Single Parent dating- what can I expect?

I'm a divorced single mother with 4 children aged 12-19 - Im 42, and I am finacially stable.


I am dating a divorced p/t single father of 2, for 3 years. We live 3 blocks apart.


My question is about expectations.


My b/f says that I have too large of expectations of him- saying that I have been imposing selfish demands on him when I ask him to do small favours for me. An example would be asking him to assist me shoveling my snow, or raking my yard. ( he rents and doesn't have to do these at his place) He becomes "offended" at my requests for help, stating that hes my lover not my slave. He in turn, doesn't ask help rom me.


I think I do not I ask much of him- and find it incredible that he doesn't see my burdens or needs and offer more assistance on his own. I find myself growing resentful, because after 3 years I would think he would be more "in" my life and simply want to assist me. He says he only wants to help me when he chooses to.


Am I expecting too much?

Single Parent dating- what can I expect?
I don't think those chores are something that he should be expected to do, but it would be a nice gesture. I have no doubt I would've asked my boyfriend for help with tasks. I don't think you're unreasonable in asking, as long as you know he has the right to decline.





I think that when it comes to messes he contributed to (such as dirty dishes), he should most definitely help clean.
Reply:I think you need to let this guy go, He already told you; he is your Lover... I dont think you should expect more than that. HE wants to have the sex but doesnt want to put more into the relationship. Helping someone you've dated for 3 years shovel snow or rake leaves should, at this point, be something you enjoy doing together. step back and look hard at the relationship and where you want it to go.
Reply:I say don't waste any more time on him. He should care more about you than that. If he really loved you he would want to help you more. Life is too short find someone who is there for you when you need them; not when it's convenient.
Reply:No, you're not expecting too much! But it sounds like you're expecting too much from him. Did his exwife bully him or something or is he just lazy? Wow. Find a real guy! He sounds like a jerk. I'm sorry. I hope you find someone better. They're out there. Good luck and best wishes.
Reply:He is a jacka**. You may as well dump him now.
Reply:he's in his 40's ...known you for 3 years and if there is no ring ..there will never be one ....he just dosent feel like a part of your family and i dont think he wants to be ...he sees you as someone he wants to have fun with


guess you dont have to figure out why his wife left him huh
Reply:Perhaps you should make that ex-lover.


This guy has the ideal situation: he gets the cow, but he doesn't have any responsibilities in taking care of it, nor does it look like he wants to.





I think that you should re-evaluate your relationship with this man.