Reply:Fighting. It just slowly kept growing, getting worse each time. Finally noticed what it was doing to the children. I see them all the time, they need me I'm there and they know it. Their mother and I get along better now, but won't go down that road again. Either way they handle it just fine. I won't be one of those "live in court" divorced family. My children know I love them and would die for them. They also know we are both always there. I have had my 1:00 am wake up calls and wouldn't pass it up for the world. My kids are my reason for living.
Reply:I separated from my husband (yet to be divorced) two years ago as constant cheating and lying led to the demise of my love for him.


We share custody of our two children (one week on / one week off) and consult each other for anything/everything that concerns the children.


Strangely enough, we get along a lot better now then before and I think we are better parents for it. I'm calmer because I'm happier and he is more hands on because he has to be, and has learned to enjoy them more.


My eldest has never expressed any misgivings about the split, by my youngest (6.5 now) still thinks we should get back together, which is normal!
Reply:i am a somewhat single parent. both of my kids have different dads. my oldest i got pregnant very unexpectedly. but she truly is my angel. Her dad has been in and out of jail and has a lot of legal problems so he's not in the picture. i have tried to have him in her life but i can't force him to see her, if i could i would. it has caused her some problems because he will be back in her life for about a month and then disappear again. he recently got out of jail and he hasn't contacted her since. I haven't told her that he is out because then she will wonder why he hasn't seen her. Whats worse is that he lives in the same small town as us. my son was planned but his father and i just can't make our relationship work. it's been an on and off thing. right now he is living in my house so i am single but i currently have the help at home. My daughter calls him dad and i know know matter what he will always be in their lives.
Reply:i am going to be a single mum any day now. i dont know what it is going to be like but i am so excited. i think that my son will do better without the real father. i am 22 and the father is 42, he wants no responsibility.
Reply:I got lucky. I have a huge extended family. My boy has problems, he's Bipolar, but I couldn't have made it without my family. My ex was to immature to be a good husband and father, and I was too young (18) to see past my hormones. I would have like to raise him in a traditional home, but I did the best I could. He's not perfect, but He is very loving, (how many 17 year old boys still insist on good-night hugs from their mom) very smart, just not very good in school, and just three steps away from getting his Eagle Scout. He has dreams after high school other than girls and cruising, and expects to achieve them, how ever long it takes. He knows that he is loved, not just by me, but by Grandma, Papa, Ti-Ti, and a dozen other Aunties and Uncles. There are times I want to strangle him, and dealing with his bipolar disorder has been very frustrating and nerve wracking, but I think raising him on my own with my family instead of trying to do it with my ex was the best decision


Single and not loving it?

im in my 20's and still single and im sick of being single...i need some serious help...got any ideas how to break my this bad luck of mine? i tried everything and im a bit anti-social until i get to know someone

Single and not loving it?
if you are not happy single, then you aren't necessarily going to be happy just because you have a girlfriend. If you are really in your 20's then you are too young to have a girlfriend. You should be dating a lot of different girls and remain single. I saw a quote today I liked Happiness is not a destination, it is the way.
Reply:well you could talk to some girl online near ur area, just a suggestion
Reply:danggggg!!! I love someone a lot but I'm not sure if he still likes me...
Reply:you got to learn patience
Reply:Well its going to take more than "Single and Not loving it" to find a cure. I am sure that is not enough information to go on and being 20 and single is not a crime.





If by single you mean you want sex and someone to have it with then look on line I am sure there is some hungry 40 year old who would love to pop your cherry.





Not the case? Well then you can work with what you have. You can't be selfish either and socialize with people on your terms. What those are I am not sure of, but try to find out what the kids your age are doing and go out and do it (With the exception of drugs and alcohol) Like wall climbing is fun, or canoing on the weekends, hiking, biking. People like to socialize with other people with hobbies. Then its not hard you talk about the same interest. You meet people quick and they introduce you to people and so on and on.





I personally like to cook so I have dinners often and invite people over to share the experience. Top Chef is a favorite of mine...





Find out who you are and what you love then you can start thinking about involving a female person.
Reply:There are plenty of bitchy girls out there. Try and nuture your common anti-social interests with one.
Reply:Don't even worry about it. Keep on doing what's important and before long, they'll come knocking. Sometimes when you least expect.





