Calling all single mother!!! Just an opinion! When should a child call a boyfriend "DAD"?

First let me just say I am a single mother of 3 children The father of my youngest two vanished off the face of the earth AKA hiding from responcibilities. My youngest 2 have really never known their father, Anyways My brother, who I love with all my heart, is now dating a single mother of one. The childs father vanishes also. The relationship moved fast. They started dating may of 2007 and my brother who still has his own place has not slept there since first of june. He really likes his girlfriend and so do I. Recently the girlfriends child started calling my brother dad! Now as a single mother of i know the question does come up "Are you my dad?"I respond by saying "silly goose, this is moms friend"...When I talked to my bro about it he said they told to start calling him dad. I asked are you getting married? "No not yet"..Does anyone find this odd? I find the actions of the mother weird! Can anyone help me understand?

Calling all single mother!!! Just an opinion! When should a child call a boyfriend "DAD"?
I'm not a single mother or a mother at all but my personal opinion for the sake of the child "dad" really shouldn't be used this soon. The relationship is still young and anything could happen. If they do break up the child will be heart broken. If she gets involved with someone else and does the same thing the child will be completely confused with who his real father is (even if he has been out of the picture) unless the child is old enough to understand the difference.





Dad shouldn't be used until marriage is in the near future or your brother decides to adopt the child. Until then your brother is mommy's friend and a father figure and the child should be calling him by his name, not dad.
Reply:if they ain't married i don't think the kid should be calling him dad.
Reply:no. not good.
Reply:When you're pretty sure no one else will be called "DAD", HE SHOULD BE THE ONLY ONE.
Reply:I think whenever the children accept him as a father figure... Leave that up to the children...let them feel him out and once a sincere trust is established, the rest will fall into place :)


He must show a willingness to prove to them that he is there for them and would do anything to help and protect them. It will take time, but that is really something the children must decide in their own time. As long as he shows them love and support and understanding, it will come...be patient and good luck! :)
Reply:Not only is it weird what your brother is doing, but it's potentially damaging to the child. It's a dumb, dumb idea.
Reply:I definitely wouldn't think it would be ok before they got married. If the child starts calling him dad, and he leaves her, then what. Will he call the next bf dad too?

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