Are you single? why do you think so, your choice or not?

just want stories here, conversation, thoughts why people want to be single or why they are single or do they love being single or not.

Are you single? why do you think so, your choice or not?
I am not single, I am actually planning on getting married soon, but before I met the man I'm with now I spent the previous two years prior single on purpose. I dated sporadically more to have someone to dance with at the club, go to a party with, or see that cheesy movie was in the theater. I remained uncommitted because I had yet to find someone who I felt like I could share my life with verses throwing it away for. I also liked being that strong independent woman who didn't need a man to influence her life. This time made me much more capable of finding someone who would appreciate the true me versus the person I wanted them to see, the eager to please-need a man in my life chick is definitely not a style I would put on again.


Now I attract men who want to be my partner not my owner because they see I could not and would not settle for anything less.
Reply:I chose to be single... I called off a wedding, ended my last dating relationship, and refuse to date any guys in close proximity to me for fear of getting back in the relationship thing. I am in my late twenties, have been in relationships since I was 16 years old, and need to breathe before I tie myself down.





I need time for ME; its something I never had. And oddly, I am having a really good time.





No regrets. My time will come.
Reply:I am single, and am 25 years old. I think I'm still single because I don't really attract a lot of guys. I'm a bigger girl, and I'm tall, so I feel really awkward around men. When I actually do date, I'm usually uncomfortable. I do think that it would be easier for me to date if I were more attractive, but at the same time, I see lots of men and women who have my same attributes dating people. Who knows? I know that I need to love myself before I can love someone else, and I don't think I've reached that point yet.
Reply:I'm single and have been since December , I just haven't found the right person yet to be dating , I dont' go out and seek people to date I just kinda do my own thing which I like, I like being single for the most part, but other times I really miss having somebody there.
Reply:I ask my roommate that everyday. She assures me that I will find someone one day. But she is my mom and she is just saying that to make me feel better. At least I have my Star Wars collection to keep me company.
Reply:im single.....im an outsider to society....
Reply:I am single. My husband found someone younger and who makes him happy. No, I didn't want to be single. Not my choice, but here I am. A loser.
Reply:im a senior in high school now but my last gf i had was back in freshman year. being single is not my idea of fun. but in a way its not too bad. but it sucks more than it is good. i tried a few girls through the years and it didnt fall through. there is sumone out there for everyone.
Reply:im single because i have high standard and i leave next month to the army. im too young to worry about a relationship so i just focus on myself and becoming a better person. also im not the most pleasing person when i first meet people. i tend to be a little strong because i have my guard up, for good reason i mean check out the guys around you. are they really worth it? plus, im looking for mr. right i want a guy who i can end up marrying. i dont want to waste my time going from relationship to relationship. i think of how ackward it would be to be laying next to my husband at age 85 and he ask me how many boyfriends have i had and me not be able to count them all. how bad would he feel. geez, i prefer a good friendship than a meaningless relationship.


i know that i could learn from being in different relationships with different people but i think i can learn the same from just one person... and they just dont seem to last


oh, and before i forget, i get bored easily.


i want a guy who is romantic but can keep me busy. a guy who can be with a girl all day and every moment is interesting


like: playing sports, having deep conversations, great sex, good laughs, hanging out with common friens etc.








i just havent found someone worthy. ive had two boyfriends in my life (one lasted a week the other lasted 6 months) i didnt feel a THING for either...


thanks it feels good to let that out. how bout you?
Reply:I think there are people in this world that are destined to be single forever.





I've been truly single for quite sometime.. though I recently (one lasted three years and the current one has been going on since September) have had two very relationship style friendships. I think for me I just have bad luck with finding guys I can actually date (I usually end up falling for guys that already have serious girlfriends, girlfriends or are gay.)