Good Luck!
Reply:Do you really want a partner or is that what you "should" be doing by that age?
Reply:If you tried every thing ,except socializing , then you have to start ,that is the most important one on meeting your love intention. Don't believe in bad luck, what ever you do ,if you have the will,there is a way.
Reply:The harder you try to find the right person, the harder it will be to. Just try to go out with your friends and have fun.Without looking, you will someday meet the right one and you will know she is it.Just let God know that you are lonely and he will send her to you. Don't rush marriage though.You've only been single 20 years so far. Marriage is for the rest of your life.
Reply:have you tried online dating before?? usually i wouldn't present this as an option, but it will give you being shy an opportunity to know someone a little before meeting them
Reply:go out and make friends
Reply:I think I've found the girl for you . . .





http://images.search.yahoo.com/search/im...





Hey, just kidding.


You probably just need to talk to people more and be a little agressive.
Reply:Go to a party and meet people, it works best if you try to be outgoing and show people you like that you are interested, not too much but just enough. You have nothing to loose if you just met them that day.
Reply:Get out of your comfort zone. Don't be anti social around people you don't know. Force yourself to be outgoing even if you fall on your face.





What will happen when you force yourself to be outgoing is that you will fall on your face a couple of times, but then you will realize that it wasn't that bad and then being outgoing will be more natural. When it is more natural then things will flow better and you will make friends easier.
Reply:it's not bad luck ,try putting a aide in the paper. it works!!.
Reply:i know your situation all too well.





considered dating sites? they suck, but might be worth a try.





stay positive and focused.
Reply:Join a social club thats related to your hobby. You'll have the opportunity to meet new people and learn to get along.
Reply:lol--Been there done that..I used to hate being single too..





I was/still is HOT MAMACITA..now got a man..so..I been thru your pain..


But got to admit..had a lot of FREE DINNERS for ONE YEAR of my OLD SINGLE OUT@


lol


Look at bright side..no what if..or reporting what ur doing etc..


just kick it..and enjoy it..I honestly prefer being in relationship than single..Since..I was a single mama..and most men don't date..or dig a single mom..it was harder for me..


but I got lucky and found someone that does not judge me..


Plus..I been told look good for a mom lol


Hell..being single sucks more than anything..i prefer being old person than singel ever again omg..


I had some HORROR dates of hell ..but got to admit ONLY thing I did like was FREE FOOD..FREE MOVIES FREE LUNCH FREE FOR NOTHING..ha ha..


I think I been to almost all of resteraunts in whole city ha ha..


Sorry..But most women just want nice dinner and night with there dildo..with all STD'S not worth the drama or getting knocked up again lol..





haha


SINGLE woman hanging out with married MEN is it acceptable?

I have a strong opinion when it comes to a single woman all in a married mans face, I think it is wrong and disrespectful. As a woman I would never just be all in some married mans face having conversation with him. I also think a married man should not be all in some other womans face. As a woman with respect I WOULD NEVER WALK UP TO A MAN WHO IS WITH HIS WIFE AND JUST START TALKING TO HIM AND NEVER ADDRESS THE WIFE. I would introduce myself to the woman and explain to her my position and keep it very friendly and eye contact with the woman more than the man, her husband. My granny always told me to do this type of thing. What are your feelings on this? How do you view single woman hanging around a bunch of married men?

SINGLE woman hanging out with married MEN is it acceptable?
its fine
Reply:I am a single man, and would prefer they hang with me
Reply:i don't try to poke too much with the opposite sex since I am married. I have talks with the opposite sex but not in close relatioship.
Reply:No, it is not acceptable, women who do this are sick and dangerous.
Reply:I agree with you all the way!


It's very innapropriate!!





Even to do it when someone who's engaged or dating!


I think it not only appears wrong, but it can lead to bad things as well.


You spouse should respect you and stay the heck away from this slutt, whoever she is, and you should talk to your husband and ask why he's flirting with this danger.... does he not care about your marriage, the vows, you?





good luck!
Reply:you need more self confidence in yourself. there is absolutely nothing wrong with women doing this. i feel it is your husbands responsibility to introduce you. if she doesnt know you, why would you expect her to give you the attention and not her friend, ie your husband. she is not being disrespectful at all. i have a woman who is a friend and im married, if she was anything more than a friend to me i wouldnt have married my wife, but instead my friend. if things dont go your way, play nice and introduce yourself for a change.
Reply:I look at it both ways. If the single woman doesn't know the man is married, it is the MAN"S duty to let her in on it as this is HIS responsibility. Besides, he shouldn't be putting himself in that situation to begin with.





BUT...


If the woman knew he was married and continues to hang around him and pursue him (especially in the presence of his wife) I would have to say she has absolutely NO CLASS. I don't even know how women like this can live with themselves, knowing that she is doing this on purpose, just so she can get her kicks. It's disgusting and if I was the wife in this scenario, I would probably tell her to screw off because not only is she disrespecting my husband, she is also disrespecting me and our marriage.


