Whats the real definition of a "single mother?

I have been taking care of my one year old son by myself with no help at all from the father. He has never held his son, played with him, fed him a bottle, and so on. Basically I get no type of assistance at all. In my opinion that makes you a single mother.





Why do females that either get child support or some type of help from the father meaning diapers, toys, or as much as a day out with the child consider themselves to being single mothers when technically theyre not doing it ALL by themselves. Is it because they are not with the father and are single or what?





This may sound weird but it pisses me off when a female with ANY type of assistance from the father always runs around complaining about being a single mother when in reality single means one, as in one parent doing EVERYTHING by themselves.





When will they realize that they get it sooo much better than us true single mothers and shut up complaining when they at least got one pack of diapers when we never got any?

Whats the real definition of a "single mother?
a single mother- is a hero, an angel, the hardest worker in the world, the most important people in the world too, because without them we would have more dysfuntional children out there.
Reply:ooooh weeeeeeeeeee gurl i am with you on that note. a single mother is someone who is doin it on their own. but it is nothin wrong with gettin some help. like from a friend or a loved one to watch them.......so you can have a break. every single mother needs a break...well even the ones who are not. it's just funny when you know someone who claims they are a single mother...and they are not. i know quite a few. they like to brag about all what they are doing...and what little their babbys daddys are doing. they are still considered as single parents...because they are the person responsible for that child...there is shelter..there is food...there is clothes...there is wipes...there is teething rings...there is baby finger nail clippers...hell you know what i'm talkin about. that stuff add up...and someone has to pay for it. it is nothing wrong with gettin help for your child...and help for you. it's hard being a single mother...but the rewards will come in the end. keep your head up. to all the single mothers out there...its gonna be aite. and to all the dead beat fathers...........grow the hell up!
Reply:Golf clap.


"We never got any"


Golf clap


You made a choice to create a baby without being married to a man. You have to live with that choice and whatever labels come with it. You sound bitter. Don't pass that along to your child. Stop the cycle now. The world will be a better place if more people would do the right thing and stop crying about what they are "entitled" to based on their lifestyle choices.
Reply:Oh you poor thing! I think a single mother is somone (a mother) who doesn't have a husband, and has to take care of the child for the majority of the time. I think that it is really unfair to the single mothers who's exes don't take care of the kid at all. Good luck
Reply:A single mother is a woman who has never been married and has a child or children. Someone who has been married before and has children is a divorced mother.


I wish you would not be so bitter - you are bound to transmit this to your child. Hope you have support from family and friends, at least, and that you have realized the mistake you made is affecting both of you profoundly.
Reply:I am a single mother of three, I get child support only when the court system drags my ex into court on a warrant, threatens to put him in jail if he doesnt make a payment right then and there, usually around $100 give or take a 20. I have no free time, no alone time, I am with my kids 24/7 365 for the most part. So you would be pissed off that i call myself a SINGLE mother because I recieve some type of support? The army should change their slogan, beause being a single mother IS the toughest job you will ever do. There are millions of us out there, and each situation is a little different. I am sorry that you have no help at all, but you have options as far as support if you choose to exercise them. Sounds like you are more mad at your son's father than anyhing, and are misdirecting that resentment at people who are struggling just as much as you are. You chose that man to lay down with, just like I chose mine. We all live with our decisions, whether they be stupid or not. I would not trade my children for all the money on earth, they are my joy. Quit fighting a phantom battle, ANY single mother goes thru struggles, and hard times, and we all hate to see our kids miss out on things they should have (fathers that give a damn) but we sure shouldn't be bashing one another on top of it. I wish you and your son the best wishes possible, and many blessings. Enjoy him, and know we might not all have it as rough as you, but we all have it rough.
Reply:Well, I suppose you are right about that one. But you are further muddying up the water. See, "single mother" is a term originally snapped up by "unwed" mothers who could disguise their pre-marital uncommitted sex with those others who maybe were divorced or widowed. So the term single mother was exploited to disguise the unwed mothers.





The use of the term has never been tied to support, but it seems to me by so doing, you will pull away the veil and open yourself up to the question of "where's the daddy".
Reply:Sorry. The definition of a single mother in an unmarried woman who is not living with a man. You just have it worse than most. Be proud of what you have accomplished. The bitterness will only eat at your heart and soul.
Reply:You are correct in your feelings. The word single however is applied only because the woman or the man is not married(as in my case).
Reply:I define a single mother a women who takes care of there child alone with the father not being apart of there life... But i also say women who has children and the fathers are not with the mother a single mother.. I get what your saying and i would be one pissed off person too luckly my babies daddy is in our llifes... but yes a single women with a child is considered a single mother because she is single wether the father is apart of there life or not... In actual reality....
Reply:im a single mother,i have a son and i think a single mother is a women who takes care of her kids either all by herself or mostly by herself,because even though the dad might be helping a little the majority of the responsibility is on the mother,some of us have it worser like you,my babyfather comes by once every few months or sometimes never for about 10 minutes for nothing,my son dont even know him foreal, i never get anything from him.no money or nothing,i dont want chiild support because thats forced money i feel if he chooses to be worthless and dont help he can be gone,this dude comes to visit with new clothes and things on and aint never got my son a thing,so im with you girl but dont let it get to you, but i dont care because i can do it on my own.basically we have to care for them, most fathers just visit and be on there way so i say we all are strong for this whether some get a little help or some like me and you dont its still are responsibilty because when the men are gone its up to us to still raise our kids.imma tell you something when some ask why dont i care if i get help----because my son is making me stronger and in the long run they are the ones missing out not our babys.so girl dont let single mothers that get help piss you off because there struggling too, maybe not as much but remember that man can run out and shes stuck with it on her own.none of us should be complaining at all because whether were struggling alittle or alot we decided to make these babies and we knew that it could be a chance that the dude woudnt be there.so be happy.be strong. to all singlemothers be proud of yourselves we can do this on our own!
Reply:dont know, but ill try it to know what's the feeling and definition of it.