I like being single in a friendlationship because I get the most part out of a relationship but at the same time I'm still available and allowed to date other guys.. just I have one guy I tend to go home to at night and he tends to come home to me.
Reply:Because women are nuts.
Reply:My very close girlfriend died suddenlly right before christmas about 8 years ago. I'm afraid or not interested to get close to somebody. I have sex but I must admit I really miss just cuddleing.
Reply:Im single not by choice but because men are too blind to see the real me!!! =)
Reply:Single by choice and have been for a long time. But being single isn't what it's all made out to be. You can get pretty lonely sometimes - there's no one to talk to, no one to bounce ideas off and no one who asks you how your day was. Sure, there are good friends you can call but they only put up with you for so long about the "woe is me" attitude. They have their own problems!


So quite honestly, having been both single and married - having a partner is a lot better. Granted, you have to compromise some of your lifestyle - but that is what life is about - compromise. You may not think so but to get along with others you can't always have your own way. You have to step aside and let others have their way too.


So, do I love being single? No. Did I love being married or with a partner? More than I liked being single. The world seems to be all couples anyway.


And guess what - you go to a dinner party and all the wives are looking at you like you are going to go after their husbands because you are single and good looking and quite a catch.


And those are my random thoughts on your question.
Reply:I hate being a single person. I've waited to long, wasted my time and found out way too much about subjects of the matter that I never wanted to know about in the process. NO I hate it. I never want to not be in an intimate relationship with a woman, it sux. I have no use for it. It only hurts me physically, i must avoid my current situation at all costs, yet in danger of being a hypocrite i must not find or involve myself with the wrong person, it's not a level science in other words. I can endanger myself either way. Ultimately, do what you love, love what you do, or do something else, and that's all that matters.
Reply:Just all a matter of meeting the right person or not,I guess.
Reply:well I am single at the moment (honey is absent) and I chose to be single for 5 years because I was finding myself, it gave me time to ponder and re-discovered myself. I am glad I did. Being single keeps me busy and free. Free to do whatever I want. I love being single. I am in a happy place right now and I am afraid to change that. Perhaps, subconsciously push men away because I am afraid someone will invade my boundaries.
Reply:What is Single? You can be married or involved with a person you can not interact with. You are Single! The species desires a partner to share joy and sorrow. If one is single it's because they have not found the appropriate partner.





We get confused when we combine our child desires for protection with our adult desire for the perfect mate. That can often leave us single.
Reply:i am single, and i have been for a month. im sort of happy that im single because my last boyfriend was sort of a loser who tried to get me to have sex with him, and so im happy that i dont have to worry about boys trying to pressure me into doing somethig that im not ready for, so because of that, i am happy being single.


other times, i wish i had a boyfriend because i like having someone to tell everything to and to hang out with 24/7, and so i also wish i had a boyfriend as well. its sort of half and half with me...
Reply:I am single by choice hahaha I just have not met the right person and to be honest I am not looking I will work on me and feel good about my own life and also be open to the possibilties. I have met many but there has been no one I have clicked with haha many of my friends are married and family too and than I know many that got married to young kids etc...and are not in the best of marriages...Relationships are a serious business and when you get involved with another you have to be ok with yourself because that other person will have their own set of problems you need to be able to stand on your own two feet :))I like being single I have freedom to do many things...but sometimes I wish I was dating another so that I can do things with them and share thoughts and laughter and sadness etc.....I would love to have a family one day tooo :)))I would love to go on vacation with that special someone like Europe ...Greece and Italy and Spain and Paris hahahaha I rather be alone than with the wrong person. You hear so many abusive stories I rather be single when I hear them :)))
Reply:I am single as in never been married and still a virgin. I am considered old by official definition but I can safely say that I am still young at heart or may be there is something wrong with me psychologically. Did I have relationships before ? Yes. Was I insanely in love ? No. Did the guys love me for all the real reasons ? I don't think so. Do I love being single ? No. Would I want a boyfriend now ? I don't know. Would I want to marry someone now if there is truly a someone for me ? May be , may be not. Why ? Because marriage is not for cowards like me. Do I know that I will enter the old folks' home if I don't have anyone to take care of me ? Oh yes I know.