I am single and dont know if i want to continue being single or possibly look for a relationship? need help?

Okay, so I am 22 and single. I have had two serious relationships in the past and I know deep down, that I want to be in a serious relationship rather than just date around. Keep in mind that I have a two year old daughter and I am a single mother so I have to be careful of who I choose to date because they need to not only be good for me, but be a good influence on my daughter too. Anyways... some days I like being single, others I just wish I was with someone. I kind of feel like I may have high standards but the fact that I have a kid and that I have been in some bad relationships in the past (been cheated on too many times to count, been lied to, used, taken advantage of) I kind of need to have somewhat high standards. I just need to know what I should do in order to find a good guy???? I have a lot of guy friends but I am not interested in them in that way. And I do go out with my friends and meet some cute guys sometimes. But what should I do 2 find that "right" guy 4 me?

I am single and dont know if i want to continue being single or possibly look for a relationship? need help?
OK, this is going to sound reaaaally boring, but you know the best way to find a good guy? Just relax and enjoy your life. Don't actively be "looking". People are attracted to other people who seem to be enjoying their life - spend time doing whatever you want to do, whether it be sport, fun stuff with your daughter, learning new crafts or hobbies, etc.





I know how hard it is to be a single mum and you are incredibly young, but you will fine the right man someday. Just enjoy your life and your child, and he will come along.





If you have had such bad relationships in the past, then you need to spend some time just with you and analyse why you seem to have chosen such bad men before. Until you work this out, you probably will keep making the same mistakes!





Best wishes, Rosie x
Reply:One can be single even in a crowd. So its all state of mind. Some days back i read in news paper that these days boys prefer video games than dating girls. so in such situation what can u expect. y not we women find some sort of passion which keeps us away from the very thought of getting/ falling into relationship wid men.


As u said u have been cheated many times in the past so its better to develop some hobby which keeps u busy, like designing dress for ur kid daughter, and the list goes on.


But if ur really looking for some companion then let ur parents find him for u. may b they get the right person for u.
Reply:internet dating. try okcupid.com. its free.





you can lay it all out on the line, tell them your whole story and then you only get guys who will take care of you and respect your daughter.
Reply:Love is a risk. If you refuse to trust anyone or let them in then you will not be able to enjoy the relationship much. I think your best bet is to go slow. I've seen a lot of people end up in bad relationships b/c they try to get too serious too fast. Start by just dating, don't even try to be exclusive at first. If he gets too impatient, then he probably is only interested in a physical thing anyway.
Reply:How about if you don't choose? Do everything you can to make yours and your daughters life great... and that means joining clubs... getting to know single mothers and fathers... taking classes etc. If someone comes along then you are all the better because they apparently had the same interests as you. DON'T LOOK it doesn't work.. just be happy and try to live your life to the fullest.. you will be found! Good luck.
Reply:idk what to tell you but my advice is if you do seek for a serious relationship one day do not look for a guy at the club. we are only there for 1 thing no less no more...and this come from a guy


so trust me
Reply:Problem #1 is you are single with a child . Not a lot of men in the 21-36 range looking for that . Especially if you were never married . ( Makes you seem like a casual relationship type of gal .) Older men (including polygamous ones) are more accepting of a woman with child due to their finances , life experiences and appreciation of a younger woman .


#2 is that it is hard to find time to date with a 2 yr old at home .


#3 As you said the guy has to be good for you AND your daughter .


#4 You may not be too good at relationships and need some guidance / insight .





I would suggest that you join some single parent groups , and make it CLEAR from the start , that you are not interested in jumping into bed with a new romantic interest . (Or If you decide that is what you want USE BIRTH CONTROL ! ! !)





Remember , Your daughter learns about how to form and continue relationships from YOUR behavior . Also , she might resent not having the advantage of a caring father as she gets older .
Reply:I personally, am in that same boat. I keep telling myself, if the right one comes around then I will just know it.
Reply:The right guy for you is the one that is primarily good for you and your daughter.


"what should I do 2 find that "right" guy 4 me?"


Firstly, find a handful of guys.


2. Pick the one that suits you best out of the lot.


3. Be in a relationship, for all the good reasons.


4. Develop and reciprocate Love, Trust and Companionship.


I too and starting over. Maybe I'll be using this list someday.


God Speed, Have Fun and Good Luck.
Reply:Take it very slowly and carefully and always keep a distance from the man that will keep him on his toes and always wondering if your going to break him off.
Reply:when you're ready, you will find a relationship. And you'll just go for it and the guy will see the confidence you have and that will be a great start.


You know what you want, so don't sell yourself short.
Reply:love is always unpredictable and i always believe one shd nv be alone living in this world, regardless how many times u had fail relationship, if u persist enough to keep on trying, there odd to be someone that u can depend and lean on, having a child is a blessing from god and u shd be thankful and i firmly believe ur mr.angel is vary nearby u waiting for the rite moment to appear b4 u :) so cheer up be positive okie :)
Reply:Just live your life right now.





There's no such thing as a Mr. Right if you don't even feel "right".





Find your true self, accept %26amp; forgive yourself first.





Concentrate on yourself %26amp; your kid first before you put someone else in the picture.





Take care!
Reply:I have found it best if you dont "look" for a relationship,thats when the best ones come around
Reply:we're still out here, but we're very few and far between these days.....what passes for guys just isn't very impressive these days and all those idiots make it so hard for those of us who are decent guys.....i know, i'm around them every day.....you're just going to have to be very picky and take your time trying to sort out the 99 idiots from the 1 good one that's out there.....good luck to you.....