Single parenting is hard?

How can I as a single mother raise my son, whose so inquisitive with his surrounding and explain to him..the fact that he’s different..in the sense where he’s raised only for by single mother..

Single parenting is hard?
While I can understand that reaction, I also want to encourage you to listen to and trust your own intuition. To gain practice in this area, try the following exercises:


Pay attention to what makes you uncomfortable.





If you sense that a particular behavior is a warning sign, pay attention to it.





Be cautious about introducing your children to someone you are dating.





Keep your eyes and ears open at all times.





Communicate with your kids about what feels comfortable to them.





Maintain clear boundaries.





Don't ignore concerns your family and friends may have about this person, either.
Reply:be honest with him and love him unconditionally. even though you're single, it is possible to show him so much love until he'll see it but doesn't miss it. I know it can be done. I did it. So be encouraged and do what you gotta do to get the job done.
Reply:i would just explain to him that there are many different kinds of families and his is the kind with one really SUPER mom!! Make it into a positive for him and I bet that will change your view of it too. I feel for you, I am a mom too but have a husband-and probably think about it daily that I probably couldnt do it by myself. You are doing a VERY difficult job for two people. YAY YOU!!! :)
Reply:My son is 18 months old and after being married for 8 years prior, I became a single mom when he was only 5 months old. I have struggled with the same questions you are asking. After lots of reading I am to the conclusion that in todays world unfortunatly hes not different he is alike many other children whose parents are also single parents. Its important that our children dont feel that they are different no matter how many if any parents they have. I plan to explain to my son that god makes all kinds of people and all kinds of families. Some familes have two, some have 3 and some 4 etc.. but that all families are special and all families have people who love them. I want my son to believe that we are very special becuase there is only two of us and that we have very special roles to one another and we must look out for one another. He will know that we have a bond that no one else can come close to having. And that because its just him and I and that means hes stuck with all of mommys love, hugs and kisses all to himself.


Being a single mom is the hardest thing I have ever done. I have a respect for a single mom that exceeds the respect of anyone else. I truly believe we have the hardest job there is in life. Its been a year of being a single mom for me, and its still very hard and very painful. A day doesnt go by that I dont contemplate in my mind how unfair to my son it is that the most important thing in my life (my parents-Together) is the one thing I can never give him. I dont think that part will ever get easier but the realization is I am not and you are not and our kids are not the only ones we are just 4 out of many special families whom have eachother! God Bless you and your son!
Reply:He'll figure it out, if you don't make a big deal out of it, it won't seem that way to him. You don't want your kid reminded of how hard they are on you, IMO.
Reply:I am single mum and have been since my son was made!! I think the answer to this depends on how old your child is? My son is three and a half and asks alot of questions about everything but doesn't seem to ask to much about his father (who he sees twice a year). He asks where his daddy is? To which i say depending on the time of day that he is either at work or at his house! I Don't lie to him about these things but at three and a half that's all he wants to know!! He is more than happy with these answers, when he gets older and asks different questions i will answer them honestly as i don't believe there is anything to gain from lying to your child!!!
Reply:He is no different from the rest. I am also a single parent. The best thing to do is keep him close to the men in your life like your father, brother, just mainly family members. He will be alright and when it comes down to it he will be better off.
Reply:Single parenting is not hard, you just have to manage it wisely. My kids know why we are with out their mother. You just have to explain it to them.
Reply:Tell him the shortest, sweetest version of the truth and go on to living the best life you are able to provide for him. Keep him learning and loving life. Fathers help if they want to be fathers. Single moms can do an awesome job too. Dedication and devotion make a big statement.
Reply:There are plenty single moms out there - I don't know what you mean by different. There must be ALOT of complete families where you live (that's good to hear - since I feel so sad for the ones that are not). I'm a single mom too and my child would look around at family gatherings in school and ask questions too. You have to do the best you can and explain it to him too. You might want to go to the library or the book store and look at some books that can help you with explaining to him and his questions. I bet they even have one written for him to read. Good luck.
Reply:he will figure that out and in reality that usually doesn't bother child as much as people think
Reply:I know single parenting is hard, but unless he brings it up, I don't really see why you'd need to tell him he's "different" because he's raised by a single mom.





A LOT of kids are. He wouldn't be as "different" as he would have been twenty years ago.





The way I see it, there are all kinds of families, and no one certain makeup is always best. Many kids are raised with mom, dad and siblings. But others are raised just by mom, just by dad, in split custody cases, you have couples in long-term but unmarried relationships raising a family together, with both parents married but one who is physically absent most of the time (military kids, for example), by grandparents or aunts or uncles, by older siblings... single parent and gay adoptions are becoming more and more mainstream, so you have those kids. You have kids who are raised with basically four or more parents (two birth parents, two stepparents), and some are even raised by just stepparents.





I think as long as the kids are loved and nurtured by responsible adults, there is no one set "right" way. A child is not automatically in a negative place just because they don't have the standard nuclear family setup. Kids with both parents present can turn bad, and kids with hardworking single parents can turn out to be just really great.





It's all about what you do with the family you've got. Unless he brings up to you that he thinks there's something "different" about him, or his life, don't plant that thought in his head.





My husband and I are just splitting up, and we have a four year old and a six year old -- both boys. We're all lucky that both of us are active parents, and will continue to be active parents, even if we are in different homes. My kids have seemed to understand quite well that there was Momma-and-Daddy's House, and now there is Momma's House and Daddy's House. We will be splitting custody (we live about four minutes from each other, in the same school district), for as long as it is in the kids' best interests. They're handling it well, and we have informed teachers and counselors of our situation, and all of us are watching them for any signs of trouble. Our family is actually quite a bit different than a lot of families torn apart by divorce, because the kids get almost equal time with each of us, and their dad and I are working to keep some consistancy in their lives, which requires us to communicate a lot more than most divorcees do. So, even though we're not together, neither of us are really a "single parent." I know that eventually, that can either change, or will be something the kids notice, but it's just yet another kind of a family.





Handle the difficulties in being a single mom and do right by your son. Do everything in his best interests, and there won't be a need to explain his differences to him.





If he DOES bring it up to you, tell him the same thing, about how there are all kinds of families, and no one kind of family is inherently better than all the others. You may not have chosen to be a single parent, but you ARE a family, and you just do everything you can to do right by each other now.
Reply:To me, it don't matter. In a way, it's much harder when there are two. Conflicts on how to raise the kid. Yours...you have the power to shape your kid in your way without the interruption of other people. Raise him good %26amp; you'll have someone who'll love you forever.
Reply:Life is hard, single parenting is just an addition to that, I applaud the courage of anyone who can raise a child by themselves. Your son is just going to accept the fact that he has no father, whether he does or doesn't get a male role model to look up to, it really does not matter. It doesn't matter the gender or the quantity of parents, it's the quality, and as long as your loving and compassionate with him, I'm sure he'll be raised to become a great adult. :)
Reply:The first thing I would look at is the age of your child and their level of maturity. As this would establish how you will approach the subject.





I would reinforce the fact that being raised by one parent is NEVER a bad thing, and that the child will receive the same LOVE and affection, as those from a two parent family. The only thing which might be a problem is the child’s questions about their child's father and why he is not around?





I would suggest that if the father is not around because he is a 'waste of space' then I wouldn't share that feeling with the child. The reason being is that, if the child lives with that impression of his father, then they will automatically hold a grudge against him, without actually making that decision for themselves.





If the father is bad news, then the child will learn that, and will thank his mother for allowing him/her to reach that decision on their own.