23 and single?

I am 23 yrs old and single. What I don't understand is why am I single if people always come up 2 me and say how pretty I am, attractive, and that I have a great personality but I'm single. I don't get it. Do it scare guys. I feel like don't no 1 like me. It make me depress, I have low self-esteem, I feel like committing suicide and I try 2 drink to get it off my chest. I feel like I'm getting 2 old and still don't have a man or no 1 want to be with me. I tried the, (don't look 4 1) but it still don't work. I don't know what 2 do. Sometimes I wish I was very very ugly maybe I would have a lot of boyfriend, because maybe being pretty scare them. (Confused and need help).

23 and single?
Oh Dear!! I will tell you the same thing I told my 23 yr old daughter, you are young, beautiful and so very hard on yourself! First you need to find out who YOU are. You need to like YOU!!! Liking and respecting yourself are key essentials to finding and being happy in any relationship. Stop drink and thinking about committing suicide, honey please please get some counselling about these feelings, a trusted relative, pastor, professional counselor (*I really don't think I am spelling that right!! lol) You are YOUNG. And my personal opinion...... as I have also told my daughter, you do NOT need a man to survive or be dependent upon... Look at it this way, a relationship should be based on want, not need. And, maybe if you quit looking so hard, the man might walk into your life when you least expect it. Consume yourself with friends, male and female, family, and don't be so hard on yourself!
Reply:just hang in there...my daughter had the same problem....it takes the right man to be able to handle a girl like you...it takes a very strong man.....most men are afraid of what i don't know....she found a man or should i say a very nice man found her and are happily married. Movie stars have the same problem...sad but true....do you notice that some of the awfullest men think they have a chance with you....it is really a joke sometimes....just hang in there....23 is young....and your prince charming is out there and you two are just waiting to meet...hold your head up high and your shoulders back and enjoy life and you will find him.
Reply:well 23 is still young. Maybe you just don't wanna commit, innit? Don't commit suicide it will be a waste of a pretty face. I'll pray for your safe place.
Reply:have some confidence, guys don't want someone who seems "needy". I know a few hot girls that dint have any "boyfriend" and think they need 1, and that's the problem.The trick isn't to not look,its to not look like you need A man! We want what we think we cant have, a challenge!
Reply:23 and single, You have not even reached your peak as a woman. just enjoy life as it comes single or not. I know many people that wish they were single and some singles that want a mate. Fall in love with life. it will treat you the same as a mate.
Reply:Maybe your problem is that you don't like yourself. You say you have low self-esteem and that's what I'm thinking. You have to like yourself first and see value in you as a person. Men can sense when a woman lacks self love and it makes them wary, no matter how pretty you are. If can't love yourself, how can you love anyone else. Trust me, 23 is still very young, many of my friends are in their early 20s and they just aren't ready to settle down yet (which may be another part of your problem - people your age aren't ready to make a commitment yet).





You need to learn to love yourself, and it's easy to do. Just sit down with a piece of paper and list all of your good qualities, your talents - I think you'll find it's a long list. If you love yourself then it won't matter if you're dating someone because you are happy being you. But you know what? I think you'll find that you won't have to be happy with just yourself because that boost of confidence will shine through and guys will be drawn to you like insects to light. Just watch the models and actresses on TV and you can see that they have this quality that just makes people want to know them - that is what you can acheive if you can just make what is inside of you come out by liking who you are. You know, I don't know you, but I can sense people by how they write and if it's any consolation I have a sense that you are a very beautiful girl both inside and out.
Reply:I have a sister that is over 45 and she doesn't hav a guy either but she continues to pray to God and give her strength to wait for the right one.


I pray that you have more strength and be patient.
Reply:Well-people say those things and do mean it as true.They


do not say things about your personality-right.JUst think about your actions with boys.
Reply:There are a lot of problems with being attractive. On is tht you are unapproachable because there are so many people out there that decided to try to ask an attractive person out once and got laughed at or humiliated.





I never wanted a perfect 10, because that's what everyone else wanted. I wanted a fairly attractive woman, short, and smart. And being very ugly doesn't give you a lot of boyfriends. Send me a picture and I'll tell you if you are pretty or not. How old are you? 23? Many women stay single into their late 20's.
Reply:If you have low self esteem and feel like committing suicide, others will sense there is something wrong and that will scare guys away.





If you are a Christian, you need to get some counseling from a Biblical Counselor, in my opinion.





If not, I'd suggest you see one anyway.





Pastor Art
Reply:see a therapist! are you going to make til XMas?
Reply:wow. crazy scares us. relax find sumptin to do like a hobby music and when the time comes it will just happen. hell move here and ill show you how 2 b happy
Reply:Let me start with the whole don't look for a boy friend really does work. Maybe when you tried it you were really looking and just telling yourself that you weren't. Please don't commit suicide because if you do then your special someone will wonder their inter life with no one to really love. Your still really young and the right guy will come around. For now just go out with your friends and have a good time. I will you all the luck and trust me when your special someone comes along you will know. You will fall madly in love with him and will not want to spend a day apart, but will just to play hard to get. Enjoy life while your young sweetie and stop look trust me he will find you.
Reply:maybe you are pretty but your attitude isnt so pretty or maybe you seem too available, try getting out more, or less if you go out alot, some times being shy works but not too shy. But mainly i think its your attitude!
Reply:You should try to approach a man instead. It may seem nontraditional to some but flirting can really help. It may be that guys don't think you are available. Are you maybe a little shy. You shouldn't have low self-esteem because of being single though. We all go through single stages. Even the sexiest and hottest of people have been single. Try to meet guys in new and different places. Don't be afraid to approach a man if you feel attracted to him. Just make sure he is single too, right away.:) Don't give up on love or dating.People are attracted to confidence. They are not attracted to arrogance though. :) People will find you attractive and interesting if they know you are interested in them as well. Plenty of people are single at 23. That is normal. Ever seen colleges and clubs wild with people your age? You have nothing to worry about.
Reply:Maybe a little education might go a long way,forget suicidal thoughts,you are too young for that,think outside of yourself,do something,this should be the least of your worries.
Reply:It can be tough, especially if your friends start to get married and drift away. Do not get depressed, though, because it isn't like an exact science in finding the right person. It sounds as if you may have tried the "traditional" ways, and you shouldn't think about "lowering" your standards in what you are looking for in a soulmate; that can only lead to a whole set of problems later on.





You may want to try chats with people through IM, not necessarily through the dating services online, but perhaps through other avenues where singles happen to turn up.....this book that was recently published may give you some ideas:





Title: Age is Just a Number: Adventures in Online Dating


Author: D.S. White


Publisher: Divine Truth Press


ISBN: 0977810305


Release Date: September 15, 2006
Reply:go to chat rooms
Reply:A boyfriend shouldnt be what fulfills u, r what gives u a higher self-esteem. im 21 n single, but i enjoy every minute of it lol. i dont need a man. What u really need is God knowing God is the only thing that will give u true joy!!
Reply:23 and still single???? Poor little girl! Had you not been so sad about it I would have laughed at you. I'm more than 40 and still single, but life is great, believe me.
Reply:Hello


Don't worry about finding anyone right now, it will happen to you. when you least expect it, Just be true to yourself,


Enjoy different activities, like, go dancing, play different sports, (tennis, golf, your join a health club)


I felt like that when I was younger in my early 20's.


When I was 25 years old, I found a great gentle, kind man.


Now I'm married for 10 years now.


I meet him when I least expected it at a friend fish %26amp; chips restaurant