Single mums... I really admire you!?

To all the single ladies out there raising babies on thier own, I just want to say that I admire everything that you do and the way you cope with bringing your child/children alone.


With myself expecting my first babe in february, knowing that I am going to be a single mum is daunting and I really don't think I will cope the way I see other women coping. I just want to ask if there is light at the end of the tunnel? My problem is that I think too much and am the world's biggest worrier!





How will I tell my child that his/her dad didn't want to be in our life? Will i find a man that will love me and my baby?





I really hope that I don't sound selfish asking this but am trying to think for the future, for now my main concern is my bubba and that I bring him/her safely into the world and that it will be a healthy child. My child will always be my number one priority and I would love to hope that the future will hold something bright for the both of us.

Single mums... I really admire you!?
The fact you are even thinking all this through already shows that your child will be blessed to have you as a mum, regardless of your age or situation. Parenting isnt easy, I wont lie to you but the rewards are AMAAAZZINGG!!


You are about to embark upon one of the biggest experiences of your life and you should start being excited... I know its not easy to approach on your own and sometimes you will feel scared but try and stay positive as much as you can, and if you ever do feel like its too much then reach out to someone who can help or even let you moan for a while and just listen.


The bond between you and your child will be all the more stronger for you having raised him/her alone and they will admire and respect you more for that. Take each and every single day as a new one and try and answer any questions the child had regarding the father as honestly as possible.


Know that you will have good days and bad days, and sometimes you will feel like you want to scream but it passes and the unconditional love you have for eachother will never die.


I have a three year old and at times she can really push my buttons, and I know it sounds cheesey but when we snuggle up in bed at night time and she says "love you mummy, good night god bless" I feel like I'm on top of the world!


There is so much to come for both of you and your future will be bright so chin up! Its not all a bed of roses but overall its one of the most rewarding things I've ever done.


As for finding a man that will love you and your child.... Why the hell not, there are plenty of good men out there raising children that are not their own and I am sure you will find one too. Dont focus on it too much and Mr Right will turn up when you least expect it, thats what I believe anyway!


I soooo wish you the best of luck and congratulations on your pregnancy, BE EXCITED!! You're gonna be a mummy!! xxxxxxx
Reply:what about us single dads?
Reply:I commend you and the rest. I have another parent in the house and it seems like they are going to overthrow us sometimes. my mother is my hero b/c she did it and I still don't know how. The only thing I know is to take it one day at a time and have a support system. Someone out there (a friend or relative) that can help you when times get tough. Give you a shoulder to lean on or help you watch your child when you need a break. I know you can do it!!


KUDOS to every single parent out there.
Reply:So you admire single mothers, and your just about to become a single mother.





Mmmmm, call my cynical but.........
Reply:Congratulations.





My mum brought me up on her own and did a fantasic job.





i love my mum to bits and know that my dad did not want to stick around. It made me stronger as a person and am now a solicitor.





Dont let being a single mum affect you. You will do a great job.





the best thing you can show your child is strength, confidence and love.





All the best.
Reply:The only input I can give you (not being a single mum obviously) is that finding another man will probably not be as difficult as you may think.





I know a couple of single mums who found someone else that stuck around and now lead very happy lives together.
Reply:I think it is easier for me to see why being a single mom is so great (yes, I said great) as my husband was not right for me.......he did nothing for the first 8 or 9 months of her life when he was able. then he had non-life threatening arm surgery and really did NOTHING......not just for the baby, but nothing for the house or me or the baby. he has not worked a steady job since. After about 10 months I could not take any more and move out....with my 16 month old baby girl. and life is GOOD.


it is just me and her........we play, have dinner together, she plays in the kitchen while I cook dinner and clean up. We do the laundry at the Laundromat every other Friday. We read, play, laugh, and just act totally silly. She wants to do everything like mom......even is potty training so she can pee on the potty when I do. She is my world and my life revolves around her. And my 40 hour career that puts food on her plate and Pampers on her butt......but she comes first. My boss is a single mom of a 4 year old and understands when things come up.


my daughter goes to bed at 8 sharp (I know, lucky me) so I get mom time every night. and I take her everywhere I go......she is a very easy toddler. Life with her has been great since we left. no more living on eggshells, no more trying to make him happy when I know that is not possible........no more him.


You can do this on your own. my very good friend is in the same boat. she is due November 30th, in fact. and I keep telling her that too...........she can do this. and so can you. not knowing what it is like to be in a bad marriage can cause feelings of longing for the spouse, wishing you had that support, thinking it would be better not to be single.......but that is only true if you are with the right guy.........staying with the wrong guy just for the sake of not being single is never a good idea........you will be better off on your own. My husband was not in the delivery room, he did not go to the first year of appointments. He never changed her, or did much for her. I did it all...........and I don't regret a minute of it.





Hang in there.....You can do this. as long as you keep focused on that baby and making the best life you can for the two of you, you guys can do it all......bond with your baby. Take your baby with you. Make your baby a part of your life. Don't be afraid to take him/her shopping with you, out to the park, nap with your baby on your chest. Shower with your baby when you desperately need a shower and there is no one to watch him/her. play with him/her.....talk to the baby every day and tell her about your day. enjoy the baby.........and your life will fall into place.
Reply:I know it is easy to say but try not to worry. First of all take each day as it comes and enjoy it for what it is, the future will unfold in its own time. You are going to be blessed with a child , and you will cope fine. Of course it seems daunting at the moment but you and your child will learn together. No one knows how to look after and bring up children before it happens, with or without a partner, it is something that you learn from experience. All new parents make mistakes but we all just do our best. It sounds as though, although you are young, you have a good head on your shoulders and have your priorities straight, so just enjoy being a mum and do your best, the rest will take care of itself in time. Good luck.
Reply:My mom was a single mother she raised me on her own i must say she didn't do it to well ........ i had to grow up faster than the other kids as i seen too much in my time ........





I hope you don't make the same mistake!! People lose interest in looking after there kids cause there trying to find them selfs in the mess of it all as society ( religious mostly) condemn this in every way...





Take each day at a time make sure u surround your self with good honest people that will support you all the way also join community clubs,social clubs anything that will help you as your going to be a single mom it will get tuff at times as it isn't a smooth road for any .. As for the dad not going to be there don't know what your situation is i hope it wasn't a bad one though! Good luck ! your still very young make sure you keep your self in good shape mentally and physically .





As for finding someone well there are like billions of people in this world im sure you can find a decent man ! haha
Reply:dont worry you will be fine and worry about telling him/her about the dad, you dont need to explain anything. just enjoy your baby when he/she arrives. GOOD LUCK!!!!
Reply:I am a single mom.Not by choice but nature.I have 3 beautiful children (9yr and twin 7yr olds) There father died 7years ago..I have been raising them alone..You just find a way naturally to survive..There is light at the end..And during..Good luck!!!
Reply:hi i was single when i had my son and i felt the exact same as you but when i first saw him the worries went away. my ex didnt speak to me for 2 months before i gave birth but in the end he turned up at the hospital. the worst thing i did was go back to him for the sake of my son that made things way worse when we split up again last year. i now have put all that in the past and try to get on with him for the sake of my son. i felt a bit claustrophobic over the last year but i hav now started college to try better myself for my son and it really helped me to be positive. hope this helps. good luck to you and the little one