Sunday, August 22, 2010

Single-Adoption?

I am a single female and am thinking about adoption in the future. I would like to keep it in the United States, since not many countries allow single-family adoption.


How difficult would it be for me to get a newborn?? OR even a toddler?

Single-Adoption?
You can legally adopt at 18. If you go through your local county they will do the homestudy for free. They will look around your house and make sure it is safe, go over financial stuff to make sure you can afford to care for a child, ask for references from atleast 3 people who know you really well (the more refrences the better), have you write up a paper explaining who you are and why you feel adoption is right for you. You may have to take some parenting classes as well as sitting in on some adoption support groups to get an idea of what you will be getting involved in. It can be difficult but being single will not really hurt you, there are a lot of single adoptive parents in the US because there are so many children needing loving homes. Good luck.
Reply:It really depends if you’re only willing to take a white baby or toddler, its likely to be a longer wait. You might want to start doing some light research see what agencies are out there. Maybe think of a sibling group like you might find two siblings ages maybe 15 months and 3 years.
Reply:Good News! You are wrong! Almost ALL countries accept single applicants, as do almost all domestic agencies!





Single parents make very attentive, very family focused and involved parents who devote their time and energy toward parenting. Most are professionals who have accomplished much. They are generally more educated than their couple counterparts, and often have diverse and supportive family and friends who are very involved in their lives. They have strong (male) role models who are also involved in their child's life in a positive and nurturing way.





With the divorce rate at over 50% (although less for adoptive couples), singles can offer a stable home environment free of the complication of loss through divorce.





In domestic adoption, why would a birth mother select a single mother? For many reasons. Some are just open to it. Some request it. The reasons are varied and personel to them. Sure, not as many birthmothers select single Mothers, but it only takes one!





Here is a resource for you:





http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/single...
Reply:It will probably be more challenging to adopt an infant or toddler as a single person. Birth parents who choose the adoptive family will be more likely to choose a couple. The foster system would probably rather place an infant with a couple as well.





I do encourage you, though, to look into adopting a toddler or older from the foster system. I think your chances are very good. Adoption is a wonderful thing. It's blessed our family beyond measure.
Reply:The only single parent I know who adopted lives in Canada. I believe he was 2 or 3 when she adopted him. If I were in your shoes, I'd start talking with adoption agencies and find out what you would need to do. I have heard that newborns are hard to get in nearly all areas because there are alot of people looking for them. The adoption agencies will be able to help you though, to give you a figure as to how long that you would be waiting. I have heard though, that people that already have adopted children are more likely to be chosen as parents for a newborn. Another option, and a much needed one at that, is foster parenting. Theres so many kids in foster care. Sometimes the foster kids may end up being able to be adopted too. Some people are hesitant to do that because they fear they will become attached to the kids, and may end up having the kids placed into other homes. On the flip side, alot of the kids have been in terrible places and may be until they are of age. Even spending a single month in a loving home could change their life forever. You could be the person who gives them hope that lasts their whole life. Good luck!
Reply:I dont know how difficult it would be since i live in canada. But i just wanted to say AWESOME. So many people dont think about adoption, and it is an awesome thing that one day i really want to do. I dont think it would be that hard, so many children are brought into this world and given up for adoption fast. Thing is you need to find a good agency and get on their list, and the sooner you do that the sooner your chances can come along. Good luck, and God bless! ~ Sheky
Reply:how old are u? if you are young enough to conceive than why are you adopting? in my opinion it is better to have your own child rather adopting because it would be possible for you to have troubles further in your life and off course i mean having baby only after finding a good partner, may be my wordings are wrong but i have no intentions to hurt you in any sense, take a good decision.





J: i m really sorry for hurting you but with no intentions, you want to adopt for a good cause and that is really a good thinking, i appreciate your gesture, but still i would suggest to think once again because when you have your biological kids than may be you can differentiate among them, it happens and i had seen it in so many cases before, so please don't mind me saying that and best of luck.
Reply:I'm not sure but if I wanted to find out I'd start talking to the adoption agency's.
Reply:I can't believe joslin is endorsing single parenthood. I think if you want to adopt maybe you should consider an older child since so many of them need a good home and are much harder to place. It is highly unlikely you would receive a newborn or toddler since birth mom are probably looking for a married couple. I mean most of the wonderful birth mommies are wanting to give their children what they feel cannot give them at this time. If I were giving up a child, and since the birth mom gets to choose, I would want that child to be raised in a loving home with a MOM and a DAD. That way my baby would have the best chance in life I could give it. I mean if I wanted a single mom why not just keep the child.


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