Single mums?

How many of you guys would truly be interested in a single mother?honestly?





I`m 24 and been left a single mum and just dont imagine any guy would want to be around someone elses child.

Single mums?
soooo not true!!!!





and you know it lady!!!haha





as it happens the world is'nt full of assholes only a selected few!!which probibly happens to be the few we've met!!lol a man should like you for who u are and not what u have.if someone really really likes u then he has to be prepared that you come with a package!!and as for not being able to bring up someone elses kids!!it's easy ave done it and a kno of a lot more people who has too!!then again a suppose ma circumstance's are well different to your's but they arn,t mine and i have them.





so any one out there that won't go out with someone because they have children there is really only 1 word for use!!!!





SHALLOW!!!!





cause think of it this way one day use might be in the same fkn boat!!!!
Reply:There are loads of people.





Just you make sure that you don't introduce new men to your child unless you have been seeing them for a while and can trust them.





It confuses the children as to who these 'new' guys are and makes things for the kids unstable.





More importantly, you will need to ensure that you trust the person, weird people pray on the 'vulnerable single mother' who feels no one else will want her... Protect your child from these predators.





That's my advice really. Your new man will come when the time is right.
Reply:no probs on that. i have dated and lived with a single mum....she has 2 children...and i can honestly say that it is the best thing that happened to me. when i was divorced my children were practily grown up, and it gave me a chance to give her children the same attention i once gave mine. i can now sit back and see what they have achieved, and wonder if i was not present woulod they have turned out the the way they did. take heart there are a number of us fellas who would welcome an instant family . so good luck and take your choice wisely.xx
Reply:what the question shouldn't be about who would want to date you ...i was once a single mom no problem getting dates...only problem was finding the right man that deserved to be around my great daughter.....it took a little while to find the right person and we've been together for 14 years now....woman to woman .....always present yourself as self sufficient and confident never let a man know you are not confident in yourself this is just asking for the wrong type of guy ....always put you children before a man....i know i will take alot of heat for this answer but this is my belief.....your b/f is your b/f for now that could some day change,but your children are your children for life......
Reply:I'm 21 yo graduate. Dating the woamn isn't really a problem (providing she's great, which I presume you are), it's just sometimes the commitments needs juggling about.





I may date ya.
Reply:dated single mum be4 , was ok but she didn't want any more kids
Reply:I've been out with several single mums. If you like/love someone then you accept them as they are baggage and all (bad choice of phrase I know) - what I mean is the woman comes as a package with her child/ren. If someone doesn't want to be with you just because you have a child, then they really aren't that interested anyway. You definitely shouldn't be writing yourself off!
Reply:Wouldn't be interested atall to be honest.
Reply:sometimes i think that i wouldn't want a single mum because i feel like a last resort:


i.e. they didn't want me when they didn't have kids.





but if i met a nice girl whose kid was still quite young and might want another there's no reason why not.
Reply:no offense, but i wouldn't.





there are guys that don't mind though, but you have to watch out though, they are most of the time just for hooking up, and think that single moms are up for anything because they are despirate.





just to much bagage, most guys go looking for a woman, not a kid, plus the drama of having another guy involved in your life, plus knowing that he screwed the heck out of you many occasions, or if the father died, now the guy has to deal with the emotional trauma stuff.





most guys will just pass on all of that unless they are looking just for sex.
Reply:Hi hun. I too am a single mom and I could write a book on the subject of single parents and dating.





Please do not let a man tell you that your children are BAGGAGE, children are precious gifts. A lot of men are bitter towards single moms because a lot of these women could not let go of what happened to them in their past relationships, so they do not know how to handle themselves when a normal guy comes into their lives.





Remember to never put a man before your children it is not worth it!





It is important that you do not introduce any man you are dating to you children until you are completely committed to one another. Children do not understand what dating means and it saves you a lot of heart aches.





You are going to find more men out there that are only looking for a free ride because they think we are in desperate need of a man, and that we want nothing more than sex. A lot of these men are liars, already married, and are ONLY looking for sex.





I do want to say that there are a lot of sincere men out there that know a loving, strong, sincere single mom is the way to go because we have a head on our shoulders, and we are NOT into the dating games, and we know what we want in our lives.





Stay strong mom and things will work out to your advantage. You will meet that wonderful, sincere man that loves you and your children.
Reply:I've date a single mom before. Got along great with the child, we were just too different. I think there are tons of guys out there that would date a single mom. Just be careful, because like any other women, there are guys that are attracted just because they think they are easy. But don't give up yet, I am sure you will find the right guy. :)
Reply:dont be silly , if the guy likes u he ll take on the child
Reply:Lots of dads don't want to be around their own child either! I'd date a single mum. I'd expect that she'd have fewer spare hours than a childless lady and more often exhausted, but needn't impact on us.