Are all single moms poor and struggling?

Why do my married friends assume that because I am a single mom that I'm poor and struggling? Whenever I give money, it's like, no, you don't have it, you're a single mom, you need your money, as if married moms don't? When I'm needed to stay past working hours, a coworker will say, you can't stay, you're a single mom and you have to leave. They will say, you have no help with your kid (which is not true) at least I have my husband to help.





My car is paid for. I dress well and so does my child. Not in designer clothes. I live below my means. My apartment is clean, nice and furnished with used but great furniture (I bargin shop), I handle all my investments myself (stocks, rollovers, money market accounts) and I'll be debt free in a few months.





So my question is why do people assume that because you are a single mom that you have no one, you do everything, you're broke, you can't afford anything. I'm doing better financially than my married friends, truth be told.

Are all single moms poor and struggling?
I think it is because there is only one income in a single parent home so people assume there is no extra money. They also think because you are single you can't work over because there is nobody to care for your child. Sometimes not having a spouse makes everything easier and better and married people just don't get it.
Reply:You are one lucky person. Money is nice but it is other things in life that make us rich. You just keep going the way that you are and you will have a really good life, alone or with someone else! Report It

Reply:I believe it's because we are socially programmed to think that way. What I mean is that.....statistics showed that majority of the single "parent" out there are struggling. It's understanbable. When people are showing consideratioin for your will being and your child's I wouldn't take it the wrong way although I do understand what you mean. Don't go out of your ways to show others that you are financially capable of taking care of you and your child by loaning money to others and what not because at the end your insistant pursuit to show selfworth will only hurt you and your child(financially) that is. I am glad that you are doing will because you are right not all single parents are struggling.
Reply:I wouldn't think so, honestly.





To be more truthful, if you are indeed well off, I'd respect you more than a "normal" single mother.





Just me, of course.
Reply:Good to hear a single Mom is doing well. Most don't. I believe people are just trying to look out for you, they mean no harm or criticism.
Reply:In general, single parents are struggling. People can barely get my with 2 incomes. It's much harder when you're single and trying to support children.
Reply:Ummm, I would have to say, because as it seems you are one of the very few lucky ones!!!! We are in a time now when there are many single mothers who DO struggle. When we do separate from the fathers of our children most of our help goes along with them (his parents). Altho I have bounced back from this whole problem myself, Thank God, I do think it mostly has to do with the fact of people thinking woman are not smart enough to make good decisions we have to depend on men to take care of all our needs.....without them we fall apart...LOL
Reply:Take it this way, they are thinking of you, just tell them it's okay I'm doing well and I can afford it, I have made childcare arraignments.





Just state you're case in a firm but polite way, and repeat it if necessary.
Reply:I guess because I depend a lot on my husband's salary and if I didn't have it along with mine, it would be harder. So that is why I'd assume you would have to watch what you spend.
Reply:I am 20 and yes, I am a single mother (although, I am engaged at the time). I am a licensed cosmetologist (I took classes in high school), I have my high school diploma, and I am currently in college for psychology. I will be graduating with my associate of science degree in May. My son's in preschool, and is one of the only kids in his class that can read (I taught him in my spare time) and yes, I did all this alone - by myself.





So anyone who wants to say that single mothers (especially young ones like myself) are poor, they're very, very wrong. I'm making more money than most college students have ever seen in their lives, I have an apartment in which me and Taylen (my son) reside in ALONE, my son never wants for nothing - we are never hungry. People need to stop judging single mothers! We are not all poor, we are not all struggling, in fact, we hustle harder because we are doing this BY OURSELVES!





Keep your head up high, and ignore them. They can pity you all you want, but trust and believe they probably would be down and out if they were in your shoes!
Reply:I totally understand what you mean and applaude you for being such an outstanding mom!