Your husband also has a part to play in this because HE should know better than to entertain another woman in the presence of his wife as he is also disrespecting his wife and their marriage.
Reply:I agree with you, it is NOT acceptable. I personally would b**ch slap a stupid cheesewhore who got in my mans face.
Reply:Boy your grandma sure has done something bad or something has happened to your grandma in the past...if you are just talking what is wrong with that...and I believe you are tripping...
Reply:It depends on their motive, if they are obviously flirting then I don't think it is right, if they know a man is married they should respect that. Sadly some people don't have any respect, it's a fact of life now we live in such a selfish generation.
Reply:I agree with you, it is wrong for a woman to hang around with a bunch of married men! It is very disrespectful on her part! She is totally disrespecting herself1 She is also showing these married men that they have a chance to flirt with her or even pick her up if they want too! And that is not only Completely Wrong, %26amp; Disrespectful, it is Disgusting! Getting involved or flirting with married men should show women, %26amp; make them realize that these men most certainly don't have any respect for their wives or children!!!!! So what would make her think that they would have any for her?
Reply:Nope certainly not coz these single can make a married man single many times.
Reply:Single women alert the married men. So the married men should always be careful in their honest relation.

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Single People Ages 22-25: Do Most of Them Act This Way?

I'm not single, I've been in a happy relationship for 3 years. But, most of my friends are single or who are in very casual relationships.





I find that a good majority (not all) are very loose in the sexual aspects of their relationships. Now, I believe in pre-marital sex. I'm not against it, but there is a difference between having sex in a meaningful relationship and then having casual sex.





I find a lot of my friend have sex in casual ways. When I was younger, I had a one night stand. I regretted it and have never done it since. I disrespected myself that night. I learned a valuable lesson. I was very young about 20. The girls that are my friends are 23/24 years old. Don't girls get smarter about sex and relationships as they get older. It seems like my friends are becoming more dumb in their sexual relationship as they get older. One of my friend's new (only 3 week old relationship) cheated on her w/ some random girl. My friend took him back with in two

Single People Ages 22-25: Do Most of Them Act This Way?
no they don't. You just seem to know a lot that are like that.
Reply:Some people are desperate, they take what they can.





Other (like my bestfriend) think that sex will lead them into a relationship.
Reply:Because it is our teenage mentality telling us that bad things won't happen to us. (AIDS, pregnancy, etc.)
Reply:Don't worry, eventually, they will pay a severe price for their actions.
Reply:it's happen coz they lost their personal control. they always do what they want, and they never think about it for the future coz they can't control it.
Reply:You say your not judging but you are you call them dumb and stupid and basically sluts. Not everyone is going to have the same views on sex that you do. If they are happy about what they do then its none of your concern.
Reply:I guess that's why you choose to be married . Can't make these people change , you can only change yourself.





Understand that everyone is different and have different morals and are not going to always think the same.


Single mom , dating single dad question?

would u consider serously dating a single dad who has a 3 year old and spoils him rotten. the kid never gets told no and has more material posessions than most adults. the dads justification is that he loves him so he will spoil him. i think thats bad for the kid and he might turn to be a brat. reason im asking is becuase we might some day become a family togheter, my daughter is not raised that way, would it be too conflicting to try to join into one family with that kind of diffreence .

Single mom , dating single dad question?
I really don't see it working out for you, actually. Parenting styles that differ that much would just cause problems. Especially because you know what it's like to also be a single parent, I feel like you'd both be set in your ways. If you really like the guy, you could talk to him about it, now, and give him a chance to explain himself, and/or change to a parenting style you can both live with. If he's not willing, I think I'd move on... good luck~
Reply:It is ok to date him. If u like him date him and if things start to get serious you need to bring up that u dont want him doing it to yoiur kids. Its none of ur business how he raises his son so u cant change that
Reply:I'm not a single mom and I really don't know what you are going through. However, I'd suggest you wait for someone who shares similar beliefs in parenting as you do. I've had so many friends and heard so many different stories about conflicting parenting styles leading to constant arguing and even divorce.





Just think about it if you were to get married. His three year old would be spoiled with no 'real' discipline and even if you tried to instill it into him you'd just be the evil stepmother. You child or children would be left in the dark because most likely [because they aren't spoiled now] they will be well-behaved. Instead of focusing on your children you would be focusing on his son. I would just think it would be an extremely hard situation.





