I am single but i am dating around and i feel like im cheating. Am i cheating am i picky too?

Im dating 2 guys at the same time but we not bf and gf according to them. They dont know each other but they say they single and im single so we just dating. The 1st guy is gorgeous and has a big package but he barely makes time for me and treats me more as a piece of booty rather than a gf iduno y i let him but it just happens. The 2nd guy he is not ugly and not cute. He treats me like a princess but he has a small package we barely see each other but he makes time for me when he can. Am i cheating even tho we r both considerd single and im dating around?and am i picky if i want the gorgeous guy with the big package? i would appreciate it if you would answer both so i can choose you as best answer for 10 points

I am single but i am dating around and i feel like im cheating. Am i cheating am i picky too?
You sound confused and no answer given to this question would possibly undue that. If the "gorgeous guy" doesn't make time for you and only wants you for a physical relationship, what makes you think he will change when you get into a relaionship? Dont be naive.





He treats you like crap because you mean nothing to him... your not his gf. With that type of foundation in place, it just wont work.





As for the guy you dont find attractive, stop leading him on. Stop being so triffling with him, your not that shallow right?





I would suggest cutting both guys loose, focus on yourself and something better for you will come along. Like a guy who will see you on a consistent basis, who you are attracted to and treats you well.
Reply:Bingo! Report It

Reply:You're not dating around, you're sleeping around. Big difference. You are cheating...YOURSELF.
Reply:(1) No, you're not cheating. you've set the ground rules for your relationships and you're living by them. How would you feel if you knew that each of these guys were dating/screwing other women? If you'd be jealous and mad, then perhaps you need to reevaluate. If not, and so long as these guys understand the bounds of the relationship, you're not "cheating." (That's not to say that this relationship is necessarily healthy nor will be ultimately satisfying, but that's not your question.)





(2) Are you "picky" if you want the gorgeous guy? No, actually you're the opposite of picky, because you recognize the guy's shortcomings and still want to be with him. What you are is shallow and oversexed. Just remember that the sex all goes away, and we all get flabby (in our bodies or in our packages) as we get old. If all you're talking about is a friend with benefits, there's nothing wrong with wanting the more physically attractive guy, SO LONG as he is still treating you with respect and without abuse. If he does those things, then the relationship is more harmful to you than helpful, and you need to get over it (there are plenty of guys with big packages and hot looks.... but it's not worth sacrificing your dignity just for a nice lay.)





(3) PLEASE use MULTIPLE forms of protection in this sort of scenario. You're sleeping with two guys at once; these guys are probably sleeping with 4 girls at once. Condoms PLUS birth control, please.
Reply:Here's some advice:


-quit lusting


-learn how to spell


-get an idea of what love is


-make up your mind on one guy


dating multiple guys at once is cheating.


and don't let a guy lust for you without love. lust sucks.
Reply:go ahead and mess with them both! use them for what u can!!!!!!!
Reply:If y'all aren't exclusive, you aren't cheating.


The gorgeous one doesn't seem useful at all.


He sounds like a dolt. A good looking dolt, but a dolt.


The other one, who doesn't treat you like crap, sounds nice. But, God knows why, he seems to really like you. I suggest you either stop with him if you want to continue doing Mr. Tweedle Dum.


You aren't picky, just choosing for ridiculous reasons.
Reply:you're not cheating if they have both agreed you're not in a relationship


and i think that is a bit shallow (liking the cute/big package guy)
Reply:.......see you on J Springer
Reply:So you want the guy who treats you like crap just because he is hot. Don't women always complain about not finding a nice guy who will treat them right? Just checking.
Reply:i still say u should date the guy that treats u right. u will feel better about yourself and know what its like to be loved and treated like a princess
Reply:Honestly, If you just wanna F***. go for it. You can't have the best of both worlds. Down the road you will realize that sex id not the only thing you want.
Reply:it is not cheating at all! enjoy it while you can. but think about it first b4 you commit to any of them. now i know looks and what they carry are alot but in real life you need someone that is going to care and love you for you and not use you. the guys that do use you end up breaking your heart and that is not what you want. if you were smart then you would choose the average guy with the average package cuz hes the one thats gonna make you happy in life
Reply:as long as you dont call yourself their girlfriend, then no, you're not. and you're being kind of shallow just going for the guy with the big package. wouldn't you rather be with someone who treats you right, rather than like a common slut?
Reply:if you are not committed to someone you are not cheating
Reply:no, your not cheating and no your not picky. Being single gives you options, that doesn't make you picky. If you enjoy being single ad having fun, continue to do so, but apparently you like the cuter one who is only using you. So what do you do? I would go with the one who treats you the way you want to be treated not ***** you the way you want to be ******, that can come later. But if they're both telling you they enjoy being single and not having a gf, you can still have both, you don't have to choose, but be safe doing so.