Single Again?

My wife (whom I have known for eight years, married nearly three) and I are going through a dissolution. We were perfect for each other but in the end we are still seperating. There is nothing that can be done. Regardless of everything, she is positive that we cannot fix things. So, how am I supposed to live again. I haven't been single in so many years. How do I ever feel normal again? I am so lost. There are so many memories and everywhere I go ... I think of her. How can I live again?

Single Again?
It will take time. It doesn't happen over night. But eventually you will learn to date again. Relax its like riding a bike you never forget how.
Reply:I had to get rid of everything that I bought with my ex...too many memories... I had to quit going to places we used to go together and created a whole new life for myself. I even gave up our grocerystore, and swiched to a different gas station. It really helped.
Reply:its ok youll find another
Reply:It will pass but only in your on time and way it takes time for the heart to heal so grieve for your marriage and than move on don't let it consume your life because if you do you will miss out on so much more. Everyone does not get to experience love like you did so hold on to what was good if it was meant than it will be and if not let her go.
Reply:Just imagine all the things you will be able to do that you couldn't before...always try to stay positive.





Not being nag for X or X, being able to be free and not have to check in with anyone.





There is always a light at the end of the tunnel, just depends on how long it takes for you to see it.
Reply:what's you're feeling is normal...but since you mention that your wife seems to think that things won't be fixed then maybe you should try to let go and move on....being single again will be a new stage of your life...so, may i ask? do you have kid/s? if you do have, then maybe somehow, despite being separated, then you may become friends and still partners in raising your kid/s....who knows, the healing will be sooner or later or looking in a positive way, you may still end up together.... but for now, you have to be strong and face the reality of life......not everyone is made perfect in love....some are better off friends and lovers....move on and find yourself! good luck!
Reply:It is hard to get over things like this. The easiest way is to keep as busy as possible. If your mind is on other things you will not think about it 24/7. There are so many things that you can do to pass the time. Sooner or later it will not be all that you think about.
Reply:U have to know that everything happens for a reason. U both were obviously not meant to be. U need to go out and have a good time w/ friends, u have to know that u will find someone else that will be perfect for u. Life is only as hard as u choose to make it. Ur life is not over!! Anything u have that reminds u of ur time w/ her u need to get rid of or store in a box completely sealed up. U may think life sucks right now but when u find that one person u ARE actually suppose to be w/ u will be thankful for what ur going thru now. Of course u can't see that or even imagine it but it is true!! It hurts like hell to lose someone u love but u gotta know what does not kill u will only make u stronger.
Reply:You did not say if you had kids from this relationship. If you don't have children together and the marriage is ending give yourself some time. You are probably in a grieving stage and have to work through that. You will with time start to feel normal again. I just lost my husband to a sudden heart attack after only 5 years of marriage and understand your feeling of being lost and having memories everywhere. My friends have said that I need to get back out in the world and start dating again. They are right about getting out and back into a routine again because that does help. But its too soon for the dating thing.. even though I am lonely I need to put closure on my lose first.. you may have to do the same thing. once you can accept the fact that you can not get back together, then you can move on. It will get better! Good luck!
Reply:I am so sad for you, I have been married and divorced, my marriage was extremely damaging, still I loved her, in spite of the abuse that I was subject too.





I have been divorced from her more than 10 years, and still I think of her, and hope that she is doing fine. Her name was Candy, and even though some years have pasted, my love for her will always be. Forgiveness was the essential part of moving on, and healing. With God's love, and strength I was able to heal, and move on.