Single, like forever?

I have been single for AGES and it doesn't look like that's gonna change anytime soon. I believe in taking it as it comes, and when you're least looking, that's when someone will turn up, however, I always go out for a good time with the girls, and that's what I get.





Whenever I moan about being single, my friends say, "well you aren't really looking, are you?"





I don't want to go out with the intention of looking for a man, in case I am truly disappointed, and referring back to what I said earlier, it always comes round when you are least looking.





Anyone else find themselves in a similar situation?

Single, like forever?
me, too. I am a model, have long, endless legs and look neat. I got constantly hit on my man who want a one night stand. I started doubting I ever got a decent man at all. Ah, and if you start "looking", these men interpret "looking for a man" as "looking for some no strings attached sex". I have been there, done that. First they hit on you and wonder "how come someone like you can't get a man", then when they get that it's not just a put in-take out you are looking for (plenty of those around), they disappear. If you find out how to avoid that, let us all know.
Reply:oh yeah me too
Reply:Well for one thing do you smile? coz depressed looking girls are a no-go for a nice chat.


besides that your looks might be abit intimidating or vice versa.


Just act friendly( thats if your not) and guys will find it easier to approach you.


theres a saying "girls with a frown, leave her down. girls with a smile, will bare your child"
Reply:of course you don't have to chase love but a bit of an effort is needed here. One needs to show men that she's available for them, if you act like you don't care, no man will ever approach you. Plus if you like someone maybe you should do the first move in a feminine way of course. good luck. Mind you, being single for a long time gives habits and reduces the probability of finding someone. Be vailable . GOOD LUCK !
Reply:It's true that you are more likely to find someone if you are not specifically looking for someone unless you meet a man who is also looking for someone, the problem there is that you go out with each other for the wrong reasons.





However, while still not looking you need to expand your circle of friends, if all you ever do to socialise is to go out with the girls then when do you give a chance for the tall, dark, handsoem man to meet you.





Try branching out to try some new hobbies, you go there for something to do and make some new friends, if you're lucky you'll meet someone with a similar passion in amongst them all.





It worked for me and i found the perfect person; having been single for an extremely long time and believeing i wouldn't find anyone unless i "looked".
Reply:I have been into your situation for so long until i found myself looking for one. And because i rushed in finding someone, that put me into a bad situation. To cut the long story short, i met the wrong man and until now i am still suffering with my actions. So, may i suggest that just be patient and don't rush. For sure God created someone who is meant for you alone. You just have to wait for the right time you'll gonna meet him. Pray for God's guidance to help you find The One.
Reply:Yes, I've given up looking, not that I ever went out to look either. So much so I'm rubbish at it now, every now and then I do try, and it does work, but the men bore me with their standard chat up lines. Its like a game to them, and I'm bored playing.





So where does that leave me or you? Its frustrating, I feel like a fool waiting for 'thunderbolts' that I'm beginning to think don't exist (is that what I get from reading too much fiction?) I'm sure men feel the same way, maybe there are thousands of single people who are bored playing games with each other? You never know.
Reply:i was single for a very long time, and i thought the same as you then when i was least expecting it i started talking to someone and there was just a sudden spark like nothing ive ever had before and now me and my spouse have been happy for a long time and will be for a long time to come im sure, just stick it out and trust your instincts that something will come it will be alot better than if you go looking for guys numbers on nights out
Reply:Actually, for me I enjoy sharing a warm relationship with my partner. However, if he was not in my life, it would be less interesting, but I have never actively sought a partner. It just began as sharing a lunch table in a crowded deli, we began a conversation, and agreed to try to share lunch together again. I was 3 pr 4 days before we connected again, and I enjoyed his openness, his self appreciation, his sophisticated humor, and his good grooming. We exchanged phone numbers, and it was I who phoned him and asked him if would be interested in seeing a particular movie I had been wanting to see. He was interested in that movie as well, and we just became more comfortable with each other with each social participation. We both knew we liked each other, but I wanted to truthfully aware of his past picadillos, I was not embarassed to expose mine. Before I decided I thought I'd like to have a sexual relationship with him, I explained that we would go together to the Public health clinic and be tested for std's We were both clean, but I still insisted that we use condoms. At first he was reluctant, but I was adamant about that. I did not, and still not want to reproduce a life, nor get genital herpes, HIV, or Hep.C. Now our use of condoms is routine, and when the time is right, I roll one over his penis. Sometimes I get "stimu ribs" and turn them inside out so he can experience the benefits of the rubber ridges. Sometimes I buy colored condoms, or flavored condoms, and we both enjoy the prelude to sexual activity. Just understand that one day, you will make a connection with a guy, but please, don't patronize him. Most secure males I know appreciate intellect, spontaniety, romantic weekend in some nice affordable hotel or motel, sometimes I wear pasties on my nipples under a sheer chamise. He really likes that, but I make him wait for those occasions. Sometimes we find a dark deep doorway in some building, and have a quickie in the doorway. Use your immaginaton. We are monogmous with each other, but it' s choice not an expectation. So, hang in there kiddo. Today may be the day.

















actua
Reply:Everyone has their off season.Just be yourself and think positively.Act as if you have a bf.Guys will start to pay attention.
Reply:No because I don't go out with the girls, but seriously you will find it in the most unlikely of places..
Reply:i really had no intention of getting hooked onto someone (personal feeling), trying to get my studies and my sport into stablization





yea, but you're right, whats meant to b will in the end be just like what they always tell me, 'things happen when you least expect it)





gd luck!