Being single during Xmas?

What is it about Christmas time that makes other people become so intrusive into the personal lives of others? I am a single, straight, 28 year old male and I have always been single. That's right, I've never had a girlfriend or even experienced me first kiss. Big deal right? Well my parents leave me alone about this, but not my extended family, friends and even co-workers. It's especially weird at work because I never mentioned that I am currently single. Obviously people are really interested in my life for some reason. This conversation inevitably leads to everyone asking me why I still live at home. They just don't get that I have no need to move out and that my family enjoys living together. I live with my parents (rent free) and other adult siblings and everything is working out great. When I need to move out I will. When I need to have a girlfriend I will. Are people simply jealous that I have complete freedom and no financial responsibilities?

Being single during Xmas?
How old are you? If you are older than 30.. I would be nervous.
Reply:people arent jealous! if you are so comfortable with yourself why do you keep posting this question in different formats. people arent jealous because you live at home, they are disgusted. they dont care about you being single either. but grown men dont live at home. you dont have freedom, you cant take a girl home and bang her with out waking up your parents. thats what women and men think about this situation. women dont want a loser that still lives at home, they want a financial responsible man, that lives in his own apartment ( maybe a flatmate) and does his own laundry, not his mom. you need to move out or you will have absolutely no life
Reply:i know how you feel i have been sinmgle for a while now and its kinda hard because you see all of the happy couples.It sucks :(
Reply:don't know why people ask questions like that to you but you can start responding "Why is it any of your business? How is your realtionships working out?" etc. turn the questions they ask you back to them and eventually they will stop asking.
Reply:People are always asking single people personal questions no matter what time of year. I used to ignore them unless they became too personal and then I would just counter with something like "So how many times a week do you have sex? It always stuns them! When they say that is none of your business, tell them your personal life is not their business either! :)





As to living at home,it is great if you all are happy with that arrangement. It is a great way for young adults to save money for a down payment on a home however, you should sit down and ask your parents outright if they are OK with the living arrangement or would they prefer you to move out. Although they love you they may have been looking forward to their life without children at home again. Once you become involved in a relationship or married, you will realize how precious privacy is for a couple and even though they are your parents, they are a couple as well. If you ask them and they say they want you to stay, then best of luck finding a girl friend! Since you are in a perfect position to save money for a down-payment on a home,make sure you do! Then when you do find the special woman you want to marry, you will have a down payment on your first home already!





Good Luck!
Reply:i dont know if my concern would necessarily be about you being single. 28 is still relatively young and if you haven't felt the need to get out there and find true love or whatever than that's your choice. i agree with you 100%, when you need (or want) to have a girlfriend, i'm sure you will. probably your extended family just wants to see you happy and in love and maybe that's why your "aunt" will tell you all about her hairdresser's single 27 year old daughter or whatever lol. i would honestly have to comment on your living at home with your parents. sounds nice that you all enjoy living together. and true, we all should be so lucky as to live with no financial responsibilities. however, is it morally right that you're 28 years old, grown man, and still allowing mom and dad to support you? there's a fine line there where it might become taking advantage. also, just so you know, living on your own, whether you chose to have a girlfriend or not, can be a great freedom. and give you great respect for yourself, as well as independence, and strength. a friend of mine is 24 and she just moved into her own house. that's right, she bought a house, all by herself. saved up money for a down payment, got approved by the bank for a morgage, and bought a house. what an accomplishment! and she didn't need to do it with a boyfriend or husband or whatever, she did it on her own! i think that would be a wonderful experience for you. if you're 28 then i certainly hope you have a steady, full time job with benefits, 401K and all that. certainly you could swing it. go for it! and good luck! give your extended family a little bit of slack, they just want to see you happy.
Reply:yeah...isn't jealously always the reason to every problem?
Reply:Theyre not jealous. In their minds their thinking " Dude, you don't know what your missing."





They're so intrested because they're shocked or stunned. I was shocked for a second there too but that goes to show that you can stand strong even without a girlfriend which is a good thing. I know people that rely on love to be happy.





I guess they just think that it's wierd for you to not have a girlfriend/ first kiss yet because all of them have one.





Okay well, I'm going off topic here but: if you think about it. There's only one purpose in life. And that's too keep the population growing.





What a crappy world.





Anyway. Don't worry about it. I believe you have your reasons.
Reply:a lot of families are like that, tell them that they need the help.goods for you, as long as it doesn't bother your family.