Single parents are you there?

I am a single mum with three boys aged 1-5 years.


I cannot see my future in this world with and without them. Do I hurt them being with a toxic person(a man) how to get rid of it how to be stronger how to be happy being single?

Single parents are you there?
I was a single mom of 3 kids for a long time. I understand what you are going through!!! First of all love yourself and your kids more and dump the toxic person. You feel lonely for adult attention and affection but he will only hurt you and the kids. When my kids were younger, like yours, everyone always told me, "enjoy them now because they grow up so fast". I would roll my eyes and think yeah right I am going to be changing diapers and running behind them to make sure they don't fall or put something in their mouths for the rest of my life. (don't get me wrong, I love my kids and always have it was just dificult being a single mom) I was young myself, lonely, and felt as though I would never have an independent adult life. Boy was I wrong. My kids are getting older (14, 12, 10) and I have a hard time getting them to spend anytime with me. They TRUELY did grow up fast and now sometimes I wish I could rewind. You will have your adult time, I promise. Just love those kids and make as many memories as you can for yourself and them. Something else that is very important to remember: You DON'T have to have a man to have a family. You and your kids are your family and if you put them first the man (a good one) will come eventually when the time is right. I just got engaged yesterday to a wonderful man. My kids and I have great memories way before he came into the picture. You don't wanna look back on your childrens childhood and remember how sad you were. You wanna look back and be proud of how well you did for yourself and for them.
Reply:it is a difficult situation being a mom and wanting to have a relationship for yourself.





I would try to get to know the guy outside my home; I would not allow my kid to know this individual until I feel comfortable with this person.





Dont let this person move in.
Reply:ok. firstly not all men are toxic. if you believe you deserve a better type of man then that is what you attract. be more discerning in your type of man you go for. dont let your children think all men are the same and bad ppl or you'll be doing your children a diservice. you do what you have to do to become stronger. get a little education, do something that makes you happy. if your children see you happy then they will be happy. you need to learn to love your own company instead of relying on others. that way if you do meet a man who isnt right for you it wont bother you dumping him to return to your own company.
Reply:get rid of the guy, you will find things alot easier without him. i know it seems like a horrible thought looking after your children on your own, but u can do it join groups that u can take your children to an make new friends. but don't stay with this guy u an your children deserve better good luck Hun
Reply:i have alittle boy and i bring him up on my own! put there safety first, you are strong you just haven't realised it, you have brought 3 baby's in to this world that's a big achievement! no woman needs a man! its if you want a man!?
Reply:Get rid of the toxic guy quit dating because you do not pick men well.Your FIRST responsibility is to your kids NOT your love life.What are you teaching your boys about women and how men shouldtreat them? When they are grown up THEN start dating.If you wont wait then get your tubes tied and no more shacking.
Reply:the effects must surely come. probably in the future. so mind who u choose as a partner.
Reply:You know, my sister is a single mom and she is the most amazing mom there is. However, I don't think you have to be single for the rest of your life. You need to go out and date. Have a live outside raising your kids. You don't have to bring the man around your kids until you completely trust him (or never).
Reply:i think u know u shouldn't be with him else y ask the question, be on your own for a while someone good will come along. i,m single mum with 4 kids and i know that its best to be happy alone than unhappy with the wrong man
Reply:no idea its something you have to decide
Reply:If you are with a loser get rid of him fast because your boys are leaning to treat women the way he is treating you.....Go back to school %26amp; further your education so you can financially take care of your children with no help.....It can be done....I did it!
Reply:im not but my mum has been single just 4 us, me and my sister she didnt want us to get hurt in anyway she waited till we were big enough, ur children are still young they need ur love and all ur attention, take good care of them when u see them happy u'll feel happy and stay strong be a good mum and proud of urself that ur not letting them down in anyway, men are plenty out there, dont rush into anythin most of them will just want to use u, i know alot of my mums friends who are single and happy, when ur ready u can date again ,in whatever u do stay strong and work hard to take care of them. God bless u!
Reply:Yes of course it would affect your kids being with a person like that. You have to take into consideration your kids when you are out looking for a partner.............
Reply:there no reason why being single has to be a bad thing, it can be a new start or an escape from something that simply wasn't good for you, if you think this man is in any way bad for you or your children then i would suggest removing him from your life but only you can make that decision





always remember that there is someone who loves you even if you don't know it!!!





keep your chin up and good luck!!!!
Reply:il be honest im a single mom and have not dated anyone since his dad n i split when he was tiny. you dont need a guy in your life to be happy you need to rely on your self and your kids to rely on u !!


there still young are your kids im not saying its easy because im just as emotional as the next person sometimes i do think how have i managed to come this far on my own but then i get a snotty kiss from my baby an i love you mum and i know that everything we have been thru is worth it no man could ever make me as happy as seeing my lil boys face you get used to being single. have u thought u could be suffering from postnatal depression?? your youngest is 1 year old i would go to the doctors an talk to them or your health visitor
Reply:I see you dilemma, I have been single for 3 years now with 3 kids, aged 5, 10 and 12 and am quite happy on my own, but I feel if I don't meet anyone not only with I get any sex again lol but the kids won't see their mum having a normal relationship with a man (we can decide not to choose the toxic ones)





I think if they see us happy in a relationship they will want that for themselves but if they see us choose tossers they will probably be like that too.





I think you should meet a nice man.





Good luck xxx

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