Would you date a single mother of 2?

Just wondering if there are any NORMAL guys that would date a single mother. I am not really looking right now, trying to concentrate on finishing school...but I have been a single mother for 3 years now and it seems like its never a normal guy who would be interested in dating a single mother like myself.





Why is also another question I have to ask...


What would turn you off from keeping a relationship with a single mother?





Thanks for the replies...SERIOUS ones only please!

Would you date a single mother of 2?
I wouldn't. You'd have to deal with plans being frequently broken by things that come up with the kids. Also, it's expensive to win the kids over by buying them things.
Reply:this is nothing 2 u but my friend is a single mother also and she dates a little bit but she never gets the guy once the gy finds out she has a kid . and i'm not saying it's bad i just think that if the guy liked u then it shouldn't matter 2 him if u have kids or not and the guys will always say somethin 2 my firend like in a friendly way that they do't they should date any more
Reply:I've dated a girl with a child myself. It was pretty good. Except that she used her son as an excuse for us not going out much or using the lack of a baby sitter for us not going out.





But I'm cool with dating a single mother of 1 or 2.
Reply:The problem with dating a single mother is that you are not just dating the mother. There is so much else wrapped up in that kind of relationship. You have to woo the mother, then the kids, then you have to make it work in every way. It is tough, and if it does not work out, you are breaking up with not only a girlfriend, but also two kids that you have grown to care about.





I used to think that I would never date a girl that had kids, but recently I have been rethinking that. What has got me thinking is someone that has stepped into my life that I am growing interested in. I think that it comes with age. You can't expect someone that is early twenties to be okay with kids, but as guys grow older, I think that it does not become as big a deal, and it can be more fun.





So to answer you question. Yes there are normal guys out there that would date a mother of two. What you are ready give it a shot, and don't hide the kids. Make sure that the guy knows up front, and roll with it. Just make sure that you don't settle. Settling would not be fair to you, your kids, or the guy that you would be dating.
Reply:When I was 25 I was dating a girl who had 2 young boys (1 and 3) and it was not an issue for me. We broke up after 1 year, but it had nothing to do with her having kids. Here we are 10 years later and I was just recently dating someone who also had 2 young kids (3 and 6) and I dumped her because she was flaky. Once again, nothing to do with the kids.





Any good man will not look at the kids someone has as a liability or burden. Any guy who looks at kids that way is the wrong guy for you and is not worth dating.





To answer your second question - that would be personality. It could also be the way she is raising her kids. One of the reasons I dumped someone recently was that she let her young kids stay up until midnight. If she can't raise her own kids properly then I doubted if she could do so with any I might have with her.
Reply:Seriously, if my stepfather had had a problem marrying my mom, who was a single mother of 5, I shudder to think where we,as kids, might have ended up. I also married my late wife, a single mother of 1 until I lost her 4 years ago. I love that boy as my own and he knows it.





No man is a better man than when he takes on fatherhood. Good luck and God Bless young lady.
Reply:no, and thats just my preference..I prefer to go out with someone who have no kids.
Reply:I've always answered "NO" to that question....


UNTIL I met a little 10 year old girl whom I connected with...


and then I met her Mom who I had a crazy love affair with.





NOW? Would I date a single mother of 2?


ABSOLUTELY!





Is it my preference?


No.





But when the chemistry is there, it's there. You can't help but be drawn to each other - kids or no kids.


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FOCUS and WRITE down all that you want in a relationship....from the littlest thing to all the details of how you want to be when you are together and how you want him and your kids to be with each other.





THEN....forget about it.


Don't TRY to meet anyone and do NOT make it an issue.


JUST RELAX and live your life with joy and freedom.





You will both meet


when you least expect it


and it will be INCREDIBLE!
Reply:I would only consider it if the woman had a good head on her shoulders and her kids were raised correctly (you know, no bratty kids) (bratty children will say something about the mother too, (NOT ATTRACTIVE!!))
Reply:When your interested I don't think you'll have a problem.
Reply:Never would date a single mother, sorry but thats just a disaster waiting to happen.
Reply:I mint if the kids are well behaved
Reply:If I was a more mature person who was ready to inherit a "family"-relationship upon dating you... then I'd consider it. I'd have to be willing to accept the fact that I would ALWAYS come after her children's needs in terms of her time / attention / affection.





I could never just "on a whim" - take my gal out of town or run off on a vacation together... dates would have to be limited to when she could get a babysitter... or dates suddenly turn into "family outings" where we've got to bring the kids along.





Also, depending on what state one lives in - a boyfriend can become liable for child-support after the relationship ends. Women have cited cases where these children began to look at the boyfriend as a "father figure" and they've grown accustomed to the lifestyle which that boyfriend provided for them. And successfully sued for child-support! (Yikes!





And then there's the matter of an accidental pregnancy - a single mother has already shown that she's willing to HAVE the child. And there's no guarantee (no matter what a woman says) that if she accidently gets pregnant - she will abort if he doesn't want the child at that point. (And yes, I think EVERY guy should take responsibility for his actions and wear a condom every time he engages in sexual intercourse - but even condoms have a 5% failure rate)





Yes. there are some guys who'll date a single mother. But these are just *some* of the risks involved.
Reply:nope.. i am 24 with a good job. dating a single mom just seems like picking up someone elses baggage.
Reply:If i was a a man and 22 or older i would date a single mother and i would help out with her kids. why can't i date single moms? is that a rule? i think single moms are very nice. (most of them)