Why are single mothers so ignorantly insulted so often?

I am single. Had my son when I was 18, he's now 7. Save the "should have kept legs closed" deal. No-not on welfare. I have raised my son. And he is an outstanding, kind, polite, respectful, intelligent boy. He does great in school, respects his elders, and will not grow up to be a "gang member". I feel that I have done a wonderful job. Children who have behaviour problems who happen to come from a single home are said to be this way because of the lack of a father. I am confident in saying that my son is better behaved and has been raised with as much, if not more, love and attention than many children who come from two parent homes. One parent who dedicates their life to the well being of their child is more capable than two parents who do not put 100% effort into the raising of their child/children. If a child has behaviour problems, comes from a two parent home - then people try to "figure out" why they are having these problems. This is not given to children of "single" home

Why are single mothers so ignorantly insulted so often?
Congrats on being a good mom. Asking this question shows the pride you have for mothering your child. It sounds like you are doing just fine. People will always talk -- we are all only human. Not listening, or focusing on the negative stuff is up to you.
Reply:Stereotypes never do anyone any justice. Being a child of both parents or a single parent does not equal bad or good parent on either part. Their are plenty of parents who share raising a child with either a spouse or partner and do a terrible job just as some single parents are wonderful parents that does not stop some single parents being terrible and visa versa. Everyone should be judged on the parent they are not their partner status. If your a single parent and are doing a wonderful job raising your child good for you but its not always the case and sadly the media only highlight the bad ones. I don't see any headlines saying "Single mum raising child on her own, working paying tax's" Only "Single mum get dole handout, council house using your tax's" But then a story like yours is not news.


Just take solace in the fact that anyone with half a brain knows stereotypes are just that and treat people on a one to one basis. Keep up the good work I'm sure your son is a credit to you.
Reply:If the "facts" are as you state then you are the exception rather than the rule... in my personal experience and observation... more power to you ... keep on doing what you are doing with your son... If he dose not have close male family like uncles or grandfathers, who are positive influences, then do try to get him involved in something like scouting which will give him male contact... that is needed as well.
Reply:if a woman isn't serving a man in some capacity people look for ways to denigrate her and yes that makes them ignoramouses
Reply:you need to wait until your son has a girlfriend.. or goes to school with other kids.. thats whos gonna influence him... especially his girlfriend.. he'll be needing to get money to take er out.. and will probable go to parties and get high and drunk.. and drive... and get into fights.. and when his girl breaks up with him.. he'll be mad.. and want to beat her,, and do drugs to forget.... so, it only beggining.. .life is long.....
Reply:Because it's easier to judge what you don't understand.





Single moms who are trying to make a better life for their families are my heroes. It is difficult to raise children with two parents, so for a mom or a dad who is trying to be both roles for their children, my hat is off to you!!
Reply:Answer to your question is because people are just plain ignorant. Single mothers are often insulted just as people of different nationalities, different races, different sexualities, etc. Just ignore them and pat yourself on the back for a job well done! :) You deserve it!
Reply:Because they're looking at the odds.The odds of a child getting into trouble are greater when they're being raised by a single parent(especially if they're Black or Spanish) then if they are raised in a two-parent home.There are successes and failures on both sides,but I live in Chicago-the faliures on the single mother side greatly outnumber the ones on the two parent side.This is a Black man answering this question,by the way.
Reply:Kudos to you on being a great parent and taking the responsibility.


I am a stepmom and it seems the mother who has full custody isn't that involved with her kids. I'll give you a for instance, if you haven't spent much time with your children in a week, would you go out camping with a friend? You know that you will not see them for another full week. She's 35. This is normal. She does this pretty often actually. She does seem clueless so it's probable that she has no idea what she's actually doing to her kids.