Do what makes you happy though! If you honestly can see yourself with this man 10-15 years from now raising all the children together then go for it! If you really don't think you will argue, stress, and inevitably 'leave out' your daughter over this whole situation then go for it. Whatever you do I wish you the best of luck!
Reply:Not at all!...I'm currently doing the same thing. My boy friend has a 3 yr old daughter who is SPOILED!...I have 2 little girls as well and like you, don't do that with my children...I just show him what I do, and how it works, and make suggestions. I NEVER tell him what he's doing is wrong, or down grade him for it. But I try to make it seem like MY way works better. He's actually changing his ways. We've now been living together for 6 months, with VERY few problems....Hope this helped
Reply:Talking about and proving your issues with this through life experience or books, might better your chances of getting through to him. I do not think that the relationship is a bust, he may well change his mind if he knows how serious you are in your upbringing differences. Maybe give him other options of how to spoil the child with love and affection rather than no boundaries at all. I am sure the man is just trying to make up for past mistakes he feels will take a toll on the childs life, which make it moe reliable to say that he wants what is best for the child so he will listen to sound reason from someone he trusts and loves, and also cares about the child too.
Reply:when my husband and i first met we were both single parents. He had 2 girls and I had 1. I felt guilty of the lack of a father figure in my childs life so she was spoiled. My husband helped me in that I saw how he was with his girls. When he first divorced he did whatever they wanted and they ran all over him. Then he thought to himself "what would my parents do ?" This made perfect sense to me and i saw the error of my ways. We have our 3 girls and we had a bouncing baby boy. They are well behaved and make wonderful grades. Maybe you can guide your guy (if hes worth it) and ya'll can have a good life





I hope this helped good luck too you
Reply:It would definately be challenging. Do you think it's worth trying?
Reply:all kids are different , i dont think that you should stop dating him because his child is spoiled , you have to deal with what he comes with , i would eventually start talking to him about it and tell him how you feel ,because if he continues to do this with his child , he is only hurting the child in the long run
Reply:Well i can see where the comflict is. If you two are one day going to become a family than you should be able to talk to him about it. Try suggesting that instead of just giving the child whatever he wants ((which i think isn't good either)) whenever he wants it, the dad should have him work a little bit for it like acting good, being respectful, behaving that way it could still spoil his son but the child won't grow up think that just because he wants it he should automatically have it.
Reply:It's a package deal. And problems like this don't get better, they get worse.
Reply:You're obviously not in love with this guy, or you'd find a way to make things work. Move on.
Reply:It will never work. Forget the idea of a family. The kid will be a brat and a brat is trouble for your daughter and you. His dad does not love the boy. He's covering up something.
Reply:Sounds like you have VERY different parenting styles that could conceivably cause some MAJOR problems in the future if you got serious about each other.





I'd say it's a no go. there is already too many difficulties in a relationship without having such a basic core difference in values this early on.

dental health

Single Homeowners - How do you afford your mortgage and bills?

I'm 30 years old and I make a decent salary. I've been renting forever, and everyone keeps telling me I'd be better off to buy a house. So, I'm considering it.





But when I sit down and calculate what my monthly expenses will be with a mortgage, it seems I'll have NO "free" money left. All of my money will go to bills!





How do you single homeowners do it? Are you broke all the time? Did you take in a roommate? Do you work 2 jobs?





I know other single homeowners who make less money than I do, and they seem to be doing OK. But I don't want to seem nosey and ask them about their personal finances.





Ideas? Suggestions? Thanks!

Single Homeowners - How do you afford your mortgage and bills?
Heather, you are trying to buy a house you can't afford. Buy one that you can and you will come out ahead.





I am single and support myself just fine.
Reply:I concur with Ashley Kitty. I bought a condo when I was single, and I could afford it because the mortgage and assessment was equal to, or even lower than, the rent for a comparable apartment.


I see what the asking price is of the property you are looking at. You may have to consider something smaller, that might need a little work, to start you off. There should be some deals on property that, while is in decent condition, may not have been remodeled recently. I just sold the same condo I was talking about above for considerably lower than market value because it had no upgrades--old appliances and fixtures (though they are all in good working order). That buyer got a good deal, there is probably something like that in your area too.
Reply:When I bought my house, it was only about $100 more a month than my rent was.





FIgure it this way:





Your rent/mortage should equal one weeks' pay before taxes.





Single for 6 years and making it!
Reply:Talk with a lender who will help you determine a budget that will work for you. Typically they won't want your mortgage to be more than 25% of your total income. Which leaves you plenty to tithe and pay bills with.





You can still have fun, however, when given the choice between re-decorating vs. meeting your single friends a bar after work, the former choice may wind up winning.